Moroccan men and marriage

Why is it that nearly every Moroccan man I've met or know of is either divorced/separated, or on their second marriage?
My Moroccan husband and I have recently separated. He walked out but blames himself, not me. His behavior has been exceptionally arrogant and selfish. He's terrible with money and isn't really a responsible person unless it's to benefit himself. He also has a terrible addiction to contacting strange women on the internet and referring to them as "darling", "beautiful" and saying he loves them. It's caused me no end of upset, but he seems unable to stop. He says they're just friends. I thought muslim men didn't have friendships with women once they've married.
Although he's moved out he's left most of his belongings for now, and is still in contact with. He said he wants to keep in touch with me; come over sometimes for a coffee and a chat.
I'm so confused about him - and Moroccan men in general. I'm British of Caribbean origin and I never converted to Islam.

hey all i can say that not all the Moroccan are the same , maybe this is one of the guys tht just looking for a girl from another country cuz all wat they need to leave Moroccon and live in europe or usa , they think its paradise there , there is no relation between his behavior and islam , cuz if he was a good Muslim , he wud be with ya right now , and not chatting to other girls online , so all i can say , just try to find a real man tht will realy care and love u for who u are , not as business affair , anyone they are many good Moroccan too , but not all of them are the same ....people are gtting divorced cuz they found out tht the different of their culure and religion is so hard and cant bear it without knowing it well ,.... i hope i helped a bit , but just to let ya know , im Moroccan , but we are not all the same

Mrs Moroccan London wrote:

Why is it that nearly every Moroccan man I've met or know of is either divorced/separated, or on their second marriage?
My Moroccan husband and I have recently separated. He walked out but blames himself, not me. His behavior has been exceptionally arrogant and selfish. He's terrible with money and isn't really a responsible person unless it's to benefit himself. He also has a terrible addiction to contacting strange women on the internet and referring to them as "darling", "beautiful" and saying he loves them. It's caused me no end of upset, but he seems unable to stop. He says they're just friends. I thought muslim men didn't have friendships with women once they've married.
Although he's moved out he's left most of his belongings for now, and is still in contact with. He said he wants to keep in touch with me; come over sometimes for a coffee and a chat.
I'm so confused about him - and Moroccan men in general. I'm British of Caribbean origin and I never converted to Islam.

Hi , first I want you to know that I'm sorry for the bad experience..

If he is a muslim, he shouldn't have any relationship with stranger women. And you can't generalize and say all moroccan men are bad, in every county there's good people and bad people.

In our religion wich is Islam , we should respect women , especially our wifes , and treat them real good. If we can't get along with a wife , we should separate as good as we knew each other , and treat her good.

Again we can't judge him for what you said, we only heard your version of the story, he has the right to defend himself and explain his acts , and may Allah guide us to the straight path. Peace :)

did he get his British passport through you?

Mrs Moroccan London wrote:

Why is it that nearly every Moroccan man I've met or know of is either divorced/separated, or on their second marriage?
My Moroccan husband and I have recently separated. He walked out but blames himself, not me. His behavior has been exceptionally arrogant and selfish. He's terrible with money and isn't really a responsible person unless it's to benefit himself. He also has a terrible addiction to contacting strange women on the internet and referring to them as "darling", "beautiful" and saying he loves them. It's caused me no end of upset, but he seems unable to stop. He says they're just friends. I thought muslim men didn't have friendships with women once they've married.
Although he's moved out he's left most of his belongings for now, and is still in contact with. He said he wants to keep in touch with me; come over sometimes for a coffee and a chat.
I'm so confused about him - and Moroccan men in general. I'm British of Caribbean origin and I never converted to Islam.

Did he get his British passport through you?.

big mistake wrote:

Did he get his British passport through you?.

Yes, he did.

A moroccan man wrote:

Hi , first I want you to know that I'm sorry for the bad experience..
If he is a muslim, he shouldn't have any relationship with stranger women. And you can't generalize and say all moroccan men are bad, in every county there's good people and bad people.
In our religion wich is Islam , we should respect women , especially our wifes , and treat them real good. If we can't get along with a wife , we should separate as good as we knew each other , and treat her good.
Again we can't judge him for what you said, we only heard your version of the story, he has the right to defend himself and explain his acts , and may Allah guide us to the straight path. Peace :)

I'm not generalising but stating a fact. ALL of his previously married friends and acquaintances are on a second marriage. I used to joke that he was the odd one out. I find it rather strange myself.

