Girl made up story of Maplewood abduction attempt, police say

When I was 10 my mom still walked me to the bus stop...
She made sure I got on and off that bus everyday.
What happen to our parenting skills here?

Parenting skills? most parents are still children themselves, without a clue as to how to parent. Just waiting in line for the welfare check. Although my parents didn't walk me to the bus stop, I had to walk to school.

Can a cost for this nonsense be assigned to the parents?
I know this is going to be terribly politically incorrect but there seems to be something of a disregard for females who are under the age of consent by some males in the latino culture. Just an observation.

Sounds like she's ready to be on the Maplewood City Council!

I believe she should have to pay back any charges that may have been assessed during the search for the make believe person. Community service or something.

Got a Life wrote:

When I was 10 my mom still walked me to the bus stop...
She made sure I got on and off that bus everyday.
What happen to our parenting skills here?

Did you stop to consider that most moms work and don't have the luxury to walk to the bus stop with their child? It has nothing to do with parenting skills-they have to work to feed and clothe their children. Don't be so quick to judge.

x0x0x wrote:

<quoted text>Did you stop to consider that most moms work and don't have the luxury to walk to the bus stop with their child? It has nothing to do with parenting skills-they have to work to feed and clothe their children. Don't be so quick to judge.

But why is a 10 year old child walking to the bus stop alone? That's asking for trouble with all the weirdos out there.
My daughter is going into eighth grade, and I STILL drive her to the bus stop every day. Her safety is more important than what's convenient for ME, ya know?

the story read: I don't think we should look at her as a bad kid or point the finger here.

i think we should, granted her being a bad kid is due to her parents, but she made the false report and the finger should be pointed at her and she be looked at as a bad kid, i do not think we should look at this as good behavior, what an odd thing to say....

Got a Life wrote:

When I was 10 my mom still walked me to the bus stop...
She made sure I got on and off that bus everyday.
What happen to our parenting skills here?

My son is 14 yrs old an he doesn't ride the bus I take him to school, he rides it home. My two older kids rode the bus to and from school, as times changed and we had to move a few times I drove them to the bus stop and sat there until the bus came.
Many times while driving around town I see little tiny kids walking all alone from the bus stop to their houses I would never do that if I was his/her parent even if I had to hire someone to walk them to and from if I wasn't about to do it I would make sure they where safe.
I don't know what parents are thinking these days
when a baby is born parents should have to take a class on common sense when it comes to safety and their children.

Deb wrote:

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But why is a 10 year old child walking to the bus stop alone? That's asking for trouble with all the weirdos out there.
My daughter is going into eighth grade, and I STILL drive her to the bus stop every day. Her safety is more important than what's convenient for ME, ya know?

Gosh, it must be so cool to sit on that oh-so-high pedestal and look down on others who have to go to work at say....6AM...7AM..so they can support their families. How INCONVENIENT of them! What a bubble head. If your neighborhood is that scary- move!

You'd think we were talking about toddlers. This is a 10 year old and millions of 10 year olds walk to their bus stops unaccompanied. Get over it!

If you had some common sense, you would just shut your uppity mouth. Ever heard of a group of kids walking to the bus stop together? My 13 year old has 12 kids at her stop and my son, it will please you to know, gets driven to school by our stay at home neighbors. But, not everyone is that lucky.

You sound like one of those scary parents anyway. If you think there are crazy people out there, be sure to include yourself in the mix.

God knows what your kids think about the real world. Are you going to walk them to class when they are in college too because there are crazy people in college and ooooooh....how about when they go to work. Gonna follow them in your minivan to be sure they don't get carjacked on the way to the office?

Crazy....crazy....crazy!!!!!!P arents just keep getting dumber and dumber.

Amberina wrote:

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My son is 14 yrs old an he doesn't ride the bus I take him to school, he rides it home. My two older kids rode the bus to and from school, as times changed and we had to move a few times I drove them to the bus stop and sat there until the bus came.
Many times while driving around town I see little tiny kids walking all alone from the bus stop to their houses I would never do that if I was his/her parent even if I had to hire someone to walk them to and from if I wasn't about to do it I would make sure they where safe.
I don't know what parents are thinking these days
when a baby is born parents should have to take a class on common sense when it comes to safety and their children.

