The Big Blue Couch

Grab a seat and have a nice chat...most anything goes. But please don't make this another fight-thread. And try to keep the conversations clean.

Coffee machine and cups are there in the corner. Have a slice of chocolate cake or a doughnut.

Enjoy!

Scootch down a bit, Ruby. This is nice. Where is everybody? I bet they are fast asleep. Just like everyone else around me right now. It is quiet as the grave.

Hello there! Welcome.

It's just the two of us here (for now).
Will have to spread the word of my new thread on the other threads. Lol.

But not to worry, I will sit waaaaay over here, on the far side of the couch. Lol.

I just got in from practicing my ranting skills on Stupid Liberal Beards, of all things.

But it does keep me in practice.

And I am kinda bored, nothing much happening here at 5am.

The Innkeeper wrote:

I just got in from practicing my ranting skills on Stupid Liberal Beards, of all things.
But it does keep me in practice.
And I am kinda bored, nothing much happening here at 5am.

Lol...it helps to just get out all your frustrations...

I feel like screaming!

Ok...here's the problem: My ex wants me back, but cannot offer enough stability. And in the meantime a friend of mine wants us to become friends with benefits, no strings attached.

What should I do?

It sounds simple enough, right?

Ditch the ex, go for the friend??

BUT...(yes, there is a but)...the friend is Indian (from India)...

Maybe I should take a step back, fall onto this nice comfy couch and have a nice big piece of chocolate cake and a big cup of coffee. Lol.

rubybabe wrote:

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Lol...it helps to just get out all your frustrations...
I feel like screaming!
Ok...here's the problem: My ex wants me back, but cannot offer enough stability. And in the meantime a friend of mine wants us to become friends with benefits, no strings attached.
What should I do?
It sounds simple enough, right?
Ditch the ex, go for the friend??
BUT...(yes, there is a but)...the friend is Indian (from India)...
Maybe I should take a step back, fall onto this nice comfy couch and have a nice big piece of chocolate cake and a big cup of coffee. Lol.

Well, you know the ex, and what he is like.

And unless you are up for another round of "more of the same", then you know what you should do.

As to the "friend with benefits", that depends on what YOU are looking for in your next partner.

If you are interested in starting a new relationship, I would say pass on the friend.

If you are just looking for a little harmless fun, the "friend with benefits" might be a better option than "random rebound guy".

As to the Indian thing, is that a no-no where you live?

The Innkeeper wrote:

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Well, you know the ex, and what he is like.
And unless you are up for another round of "more of the same", then you know what you should do.
As to the "friend with benefits", that depends on what YOU are looking for in your next partner.
If you are interested in starting a new relationship, I would say pass on the friend.
If you are just looking for a little harmless fun, the "friend with benefits" might be a better option than "random rebound guy".
As to the Indian thing, is that a no-no where you live?

No, it's not illegal to have interracial relationships. But my family won't approve. And as for the ex: Well, like I said, he cannot offer me the stability I need. We aren't physically compatible (he's shorter than I am, and way too skinny to my liking!) and he does not have his own form of transport, I do. Meaning, I would have to drive to him every time. Can't sleep over (without lying about it) because my parents are against it. They also don't like him very much, everything just one big RUN AWAY! Lol.

I want a relationship where I know my needs are also taken into consideration. Emotionally and physically. I find it hard to completely trust anyone, and I'm kinda jealous when I'm dating someone. Don't like sharing, and sometimes lady friends just become too comfortable around my lover. I've even considered becoming a lesbian just to get away from all the cheating men out there. I've lost count of all the times I ended up hurt and feeling used.

I have become quite picky about my potential partner, and therefore I am now still a single lady and not sure if I'm ready for the whole commitment thing.

Also not into one-night-stands...Something inbetween maybe? But in the end, I will develop feelings for the guy. We have kissed some time ago, it was magical! And I've fallen for him in a way. But he's not interested and I ended up heartbroken and depressed. Just as I was starting to move on, he suggests we become friends with benefits. That is why I am so uncertain!

Maybe I should just ditch 'em both and move on.

But then again, the Indian guy has been a good friend thus far, I don't want to lose that.

And the ex is the only one that cannot (will not?) move on. I sent him packing and he came crawling back with all those sweet words. Keeps bringing up the past, how happy we were, etc.

I feel like throwing up every time he tells me that he loves me. Because deep inside I know that he may just be saying that to get into my pants again...

Either way, I'm just so frustrated with both of them. And I feel like I'm in the middle of a tug-of-war game between them.

Ok if I let out a loud scream????

