Teen Pregnancy Education

Posted in the Top Stories Forum

Comments

Showing posts 1 - 20 of462
< prev page
|
Go to last page| Jump to page:
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#1
Mar 27, 2012
 
In order to try and prevent the occurrence of teen pregnancy and teen parenthood as much as humanly possible, more information on teen pregnancy needs to be made available in more places. I strongly believe that a separate thread devoted entirely to this topic is a step in that direction.

Below is an excerpt from a study done by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy:

**********

http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/resources/ ...

Excerpts:

"Previous studies have reported that children of younger mothers score lower on cognitive measures—such as vocabulary and math skills and behavioral measures such as problem behaviors—than do children of older mothers. The research presented here builds on previous research in several important ways:

In Sum

Without controlling for background characteristics, children born to mothers aged 17 and younger began kindergarten with lower levels of school readiness—including lower math and reading scores, language and communication skills, social skills and physical and emotional well-being—than older mothers. When controlling for background characteristics, such as a mother’s marital status, family structure, and family socioeconomic status, the effects of the mother’s age diminished but remained important. Children born to mothers aged 18-19 did not perform much better on most measures than children born to mothers aged 17 and younger.

The children born to mothers in their 20s clearly outperformed those whose mothers were still teenagers at time of birth, and the most consistent and pronounced differences were observed when comparing children born to mothers aged 17 and younger to those children born to mothers aged 22-29.

This research suggests that efforts to improve child development should strongly encourage teens to delay childbearing past their teen years altogether and should be accompanied by encouragement to pursue education, employment, and marriage prior to parenthood."

**********

The more information about teen pregnancy PREVENTION that can be made available to teens and their parents BEFORE more teen girls get pregnant, the better. Now we have a dedicated place to put all the information to good use.:-)
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#2
Mar 27, 2012
 
Motherhood is HARD WORK!

If girls think middle or high school is hard, they should know that becoming a mother will be ten times harder. Many mothers and grandmothers don’t tell young girls and women in their family how hard motherhood truly is, for reasons known only to them. I strongly disagree with the practice of keeping girls in ignorance of this. I believe they NEED to know what being a mother will require of them, so they can make an informed decision about being a mother, even if it means some girls will decide not to be mothers at any point in their lives. That is just fine if some don't want to be mothers. Not all girls or women are suited to be moms, and choosing NOT to be a mother is just as valid as the choice to be one.

Here are some of the hardships mothers of all ages will face once a baby arrives:

LOSS OF FREEDOM – Having a baby really does change everything, including the freedom that girls used to have in abundance. Once the baby arrives, that freedom will be gone, for at least the next five or six years and possibly longer. Teen girls who become moms can forget about going out with friends, whether to the movies, to hang out at their favorite restaurant or coffee shop, or anywhere else for that matter. If they do go out, they’ll have to take the baby with them if their parents refuse to babysit. If the baby is sick or very cranky for any number of reasons, girls will end up staying home instead of going out. Girls who are still in middle or high school will find it much harder to do their homework assignments or study for exams when they have to care for a baby as well. It will be a very long time before girls get any of their former freedom back.

LOSS OF SLEEP – The first thing girls have to know about motherhood is that newborn babies do NOT sleep eight hours a night. All mothers, myself included, can honestly say that babies can – and do – wake up during the night as many as two or three times. Each time the baby wakes up, mom has to get up with the baby, feed the baby, change the baby’s diaper (which could be a messy one), and then get the baby back to sleep. When my son was a newborn baby, there were nights where I got NO sleep whatsoever. Luckily for me, I had completed high school and post-high school education long before that, so I didn’t have to get up at 5:00am to go to school after having almost no sleep. Teen moms will not be so lucky.