You are delusional if you think you are protecting a child 24/7. They can climb in your windows and steal them at night. They can kidnap them from the mall. It happens all the time.

It's a fantasy to believe YOU are in control of their safety. The best you can hope for is to guide them to make the right decisions and to be aware of the dangers out there. With two parents working in every household, common sense would dictate hovering over your kids 24/7 is unhealthy and frankly, impossible.

Funny how people seem to be stuck in the 'good ole days' mindset. Those days are over.

x0x0x wrote:

<quoted text>Gosh, it must be so cool to sit on that oh-so-high pedestal and look down on others who have to go to work at say....6AM...7AM..so they can support their families. How INCONVENIENT of them! What a bubble head. If your neighborhood is that scary- move!
You'd think we were talking about toddlers. This is a 10 year old and millions of 10 year olds walk to their bus stops unaccompanied. Get over it!
If you had some common sense, you would just shut your uppity mouth. Ever heard of a group of kids walking to the bus stop together? My 13 year old has 12 kids at her stop and my son, it will please you to know, gets driven to school by our stay at home neighbors. But, not everyone is that lucky.
You sound like one of those scary parents anyway. If you think there are crazy people out there, be sure to include yourself in the mix.
God knows what your kids think about the real world. Are you going to walk them to class when they are in college too because there are crazy people in college and ooooooh....how about when they go to work. Gonna follow them in your minivan to be sure they don't get carjacked on the way to the office?
Crazy....crazy....crazy!!!!!!P arents just keep getting dumber and dumber.

Wow xoxo, me thinks someone doth protest too much.

Do you feel guilty because you don't keep a better eye on your child/children? Because I feel comfortable staying with my daughter at the bus stop at a 4 way highway I'm overprotective? Hmmmm, better to be that way then the way I'm sure you parent.

Here is a day in the life of xoxo and her girls:

"Hey mom, I just met some boy on myspace. Can you drive me 50 miles to meet him?"

xoxo-"Sure honey, because that's what 'cool' moms do. I don't need to worry about strangers out there, because I'm a 'cool' mom. What time do you want to leave? Do you want to hit the mall first so I can buy you a new outfit? I think I'll get a matching tube top, maybe I can relive my youth through you honey!"

Your poor, poor kids.

We had a girl here in Houston lie about getting raped at a party she attended .... instead of going to the police, daddy went to school and stabbed a kid he thought was involved. Turns out 1)the boy wasn't even at the party, and [surprise!!] 2)the girl wasn't raped. She needed an excuse for coming in late. Now a kid is stabbed, a dad is in jail, and a girl probably doesn't give a rat's furry behind.
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/front/581...

Deb wrote:

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Wow xoxo, me thinks someone doth protest too much.
Do you feel guilty because you don't keep a better eye on your child/children? Because I feel comfortable staying with my daughter at the bus stop at a 4 way highway I'm overprotective? Hmmmm, better to be that way then the way I'm sure you parent.
Here is a day in the life of xoxo and her girls:
"Hey mom, I just met some boy on myspace. Can you drive me 50 miles to meet him?"
xoxo-"Sure honey, because that's what 'cool' moms do. I don't need to worry about strangers out there, because I'm a 'cool' mom. What time do you want to leave? Do you want to hit the mall first so I can buy you a new outfit? I think I'll get a matching tube top, maybe I can relive my youth through you honey!"
Your poor, poor kids.

that was a funny post, even if you took what the other person was saying different from how i was taking it.

Gliberal - "You are delusional if you think you are protecting a child 24/7. They can climb in your windows and steal them at night. They can kidnap them from the mall. It happens all the time."

Actually, it does not. There are typically less than 200 stranger abductions of children per year in this entire country. Only 44% of those result in death or never returned (4%). 58,000 involving non-family members such as that boyfriend you don't like, crazy aunt Sylvia, and the babysitter who just plain forgot to tell you they were going to the pool for four hours. Your child has a better chance of being in a car accident with you than of being abducted on their own.
(Statistics: NISMART 2002, a publication of the DOJ)

Chad wrote:

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that was a funny post, even if you took what the other person was saying different from how i was taking it.