Is this the line for Pearl Jam tickets?

rubybabe wrote:

I want a relationship where I know my needs are also taken into consideration. Emotionally and physically. I find it hard to completely trust anyone, and I'm kinda jealous when I'm dating someone. Don't like sharing, and sometimes lady friends just become too comfortable around my lover. I've even considered becoming a lesbian just to get away from all the cheating men out there. I've lost count of all the times I ended up hurt and feeling used.
I have become quite picky about my potential partner, and therefore I am now still a single lady and not sure if I'm ready for the whole commitment thing.
Also not into one-night-stands...Something inbetween maybe? But in the end, I will develop feelings for the guy. We have kissed some time ago, it was magical! And I've fallen for him in a way. But he's not interested and I ended up heartbroken and depressed. Just as I was starting to move on, he suggests we become friends with benefits. That is why I am so uncertain!
Maybe I should just ditch 'em both and move on.
But then again, the Indian guy has been a good friend thus far, I don't want to lose that.
And the ex is the only one that cannot (will not?) move on. I sent him packing and he came crawling back with all those sweet words. Keeps bringing up the past, how happy we were, etc.
I feel like throwing up every time he tells me that he loves me. Because deep inside I know that he may just be saying that to get into my pants again...
Either way, I'm just so frustrated with both of them. And I feel like I'm in the middle of a tug-of-war game between them.
Ok if I let out a loud scream????

Go for it.

I'm sure they have seen worse on topix.

Curtis Lowe wrote:

Is this the line for Pearl Jam tickets?

Naw, I'm just having a bit of a rest until my relief shows up for work.
That little brat better be on time today!

The Innkeeper wrote:

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Naw, I'm just having a bit of a rest until my relief shows up for work.
That little brat better be on time today!

You may want to purchase a taser. That's how I trained my wife to have dinner ready when I get home.

Curtis Lowe wrote:

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You may want to purchase a taser. That's how I trained my wife to have dinner ready when I get home.

If she is late again today, I may consider it.

The Innkeeper wrote:

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If she is late again today, I may consider it.

hey you are the one that agrees with evolution over gods words and the prophets. i am roman catholic and proud of it. you can believe in apes all you want.

The Innkeeper wrote:

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If she is late again today, I may consider it.

wheres my dinner bitch statue. remember tom green.

GOP RED wrote:

<quoted text>hey you are the one that agrees with evolution over gods words and the prophets. i am roman catholic and proud of it. you can believe in apes all you want.

My interest on that subject is far more complex.

Check around, and see for yourself.

And I believe in apes, they have them here at the zoo. I can assure you that apes do indeed exist. Trust me on this.

You guys make me laugh out loud sometimes!

rubybabe wrote:

I want a relationship where I know my needs are also taken into consideration. Emotionally and physically. I find it hard to completely trust anyone, and I'm kinda jealous when I'm dating someone. Don't like sharing, and sometimes lady friends just become too comfortable around my lover. I've even considered becoming a lesbian just to get away from all the cheating men out there. I've lost count of all the times I ended up hurt and feeling used.
I have become quite picky about my potential partner, and therefore I am now still a single lady and not sure if I'm ready for the whole commitment thing.
Also not into one-night-stands...Something inbetween maybe? But in the end, I will develop feelings for the guy. We have kissed some time ago, it was magical! And I've fallen for him in a way. But he's not interested and I ended up heartbroken and depressed. Just as I was starting to move on, he suggests we become friends with benefits. That is why I am so uncertain!
Maybe I should just ditch 'em both and move on.
But then again, the Indian guy has been a good friend thus far, I don't want to lose that.
And the ex is the only one that cannot (will not?) move on. I sent him packing and he came crawling back with all those sweet words. Keeps bringing up the past, how happy we were, etc.
I feel like throwing up every time he tells me that he loves me. Because deep inside I know that he may just be saying that to get into my pants again...
Either way, I'm just so frustrated with both of them. And I feel like I'm in the middle of a tug-of-war game between them.
Ok if I let out a loud scream????

hey play them both. Maybe it's time you have all the BENEFITS. If they don't like it then boot them both out. The ex will either get all his ducks in a row and realize that he does love you or he will get tired of all the attention you are giving the other guy and leave you alone. Either way you don't look like the dumb one.

guest wrote:

<quoted text>hey play them both. Maybe it's time you have all the BENEFITS. If they don't like it then boot them both out. The ex will either get all his ducks in a row and realize that he does love you or he will get tired of all the attention you are giving the other guy and leave you alone. Either way you don't look like the dumb one.

I know the only person between the two of them that would mind, is the ex...Since the friend is Indian (India) and not white, the ex is completely against it. And since he wants me back, he won't tollerate other guys intruding on "his" territory. Lol.

It's simple, yet so extremely complicated and involved.

I spoke to the friend yesterday and said that we could give it a try and see how it goes. The problem is, I cannot disconnect emotionally. So eventually I will develop strong feelings for him. And since he is not interested in a relationship, I am the one that's going to be left heartbroken and used.

And as far as I'm concerned, the ex can go jump in a lake.
Don't see a future with him.

Whew!

Just got in from wrassling the athiests.

I posted pages and pages.

I don't know why I bother, they will only read it, reject it, and insult me in the bargain.