LOSS OF MONEY – Whatever money a girl used to spend on herself will have to be spent on the baby, and that cost is far more than most girls could begin to anticipate. Estimates on how much it costs to raise a child in the 21st century range anywhere from $500,000 to over $1,000,000, and those figures are probably too low. These costs include food, clothing, baby equipment (car seat, crib, stroller, baby carriers, baby and child toys, etc.) and so much more. Anyone who wants to do the math can begin their research by going to their local grocery store and checking out the baby food and diaper sections. Just make sure you have a notebook and calculator, because you will need to multiply those costs for each item several times per week. That’s just for food and diapers, you haven’t even started on the costs for clothing, baby equipment and toys. That will add a staggering amount to your calculations, and the sum will be far higher than you could imagine. If you plan to put the baby in day care for any amount of time during the week, you will have to add up those costs too. Get the picture now? Having a baby costs a HUGE amount of money, which many girls and young women simply do not have, unless they have wealthy parents.
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#3
Mar 27, 2012
 
More hardships that teen girls would face if they get pregnant and become mothers are:

LOSS OF EDUCATION AND JOB/CAREER OPPORTUNITIES - As hard as it is to acknowledge, a working mother of any age cannot have the same kind of freedom, flexibility or mobility as a woman without children has. If a girl cannot complete high school due to the demands of motherhood, she will not be able to go to college or vocational school, as both typically require a high school diploma first. That will seriously limit her ability to find good employment, and she may well have to settle for a minimum wage job, which pays far less than what is needed to raise a child comfortably. Girls who complete high school may find that many jobs require a college degree or vocational school certificate, and without those, she may still not be able to get a job that pays a decent salary. A high school diploma alone is no guarantee of good employment, but all girls need one if they hope to advance to higher levels of education that their chosen job or career requires.

LOSS OF MOBILITY – Those who don’t have children have a rather naïve idea that parents can just as easily take a baby with them whenever they go out. They are half right. Yes, parents can take a baby out with them, but it is far from easy. Even going to the grocery store with a baby can be a huge hassle. First they have to get the baby dressed, which can be difficult when the little one is happy being home and doesn’t want to be dressed to go out. After getting baby dressed, which can take much longer than mom expected, mom then has to put baby into the car seat, get baby out of the car seat when she arrives at the store, then carry baby around until she can find a cart with an infant carrier. Most grocery stores have very few of those, as I personally discovered long ago. Some may not have any. Going to a restaurant with a baby can also be very stressful, especially if baby suddenly begins crying or screaming for unknown reasons. Mothers who walk into restaurants with screaming or crying babies will find themselves the object of hostile stares, which usually last until they finally have to leave.

LOSS OF PRIVATE TIME – When a baby arrives, a girl turned mom will quickly find that she doesn’t have privacy any more. If she used to read books for hours with few or no interruptions, that will no longer be an option for her. If she needs quiet time to complete her homework assignments or study for important final exams, that won’t be possible either. A baby will demand her attention many times during the day, so she won’t have private time for doing the things she enjoys or needs to complete.
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#4
Mar 27, 2012
 
Last, but certainly not least of the hardships teen girls would have to fact if they become mothers is:

COLIC – For girls who are unaware, colic is a long period of crying, screaming and shrieking that can last for many hours a day, and even all night. It can begin when the baby is as young as three weeks old, and it can go on until the baby is five months old. My son had colic for almost two months as an infant. For me, it seemed more like two years. During that time, the crying usually began in the early evening and would last until past midnight. I would walk around the small apartment, carrying him in my arms, for hours trying to comfort him, but nothing I did really worked. He wouldn’t eat, and he most certainly didn’t sleep, and I was a wreck as a result. Being deprived of sleep, with a colicky baby on top of that, can really feel like torture for a mom after a while. I was no exception.

There is no escaping the fact that becoming a mother makes a girl’s life much harder and she loses most, if not all, of the benefits and comforts she had before she got pregnant. That is another reason why girls would be wise to say a very loud NO to boyfriends who keep pressuring them for sex. No matter what a boyfriend may say, there is NO WAY he can guarantee that sex won’t result in an unwanted pregnancy.

Also, many guys who get a girl pregnant walk out, either when they find out the girl is pregnant or after the baby arrives. Many find that they don't want any of the HARD WORK that being a teen dad requires, and the teen mom is left struggling on her own.

Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#5
Mar 27, 2012
 

Judged:

1

1

Here are a few good rules for teen girls to follow, to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and STD's:

1. NEVER consent to sex if you aren't on birth control and the guy doesn't have or use condoms.

2. ALWAYS be aware that all contraceptive methods can fail and that pregnancy could result.

3. NEVER assume you can't get pregnant because you're on birth control, even the pill.

4. NEVER let yourself be pressured into having sex if you really don't want to do it.

5. NEVER believe a guy who says "trust me, you can't get pregnant." Don't have sex with this guy either.

“Proud to be a Wiccan Priest”

Since: Jul 09

Jonesboro AR

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#6
Mar 27, 2012
 
The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy

http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/

what we do

We work in many areas in order to:

strengthen a culture of personal responsibility regarding sex, getting pregnant, and bringing children into the world;

support responsible policies that will increase the use of contraception; and

provide more education to teens, parents, and young adults."