How long was u married for? Report his damn arse to border force,he got what he wanted and now he moved on,why should he gain the right to stay,let them send him back to Morocco,you should be happy you dont have to put up with his shit no more,haha yep they love the net hey every site possible!

shortyb2012 wrote:

How long was u married for? Report his damn arse to border force,he got what he wanted and now he moved on,why should he gain the right to stay,let them send him back to Morocco,you should be happy you dont have to put up with his shit no more,haha yep they love the net hey every site possible!

We've been married 7 years, known each other 11 years. He got his passport over a year ago before walking out. But we're still very much in contact (saw him today in fact). He says he has no plans. Didn't plan to go but was having issues, but says it was down to him and not me.
He still wants to stay in touch and invites me out for coffee. He's also said he's been selfish and that he always left everything to me to do. But he's said he's not coming back.
I think he's confused, and even if he does want to return, his pride will stop that.

Im just saying the facts,he knows(as moroccans are very clued about visa's and the whole process,he knows all you have to do is report him for leaving you and his pappers will be taken for him,hence why he is keeping you sweet,i cant tell you about your relationship but thoses 11 years where was he living?
If you look into the visa process of how long it takes before they get there own uk passport,im am sure you will think wow he waited out his time,but you will answer all your own questions,i wrote a psot on here the other day about a lady i was speaking to who's hubbie left her and her 2 kids after he got his full uk passport and got with a Moroccan lady with no regard to his family,its very sad that people stoop so low.
Im not an expert,but the fact his got his papers now and has left you rings alarm bells to me!
And his trying to keep you onside.

Mrs Moroccan London wrote:

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We've been married 7 years, known each other 11 years. He got his passport over a year ago before walking out. But we're still very much in contact (saw him today in fact). He says he has no plans. Didn't plan to go but was having issues, but says it was down to him and not me.
He still wants to stay in touch and invites me out for coffee. He's also said he's been selfish and that he always left everything to me to do. But he's said he's not coming back.
I think he's confused, and even if he does want to return, his pride will stop that.

coffee??? tell me you dont need a cup of coffee that bad to put up with this idiot??? cut the cord and dont look back, we all lose a game here and there, pretend like he never happened.

its all true wrote:

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coffee??? tell me you dont need a cup of coffee that bad to put up with this idiot??? cut the cord and dont look back, we all lose a game here and there, pretend like he never happened.

I thought it was your "friend"...you can't keep your stories right in an anonymous public form dimwit???

thetruth huts wrote:

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I thought it was your "friend"...you can't keep your stories right in an anonymous public form dimwit???

listen, I'll buy her 9 lbs. of coffee is she stays away from that creep. What will you offer?? all the sound advice as to why the relationship didn't work because it HAD to be HER fault??

its all true wrote:

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listen, I'll buy her 9 lbs. of coffee is she stays away from that creep. What will you offer?? all the sound advice as to why the relationship didn't work because it HAD to be HER fault??

Savior syndrome…start with yourself.

thetruth huts wrote:

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Savior syndrome…start with yourself.

is this a pissing contest? I know several moroccans scamming the system..your probably doing it too..that's why you feel the need to defend them..are you legit?? how did you get here anyway?? be honest..did you hop the fence?

its all true wrote:

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is this a pissing contest? I know several moroccans scamming the system..your probably doing it too..that's why you feel the need to defend them..are you legit?? how did you get here anyway?? be honest..did you hop the fence?

Spoken like the true bigot you are...Keep up the good work!

Guys, guys stop the fight. This is my dilemma.
The truth is my husband - and we're still married, for now - may have used me for his own gains. I won't know that until later down the line. I'm having to keep an open mind about it, because I haven't any other choice.
Your views, however, are very welcome, and I thank you all.

You have choice,yet you know he played you your still obviously in love hence blind to what his doing,you knew something wasnt right to start a post about it,if your happy to let him gain Uk status of your back more fool you.Have self resect he left you,his doing stuff with other people (online only) haha wake up and smell the coffee,his no gud.

Mrs Moroccan London wrote:

Guys, guys stop the fight. This is my dilemma.
The truth is my husband - and we're still married, for now - may have used me for his own gains. I won't know that until later down the line. I'm having to keep an open mind about it, because I haven't any other choice.
Your views, however, are very welcome, and I thank you all.

What makes you think that he has, can't offer advice until more information is given.

thetruth huts wrote:

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What makes you think that he has, can't offer advice until more information is given.

See the previous answers to my original post about my husband's behaviour and him recently walking out on me.