Beautiful Ethiopian lady

I am proud Ethiopian born and raised in Addis before I leave Ethiopia for further Educations, one of my family member advised me that I need to find a beautiful Ethiopian lady and I agreed and dated this gril almost for a year and then engaged and left Ethiopia then after a few years of struggle about two years, God helped me and I brought her to USA, and we started a good life and we have two children and we are still kind of young and healthy, here is what it bother me about this girl..

Never initiate sexual intimacy; it has to come from me. I had to beg her to have sex, first I taught this is something to do with our culture, but she always say no, I have to play a lot with my hand in order to get it, now I don’t understand even when she is telling me no, I don’t take it serously for me no means yes..
Seriously, I am struggling

Sometime when I am tired of her behavior and stop begging and then I see a behavior change, she got mad and glass broken etc and kind of weird behavior… At that time, I realized that she needs sex and I sex her. When we had it, she enjoyed it, What is it?

I got a lot of issues to discuss about our sister, I am kind of in darkness, we are deeply rooted Christians peoples but I am suffering here..

- It could be cultural. She likes you but is bound by a passive culture. Some women from that culture are raised to never, ever reveal their sexuality. You have to make it your fault she had sex. its cultural. Learn to enjoy it. I actually like women like that.

- it could be physical. It could hurt her. check. If so see a doctor.

- She might not like you. No emotional attachment and she hates it. Find out and fix the problem.

- You probably are a bad lover who never satisfy her. Instead of getting emotionally hurt she tries to avoid everything. Check.

- She probably don't want more babies. Check.

Hey you are still a good guy! baging to have it,
I wonder what's up with her?! Really she is a lucky lady!! ha, ha,..

First of all, this generation is not back ward as those days of our mother's (poor them). A girl or married lady ask what she want from her lover. However, my trained is the revers; here i am the one who suffers. I am married and have 6 months cute boy. As per our culture after you gate birth we should wait 45 days to start sex and i was eager to reach that day but still now as i said it is 6 months i tried my best to tell to hubby to have sex but no sex!!!(by the way b4 he was the one who asks & get). After that i am really worried why he doesn't want it but here i didn't ask him why cos. i don't want to hear any negative reply. So inside it is eating me, hurting, stress, tension..headache all these things are on me. don't you think i am poor one.
Sorry for naging u about my story.

Hope you get solution sooner!

this is funny

i dont think it is the culture cuz i sure dont act like that.....

Show her your feeling and let her alone, she will come to you soon. Dont play long, least you may loose your desire before she become eager. It is intense love, I like such a girl.

well I read all you guys responses thanks however I am convinced that it is a culture, most of the time, they don't ask for it but they will show you by their act, I beg her and then I get it, I enjoy it, and I make her scream, I gave the experience she never had before, and she loved it but she never ask for it.. she never ask never.. I beg when I want it then..

I is amazing!!! sometime on purpose I pretend that I don't need it but I see her upset, but she did not tell me why she was upset, why she cannot tell me she wants sex??? when I did it again she will be alright again.. Is that funny or what??

This cultural thing has to stop, I think our girls are too shy..

i change wrote:

this is funny
i dont think it is the culture cuz i sure dont act like that.....

You don't but a lot of Ethiopian women act like that. they say አል&#46 56;ጥም& #4962; So I as a man has to say ባክ&#46 69;?

Ethiopian Joe wrote:

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Never initiate sexual intimacy; it has to come from me. I had to beg her to have sex, first I taught this is something to do with our culture, but she always say no,

I got a lot of issues to discuss about our sister, I am kind of in darkness, we are deeply rooted Christians peoples but I am suffering here..

You referred to your wife as "sister".. Interesting.. You are shabia trying to mess up Ethiopia's name.

Honey don't try to politicized everything,KKKK I don't mean that way, I am talking in general, our sisters are scary cat.. they don't like to talk about their sex life..by the way I am not Eritrean I am glad, I am not one of them, I am pure Ethiopian and proud of it

There's nothing wrong with Eritreans only the ones who lie and and defame Ethiopia..
Anyways has it ever occurred to you that just because ONE woman you've been with is like that that is not representative of all Ethiopian women's behavior towards said subject?

If you want a chick who yaks on about sex get yourself american woman and leave "scary cats" alone.

Rekik wrote:

There's nothing wrong with Eritreans only the ones who lie and and defame Ethiopia..
Anyways has it ever occurred to you that just because ONE woman you've been with is like that that is not representative of all Ethiopian women's behavior towards said subject?
If you want a chick who yaks on about sex get yourself american woman and leave "scary cats" alone.

