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Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Responder what is YOUR point? (Wednesday May 14 | post #1023)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Talk about being bitter - that is like the pot calling the kettle black Responder! (Wednesday May 14 | post #1022)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Again, my question for you is one of I need help in finding funding for my child who's father is deceased to help support her thru college. Where do I turn? Should I sue the State of Missouri for discrimination against children of deceased parents? Social Security is government, but the State of Missouri is also making continuing child support a government issue, the State differs from most of the States in the USA. If we must continue paying child support, then any financial help for my daughter from me will be none, as SS stops at age 18. Is that fair to her? (Tuesday May 13 | post #1007)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
You are right Responder, there are dynamics that are not atypical...as the law reads, it lumps all NCP in the same boat. All might just be surprised that most cases are atypical. No one wants to give the NCP the benefit of the doubt. Child support should cease when the child turns 18 or graduates from high school. Again, most NCP & CP will help with college, but should not be forced. You seem to do a lot of "research " what type of support is out there for a child who's Social Security death benefits cease when they turn 18 or graduate from high school, if they choose to attend college? That is my only gripe, Social Security stops, then why shouldn't child support...what makes the child of divorce different from a child who as lost a parent? Are they more special? I have been on all 3 sides of this issue, received CS, child has lost a parent, and paying CS. CS is necessary and should be paid, but only until the child is 18 or graduates from high school. Any help with my question? (Tuesday May 13 | post #1005)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
The statue as it reads now indicates that if they have failing grades, do not take the required hours, then child support ceases. You indicate that he shouldn't worry about the rest yet continue to pay child support. Where does this end? The child can do as they please in college as long as they go, and still receive support. That is teaching them nothing except they "are entitled" to a hand out from both parents NCP & CP. In your first sentence you say the child is in tune with the parents financial well being or lack of...which is it, both should help or the NCP should continue to be forced to pay support for a child that is now a young adult, graduated from high school or 18. As before I believe that most and I say most parents, would help if the child wishes to further their education, but I stand firm in my belief that the laws of Missouri concerning child support are wrong...again what about my child who's social security death benefit ends when she turns 18. Social Security doesn't continue if she goes to college. Child support should cease when the child turns 18 or graduates from high school. (Friday May 9 | post #973)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
I believe that every parent wants the best for their child, no matter what age they are. They are still your children, but that does not mean they should not learn that for every action there is a reaction, continuing with child support after the age of 18, or graduation from high school, only reinforces the idea that they can do as they please, party it up, have bad grades, skip classes, and the money is still being paid. As a parent who helps with expenses there is still come control over actions. "If you don't have passing grades, I will not continue to financially help you". Consequences for actions. No different than when they turn 10 if you don't clean your room, you don't get to watch TV, or when they are 16, if you don't keep your grades up, no car. But as the law is now, the NCP continues to be forced to pay no matter what the child does if they attend college. Child support should cease at the age of 18 or graduation from high school. Both parents should help if financially possible if the child decides to attend college. That is what loans, scholarships, grants, etc. are for. Child support should cease at the age of 18 or graduation from high school. (Friday May 9 | post #967)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
He is a parent who is forced to continue paying child support, when he had no decision in where she attended, etc. This is where is is totally unfair to force the NCP to continue paying child support after high school graduation or the age of 18. He said it himself, she is deceptive in order for him to continue paying. This is not right, child support should cease when your child becomes the age of accountablity in the eyes of the State; which is 18. (Friday May 9 | post #965)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
And another thing, I received child support from my ex-husband, when my oldest turned 18, (and went to college) I didn't not force him to continue to pay, he helped when he could. Yes, he had another family too, I was the type of ex-wife that thought more about the entire family, and how it affected my child. She is grateful that I took that stance, as her dad, step-mom, sister, and our family are close. To me that means more than the money, the happiness of the child. (Wednesday May 7 | post #937)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
I am grateful for people like you that chose to be in the military to fight for our freedom, and our right to freedom of speech. Responder doesn't get what we are trying to say. I am not talking about feeding kids when they are 10, I am talking just as you about 18 year olds being responsible for their path in life. That does not mean that the NCP should have to continue to pay. My child is going to go into pre-med, and will have to get scholarships,loans and a job to pay for college. Where as my step-son, wants to be a mechanic and attend trade school. (Nothing wrong with being a mechanic) so while the child that wants pre-med has to work extra, so we can continue paying CS for the mechanic. If we weren't forced to continue to pay support, we could HELP both. (Wednesday May 7 | post #936)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
No he was not in the military, it was cancer, are there benefits to help her because of that? Once the adults are in college, why should the NCP have to continue to help the CP with mortgage, utilities, etc? (Wednesday May 7 | post #935)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Responder...you just said it here yourself...MOST families help out with those expenses. Helping doesn't mean the exact $ amount every month. It means HELPING... What about my child who's father died when she was 18 months old...the government is not going to HELP her when she reaches the age of 18, she will have to get scholarships, loans, and a job. While we continue to pay the same amount every month to the CP of my husband's children so they can continue their education. That is crap, anyway you look at it. The money won't even go to them it will go to the EX or as you put it the 1st wife, to do with as she pleases. That isn't helping it is called sticking it to the NCP. While my child is learning to stand on her own, learning that if you want something in life, you have to earn it. She will be the better person for it. Not having it handed to her thinking someone still owes her. That's life and when having to work for something makes you appreciate it; kids learn just exactly what their parents do for them and the sacrifices that are made for them. Life isn't easy, I love my kids, continuing to support them after high school, does not constitute as love, it is enabling them. I never said I wouldn't help my kids, his kids, or our kids, but part of being an adult is learning the value of a dollar. Child support should cease at the age of 18, or graduation from high school. (Wednesday May 7 | post #928)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Social Security stops at age 18. Doesn't matter if they go to college or not. Why should the laws make the NCP continue to pay support if the Government stops support for children who's parent is deceased? Child support should cease at 18 or after graduation from high school. (Monday May 5 | post #866)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
If the NCP is behind, then yes, support should continue until it is current. (Wednesday Apr 30 | post #845)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
Thank you for your support, others just seem to be idiots. (Wednesday Apr 30 | post #844)
Missouri child-support law change touches many issues
I am with you, I have the same situation and to add to mine, my middle child's father died when she was 18 months old, and Social Security stops when she is 18 or graduates from high school. That is the way child support should be also. Very few states continue CS after high school or past the age of 18 which ever may come first. (Tuesday Apr 29 | post #840)