And for more information click on the link.
http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/about-us/P...
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#7
Mar 28, 2012
 

Judged:

1

DOING THE MATH

One of the most overlooked factors of being a teen mom or teen dad is how much it really costs to care for a baby and child. Many teens have no idea whatsoever how truly EXPENSIVE it is to buy all the supplies a baby will need, even in the first two months.

So, just to do a little research myself, I took a notebook with me on my last shopping trip to the grocery store, and wrote down the costs for items that parents will need for a baby. Here's a short price list:

Diapers - Huggies (to 14 pounds) 40/pkg.$9.99
Formula - Enfamil, newborn, 6 2oz. btl/pkg.$7.99
Wipes - Pampers baby wipes, 72/pkg.$2.79
Bottles - Evenflo, 3/pkg.$5.69
Bottle cleaning brush, 1/pkg.$2.99
Pacifiers - Nuk, 2/pkg.$3.69
Diaper rash cream - Desitin, 1 tube $5.45
Baby powder - Johnson's lrg. economy size $4.59
Baby wash - Johnson's lrg.$2.79
Baby shampoo - Johnson's med. size $3.99

The above are just the BASE prices, which were priced on 3/26/12. The cost for diapers and formula will quickly multiply, depending on how much formula the baby needs and how many diaper changes the baby must have to keep his/her skin healthy. Diapers must be changed quite frequently to avoid diaper rash, which occurs as a result of babies being in a wet or stinky diaper for too long.

Let's assume, as an example, that the baby will have to be changed six times a day. The cost of diapers, which is $9.99 for a package of 40 can multiply as follows:

6 diapers per day, x 7 days = 42 diapers
42 diapers per week, x 4 weeks =$168 per month

The cost of formula can multiply a lot too, depending on how much formula is used per day. When my son was a newborn and infant, he could easily consume a bottle at each feeding, which could be 2 or 3 ounces. If the baby is bigger, he/she will need more at each feeding.

The base cost for a six-pack of Enfamil ready-to-use 2oz. bottles is $7.99, which is really $8.00 minus a penny. It can multiply as follows:

2 six-packs per week @$8.00 =$16.00 per week
$16.00 x 4 weeks =$64.00 month

Remember, these figures are just ESTIMATES. Parents may choose different types of formula, but they have to know what the cost is, and they'll have to multiply it for a monthly estimate.

Also, these costs are for diapers and formula ALONE. Parents will also have to buy clothes, a car seat (required by law), crib, stroller, infant seat, baby toys, and the list goes on.

It will be difficult, and in some cases impossible, for teen parents to buy all these necessities for a baby when they are too young to even work if they are younger than 16. Even for older teen parents, they still must graduate high school to be able to get better jobs.
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#8
Mar 28, 2012
 
An excellent documentary for both parents AND teens to watch:

MTV's "16 and Pregnant"

There are those who insist that this program "glamorizes teen pregnancy," but I strongly disagree with that assessment. After watching several 60-minute segments, I have seen these teen girls struggle with issues such as adoption or keeping the baby, how to get a decent job when neither the teen mom or dad has graduated high school, whether to live at home or move in together, etc.

There is NOTHING glamorous about teen pregnancy and teen motherhood, and IMO this program clearly demonstrates how very HARD it is.

“Proud to be a Wiccan Priest”

Since: Jul 09

Jonesboro AR

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#9
Mar 28, 2012
 

Judged:

1

To add to the underlying cost is clothes..

Baby onesies median cost is about $5.00.. You will never have enough trust me.. Say about 5 onsies
5 X 12 =$60.00 Though this cost will be off set hopefully by friends and family. And you could end uo with as many 30 or more. believe the baby will use them all..

Carriage/stroller about $60.00 each. maybe a relative might buy one or both, but don't count on it.

Crib.. Median price about $200 dollars for a good one.

