Hard to let go...

Why is it so hard to let go sometimes?...

luv is stronger than pride ..............

Let qoute few word from "what if" by Babyface

"What if we were wrong about each other?
What if you were really made for me?
What if we was `sposed to be together?
Would that not mean anything?"

this is what makes it difficult ,you never sure hore the decision you're taking is the right one.

Fire brigade wrote:

luv is stronger than pride ..........

Nnna I'd rather lose my pride to the one I love rather than to lose her because of pride.....

Ginger94 wrote:

Why is it so hard to let go sometimes?...

it depend hore na what iz it....,surely i mst be something more important than anything else.ke eng eo??

MCHACHO wrote:

Let qoute few word from "what if" by Babyface
"What if we were wrong about each other?
What if you were really made for me?
What if we was `sposed to be together?
Would that not mean anything?"
this is what makes it difficult ,you never sure hore the decision you're taking is the right one.

i guess life or matters of the heart are always tricky, they make u act like an idiot and even tend to loose urself in the process...u try so hard to pick urself up and then face the world again....

MCHACHO wrote:

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Nnna I'd rather lose my pride to the one I love rather than to lose her because of pride.....

that is true...at the end of the you wont be left with thots of "what ifs", whether it worked out or not...

Ginger94 wrote:

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that is true...at the end of the you wont be left with thots of "what ifs", whether it worked out or not...

There lies your answer ginger. "The what if'" ke tsona tse etsang ho be thata ho tlohella.

Blaming youself also contributes.
Thinking that you are worthless because he does not love you anymore also adds up to that.

Ginger94 wrote:

Why is it so hard to let go sometimes?...

Another one is fear for the future without what you had so dearly in your heart. Fear of loneliness.

Sash_ wrote:

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Another one is fear for the future without what you had so dearly in your heart. Fear of loneliness.

i think you might be right sasha, its just toooo hard, and it doesnt mean that u r obsessing...

Ginger94 wrote:

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i think you might be right sasha, its just toooo hard, and it doesnt mean that u r obsessing...

Here is a thought for the day:

Fear of Change

"I have accepted fear as part of life - specifically the fear of change...I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back."

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought."

Our world revolves around our thoughts. Being happy or sad also depends on our thoughts.

Ginger94 wrote:

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i think you might be right sasha, its just toooo hard, and it doesnt mean that u r obsessing...

If you dwell on your blessings rather than your problems, your goals rather than your disappointments, and the people that you love rather than those who have hurt you, then you will attract more blessings, more love, and more accomplishments

it is very hard to let go,it can take months or years b4 u let go esp of things u were whole heartely involvd wth,time is a great healer,jus be strong and let go,think positively and hev no fear for change,gud luck....

EA LIOLING.....

PALESA EA LIOLING wrote:

it is very hard to let go,it can take months or years b4 u let go esp of things u were whole heartely involvd wth,time is a great healer,jus be strong and let go,think positively and hev no fear for change,gud luck....
EA LIOLING.....

Nna have let go of my mother's passing because I cannot change it.

How much time is it going to heal me?

I can live the next 50 years but she will still be part of me.

Hence I said “If you dwell on your blessings rather than your problems, then you will attract more blessings.

My point is that start now to let go because you will regret after 5 years that why you still held to the past.

Sash_ wrote:

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Nna have let go of my mother's passing because I cannot change it.
How much time is it going to heal me?
I can live the next 50 years but she will still be part of me.
Hence I said “If you dwell on your blessings rather than your problems, then you will attract more blessings.
My point is that start now to let go because you will regret after 5 years that why you still held to the past.

i lost my brother 15 yrs bek,never thought i will let go,bt thnks god,im at peace with his death,time healed me a lot,it depends on individuals 4 how long wud they be healed

EA LIOLING.....

PALESA EA LIOLING wrote:

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i lost my brother 15 yrs bek,never thought i will let go,bt thnks god,im at peace with his death,time healed me a lot,it depends on individuals 4 how long wud they be healed
EA LIOLING.....

Nna have lost her in 2010 and had let go already.

I count my blessings. Getting pain makes you understand the pain of others.

However, I do not promote instances where you cry about someone who does not love you anymore because they got what they wanted and they decided it is time for them to move on.

Men and women do it. It depends on what they wanted at the time. I refuse to be a victim. I carry myself up and move on. I may have been fooled but it is ok , hey.

Way to go Sash…

I m dumfounded in this thread coz for me its really easy…what is not meant for me is simply not meant to be AND what is meant to be, will be…case closed. No headaches…if I m in an affair I see my partner perhaps not happy, I feel bad AND always come up with options;

1. A Proposal to her; give her some space to decide what’s important in her life…more often than not their response will be ‘Hell No! you crazy?’

2. Reassure them that much as it will hurt to loose her, she has a choice…she must consider her happiness first. I then offer her the option to either STAY OR GO…that hurts to some coz they interpret that to imply that I don’t love ‘em enough. The critical question for me is, how do you love someone AND not want to make her/his happiness your priority…if she’s not happy with you why force stay???
Just last week, I received a mobile text from my galfrnd at night around 10pm that says…’I cant take it anymore, its over’. Wow! I then get back to her AND say ‘its OK hun, if that’ll make you happy. The last thing I want is for you to be unhappy and you know that’. I thot it was case closed, the next morning I get another text ‘hun! I m so sori…pls forgive me. I m just frustrated that I m not getting enough of your time’– she’s still madly inlove with me AND that’s what I want…I don’t need mercy love from no woman.

...if she's not happy yhy force her to stay...

MOANANONG wrote:

...if she's not happy yhy force her to stay...

there is no point rili in forcing someone to love you cos really it wont work!
There are a lot of people out there whom we are yet to meet and out of the lot, there is one who will be ur prince charming / princess.let urself see what else is there besides what u have always known. U might find that u actually love it...dont over -do it or feel pressured.
Healing all depends on how positively you look at the world and gradually letting go of the anger,bitterness and frustrations...

HEALING; for ME its accepting the fact that someone out there is meant for me...maybe not the current woman. A woman meant for me will fulfill me AND I will fulfill her if I m meant for her...case closed.