Thank you, I'm here all night.

Tip your waitress and bartender.

It was sarcasm (something I'm sure will go right over xoxo's head) but I was trying to make a point.

She comes off (by her posts on here) as a "holier than thou" mother.

The world is a scary place, and there are a LOT of scary peeps out there.

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose.

"How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have thankless child."
OR, an idiot "Nanny state" parent.
We're doomed.

East Side Pride wrote:

I believe she should have to pay back any charges that may have been assessed during the search for the make believe person. Community service or something.

Your idea would be just great and that's exactly what should be done, although, in the area it took place, would only mean we the taxpayers
would have to kick in more to their welfare payments in order for the
parents to make the payments to the police department because of this
little IDIOT'S actions.

Deb wrote:

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Wow xoxo, me thinks someone doth protest too much.
Do you feel guilty because you don't keep a better eye on your child/children? Because I feel comfortable staying with my daughter at the bus stop at a 4 way highway I'm overprotective? Hmmmm, better to be that way then the way I'm sure you parent.
Here is a day in the life of xoxo and her girls:
"Hey mom, I just met some boy on myspace. Can you drive me 50 miles to meet him?"
xoxo-"Sure honey, because that's what 'cool' moms do. I don't need to worry about strangers out there, because I'm a 'cool' mom. What time do you want to leave? Do you want to hit the mall first so I can buy you a new outfit? I think I'll get a matching tube top, maybe I can relive my youth through you honey!"
Your poor, poor kids.

Listen, I realize you are one of those moms the rest of us detests, and because of your freakish fear of everything evil, your child will grow up exactly as you described. Incredibly rebellious.

My daughter and I share the same computer and considering she was just accepted to the #5 High School in the country as a straight A student, President of the National Junior Honor Society, Historian on the Student Council, 1st chair in band, oh and 3rd year as a starter on the soccer team.

Much to your chagrin, we are very close and when she was in elementary school, she was always driven or picked up. Now she takes the bus, like I said before. Some people are not that fortunate and don't trust their neighbors, as often they shouldn't. You're just a snob with a lot of time to sit in front of your pc and judge to your cold hearts content.

I'm going to sleep just fine tonight. You, on the other hand, will probably lay there, sexually unsatisfied while worrying about oh, I don't know, everything that is actually out of your control. Sorry for that and I'm really sorry for your children. You are living in a fantasy world.

Dreeg wrote:

Gliberal - "You are delusional if you think you are protecting a child 24/7. They can climb in your windows and steal them at night. They can kidnap them from the mall. It happens all She canthe time."
Actually, it does not. There are typically less than 200 stranger abductions of children per year in this entire country. Only 44% of those result in death or never returned (4%). 58,000 involving non-family members such as that boyfriend you don't like, crazy aunt Sylvia, and the babysitter who just plain forgot to tell you they were going to the pool for four hours. Your child has a better chance of being in a car accident with you than of being abducted on their own.
(Statistics: NISMART 2002, a publication of the DOJ)

Excuse me, Dreeg, but I speak from experience. I had a friend who interviewed countless women to be her nanny. Without giving you details that are none of your business, the child was sexually abused for years. It was done quite secretively by her husband and no one had a clue. No, he didn't sneak in and kidnap her but you missed the point. You can buy every gadget for the home that will keep your child alive. We sure did. Now they are older and often don't want you to walk with them to school etc. They would rather be with their friends.

I think the other poster's problem is that she is so obsessive compulsive that her kids have no friends so she has to be with them ALL the time. She can do her smothering thing and I'll keep doing things my own way because so far, I've kept them alive to ages 10 and 13 so I must be doing something right.

If the snob had asked, I would have told her my kids are quite safe. We live in a gated community and the bus comes right to our gate. There are 12-14 other kids that ride it as well so none of them are actually alone. Our gate has 5 cameras and she has a cell phone. Of course I'm always concerned about my kids safety and I do what I can but have little control over their every move.

Sue me.