Baby oil baby wipes, and for the inevitable rashes.. Diaper rash.

Call it all about $40.00 to $50.00 that might be a monthly or an expenses that will have to be budgeted in to your already stretched budget.

Lest I for get the car seat. Average cost is between $30.00 to $120.00 . Again may or may not be off set by a kind relative or friend. However this comes with a warning. make sure that the baby chair/seat is new. Recently it has been found any baby car sets that are more than two years old may not be as safe.

These are things that you will need even before your baby comes through the front door for the first time.
For more information to keeping your baby safe and healthy.
http://www.aap.org/en-us/Pages/Default.aspx

http://www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/...
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#10
Mar 28, 2012
 

Judged:

1

1

1

Kathwynn wrote:
To add to the underlying cost is clothes..
Baby onesies median cost is about $5.00.. You will never have enough trust me.. Say about 5 onsies
5 X 12 =$60.00 Though this cost will be off set hopefully by friends and family. And you could end uo with as many 30 or more. believe the baby will use them all..

For more information to keeping your baby safe and healthy.
http://www.aap.org/en-us/Pages/Default.aspx
http://www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/...
OH yeah, and all who have been parents know that a baby will need a LOT more clothing than just the onesies. The onesies are great in the summertime, but they won't do the job of keeping baby warm during the winter months.

Other items of clothing baby will need during the winter:

Blanket sleepers, which are put over baby's night clothes for sleeping
Infant snowsuit
Socks
Soft but warm clothes outfits (fleecy sweatsuit outfits are great)

Each of these items could run anywhere from $5 to $10 (or more), depending on where parents go shopping for baby clothes. Avoid "upscale" baby clothing shops, which are usually more expensive than places like Target, Kmart, Walmart, etc. An infant snowsuit may last until the baby grows too big for it, but other items should be stocked up on.

“Proud to be a Wiccan Priest”

Since: Jul 09

Jonesboro AR

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#11
Mar 28, 2012
 
Ocean56 wrote:
<quoted text>
OH yeah, and all who have been parents know that a baby will need a LOT more clothing than just the onesies. The onesies are great in the summertime, but they won't do the job of keeping baby warm during the winter months.
Other items of clothing baby will need during the winter:
Blanket sleepers, which are put over baby's night clothes for sleeping
Infant snowsuit
Socks
Soft but warm clothes outfits (fleecy sweatsuit outfits are great)
Each of these items could run anywhere from $5 to $10 (or more), depending on where parents go shopping for baby clothes. Avoid "upscale" baby clothing shops, which are usually more expensive than places like Target, Kmart, Walmart, etc. An infant snowsuit may last until the baby grows too big for it, but other items should be stocked up on.
As we are on the subject of clothes.
http://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/i...
It's amazing how fast babies grow and develop in their first year. On average, a newborn's weight will triple, and he or she will grow 10 inches by his or her first birthday!"

So yes your baby is going to need plenty of weather appropriate clothing. This expenses is not going to go away any time soon either.

Most smart parents will buy clothes one or two sizes larger. The reason is to give you a some time before the next growth spurt.

Yes you are going to learn that your parents were not being cheap when the refused to buy you those jeans. Instead bought you an off name or what ever was on sale jeans. Regardless of whether the clothes in question were in fashion or not.

On this journey into teen parenthood. You are going to learn a great many things about just why your parents were not buying you the latest or greatest at the drop of a hat.

Often your last $20.00 or thirty dollars will be going to your child winter coat or for his/her school clothes. As I have said on a different forum. Being a teen parent does not get easy with time.
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#12
Mar 29, 2012
 
Kathwynn wrote:
As we are on the subject of clothes.
http://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/i...
It's amazing how fast babies grow and develop in their first year. On average, a newborn's weight will triple, and he or she will grow 10 inches by his or her first birthday!"
So yes your baby is going to need plenty of weather appropriate clothing. This expense is not going to go away any time soon either.
Definitely not. Clothing for children of all ages is one of the biggest ongoing expenses for kids in addition to all of the other factors that come into play.