Thank you rekik for hitting the nail right on the head. Creatures like this(Joe) give bad name to the rest of the nation. I also believe he is a shabian and doesn't represent the good Eritrean people. By the way there are many of them in the Ethiopian forum. Why can't they just get off our shoulders?

Why Eritrea and Eritrean became hiding place for those Ethiopian who disagree with your social political, or economic issue, automatically I became Eritrean, I know you fail to address the real issue

Listen do not afraid, bring your point what I am telling you, it is a fact… I am Ethiopian, I know my peoples very well

Sorry I did not finish what I was going to say, no one can deny this fact, that our ladies are afraid to talk about their sexuality, it is true!

I know we were told that sex is bad.. sex is scary and etc but our childhood tale (tert-tert) still reflect in our adult life.. we don't expressed it, we don't see it, come on and it is a fact..kk

I know we Ethiopians (orthodox Christ.) have a culture that restricts to express all of our feelings in love. For example, u can’t say simply today I am in need of sex even to Ur wife/husband. Especially it is unusual to hear this kind of questions from girls so I don’t think so she can erase this bad behavior easily because it needs long time.
By the way I like such kind of behaviors even though I am among the educated ones.

Ethiopian Joe wrote:

I am proud Ethiopian born and raised in Addis before I leave Ethiopia for further Educations, one of my family member advised me that I need to find a beautiful Ethiopian lady and I agreed and dated this gril almost for a year and then engaged and left Ethiopia then after a few years of struggle about two years, God helped me and I brought her to USA, and we started a good life and we have two children and we are still kind of young and healthy, here is what it bother me about this girl..
Never initiate sexual intimacy; it has to come from me. I had to beg her to have sex, first I taught this is something to do with our culture, but she always say no, I have to play a lot with my hand in order to get it, now I don’t understand even when she is telling me no, I don’t take it serously for me no means yes..
Seriously, I am struggling
Sometime when I am tired of her behavior and stop begging and then I see a behavior change, she got mad and glass broken etc and kind of weird behavior… At that time, I realized that she needs sex and I sex her. When we had it, she enjoyed it, What is it?
I got a lot of issues to discuss about our sister, I am kind of in darkness, we are deeply rooted Christians peoples but I am suffering here

SO WHAT THE...

you guys certainly haven't been to addis in a while!

Above all I like Ethiopian culture!! Whether it is a girl or a boy, we respect merriage. I and my spouse grow in one village starting from childhood. While I was in school in Europe, she waited me for 5 years in state. No sex,... No hassile within this period, we call each other and we talk that is it. I came to USA for work and she refused to visit me for six month. I went to her uncle house and meet her, she never kissed me deep romantic way.

Which culture does this? I know in Europe, if you go for 4 month for training you have to saperet with your girl friend because you never wait each other for such short period.

We merried in 2005. I will tell you it is peace to merry with some one you know from child hood. I and my spouse enjoy every minute in life right now.

The whole point is " Merry someone in your culture!!"

Peace........

Please keep writing i am enjoying and having experience from u guys.

From some of you, especially a post from meerobi; i have spiritual jealousy you are right marry some one you know from child hood!!!.
The big point in marriage is to enjoy every minute in life... yami i never had this chance...!!

Ethiopian Joe, can't you change her slow by slow.. some of us could get used to it when we are told, thought etc. I think if you tell her she will..

Ethiopian Joe wrote:
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Never initiate sexual intimacy; it has to come from me. I had to beg her to have sex, first I taught this is something to do with our culture, but she always say no,

I got a lot of issues to discuss about our sister, I am kind of in darkness, we are deeply rooted Christians peoples but I am suffering here..

You referred to your wife as "sister".. Interesting.. You are shabia trying to mess up Ethiopia's name.

Seriously if that is an analogy you came with all on your own then you are one smart cookie. I mean there was this guy who just came in the forum randomly askin about an Ethiopian girl and his challenges with the our strict African culture....instead of advising or finding a solution to his problem you branded him 'Shabia' and there you solved the problem.. I am proud of my ignorant sis...oh yeah did you by any chance today 'accidentally' stub your toe ...dont worry it wasnt because you're too dumb to see the table in your way...IT was actually 'Shabia' that did it..no need to worry you dont need glasses.

Have a good day!

Shimeles-

You don't see it, that's okay, but if this person is of the culture why they act clueless? You did not read through, if you did you would understand.