IMO just telling teens that "it's going to be hard" having and raising a baby at 16-18 isn't enough. I think parents who have a pregnant daughter have to be REALLY SPECIFIC about ALL the hardships of motherhood, even if the teen daughter doesn't want to hear about it.
Curtis Lowe

Cibolo, TX

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#13
Mar 29, 2012
 

Judged:

1

Potential sluts can hold a walnut between their knees?
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#14
Mar 29, 2012
 
CONSIDERING POSSIBLE HEALTH ISSUES

Every parent wants their baby son or daughter to be "happy and healthy." Which brings up the very tough question; what if the baby is NOT healthy?"

If a baby is born with either a physical or mental handicap, the medical expenses for caring for the child are going to go up dramatically higher. So how is a teen mom or dad going to pay what could be very high medical bills if neither of them are qualified for good jobs? The answer is simple; with GREAT difficulty, IF they can pay the expenses at all. If the teen's parents don't have much money either, they can't be relied on for any financial assistance.

Teens who haven't graduated high school yet aren't likely to be qualified for full-time jobs that have good medical insurance plans. So they really need to consider all the "what if's" BEFORE having sex and risking the possibility of getting pregnant. Once a baby arrives and is medically determined to have one or more serious medical issues, it is too late.

Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#15
Mar 29, 2012
 

Judged:

1

SOME WOMEN REGRET BECOMING MOMS

There are those who perpetuate the myth that "mothers never regret having their children." As the comment at the link below proves, that is SO not true. The sad thing is that this is only ONE such comment among many.

**********

I Hate Motherhood!

http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/694465/I...

Original Post:

"Why is it that we are conned into thinking that motherhood is a blissful, satisfying, and rewarding blessing? I attend a mothers group for young mothers and the other day one of the social workers asked..."Who hates being a mom?" Everyone looked at each other as if they were afraid of the question and that admitting to it is a mortal sin. My hand shot up. After a year of being a mother I can't hate it more. It just prevents me being truly happy. I know some women out there have invested time and money into having a child and think its the most glorious and officious thing in the world. But I think that from little girls we are brain washed into thinking that being a mother is what our duty is. Its evident by the toys marketed towards girls: baby dolls that poop and pee with their carriages, little tiny kitchens, even vacuum and broom sets. JESUS!

Needless to say my pregnancy was unplanned and unwanted. I was 21, unmarried, and still in college with hopes of attending medical school. I dreaded being pregnant and the permanent scars it would leave on my already flawed body. I thought that once I had the baby I would love being a mother and a wife. The truth is I hate it. I couldn't love my child anymore, his smile touches a part of my heart that no one else can, but I don't like being his mother.

It is just a burden I don't want to deal with at this point of my life. The feeding, the changing, the constant neediness, which I know will perpetuate until the day I die. I decided to breastfeed him and still do and regret every day I decided to do this. It has been 14mo since he was born and I still have no ownership of my body. I have tried to ween him, but he become unbearable.

Before having him I was a straight A student, active in school, and I held up to two jobs. Now its seems I can't get my shit straight. My grades would be more that satisfactory for other students, but they just don't cut it for me. I feel like I have to choose between my dreams, and being a good mother, which isn't fair.

I have all the love and support from my husband, but its not enough because I feel like a failure, like I've failed myself. All these emotions have just turned into anger, and its just boiling inside of me because its turned into hate. I can't control my anger anymore. I can't stand being alone all day with my son. He wants to be all over me and all I want is my space. I try to play with him, but I'd rather be elsewhere. I feel like I have to give and give and give, but in return nothing.

To make things worse, I'm totally isolated. My mother lives in an other state. All my friends graduated 2 years ago and moved on with their lives. I have no friends I can relate to, even when I'm at school. I just feel thrusted into a position where I had no say, and I was pushed into it "because it was the right thing to do".

Now I'm filled with regrets, mourn the loss of the life and the person that I was (which I really liked) and feel all alone in life. I hate being a mother. I hate my life. Most of all I hate what I've become. "
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#16
Mar 29, 2012
 
Ocean56 wrote:
Here are a few good rules for teen girls to follow, to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy and STD's:

1. NEVER consent to sex if you aren't on birth control and the guy doesn't have or use condoms.
I'm revising the above to read:

1. NEVER consent to sex if you know you aren't on birth control and a guy tells you he doesn't have or use condoms (make sure you ASK him BEFORE having sex).
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#17
Mar 29, 2012
 
Here's another rule for teens and even adults who may be having doubts whether they want to have kids or not.

6. NEVER have a child if you have any doubts about or unwillingness to be a mom or a dad.

If you know you really don't like or want kids, be strong and DON'T cave in to the demands of others to have children. If you do cave in, odds are you will deeply regret that decision later, after the child arrives. Then it's too late to do anything about it.

“Proud to be a Wiccan Priest”

Since: Jul 09

Jonesboro AR

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#18
Mar 29, 2012
 
Ocean56 wrote:
<quoted text>
Definitely not. Clothing for children of all ages is one of the biggest ongoing expenses for kids in addition to all of the other factors that come into play.
IMO just telling teens that "it's going to be hard" having and raising a baby at 16-18 isn't enough. I think parents who have a pregnant daughter have to be REALLY SPECIFIC about ALL the hardships of motherhood, even if the teen daughter doesn't want to hear about it.
Exactly. Right down to the Teen her or himself does not want to hear about the sacrifices a parent must be willing to make.

It is not out of obligation, but out of love.

Sometimes it is not easy choices that are made. Especially if the parent is trying to balance the opportunity of a career advancement. Against what might be a teens desire to play ball or is going after a science or math courses to win a scholarship.

Not all scholarships are offered in every school. Not all scholarships are created equal either. Throw in a teen pregnancy or even a teen parent. Suddenly life just became real complicated in a hurry. Suddenly that scholarship might be out of reach or worse be unattainable. If the parent decides that the career advancement is important. Even if the scholarship is with in reach.

Suddenly, the teen has to make adult decisions. That may or may not play well with the parent. A teen parent is not automatically emancipated. The teen is still a minor under the law.

Life at that point gets rather messy. If every one is not on the same page or in agreement.

Teen parents, life does not get easier.
Ocean56

AOL

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#19
Mar 30, 2012
 
Kathwynn wrote:
Exactly. Right down to the Teen her or himself does not want to hear about the sacrifices a parent must be willing to make.
It is not out of obligation, but out of love.
Sometimes it is not easy choices that are made. Especially if the parent is trying to balance the opportunity of a career advancement. Against what might be a teens desire to play ball or is going after a science or math courses to win a scholarship.
Not all scholarships are offered in every school. Not all scholarships are created equal either. Throw in a teen pregnancy or even a teen parent. Suddenly life just became real complicated in a hurry. Suddenly that scholarship might be out of reach or worse be unattainable. If the parent decides that the career advancement is important. Even if the scholarship is with in reach.
Suddenly, the teen has to make adult decisions. That may or may not play well with the parent. A teen parent is not automatically emancipated. The teen is still a minor under the law.
Life at that point gets rather messy. If every one is not on the same page or in agreement.
Teen parents, life does not get easier.
So very true, and why it is SO much better when teen girls AND guys make the wise choice NOT to have and risk giving up all the freedoms they have now.

A good practice when considering whether or not to have sex at this point is for teens of both genders to write down ALL of the freedoms they have now. Such as freedom to get all of their homework, class assignments and studying done, to participate in whatever school or other activities they want, to go out with their friends as much as they want to, etc.

When they have this list written down, they have something to refer to when considering the "is having sex worth the risk of giving up my freedoms?" question. If they really THINK about what having sex could mean, more teens might come to the obvious answer; NO, it is NOT worth it, and decide not to have sex while in middle or high school.

“Proud to be a Wiccan Priest”

Since: Jul 09

Jonesboro AR

|
Report Abuse
|
Judge it!
|
#20
Mar 30, 2012
 
Ocean56 wrote:
<quoted text>
So very true, and why it is SO much better when teen girls AND guys make the wise choice NOT to have and risk giving up all the freedoms they have now.
A good practice when considering whether or not to have sex at this point is for teens of both genders to write down ALL of the freedoms they have now. Such as freedom to get all of their homework, class assignments and studying done, to participate in whatever school or other activities they want, to go out with their friends as much as they want to, etc.
When they have this list written down, they have something to refer to when considering the "is having sex worth the risk of giving up my freedoms?" question. If they really THINK about what having sex could mean, more teens might come to the obvious answer; NO, it is NOT worth it, and decide not to have sex while in middle or high school.
Writing out a list is a very good idea. Also writing out a list of what they think would be their freedoms during and after the pregnancy. Listing all the things that would have to change during the pregnancy and after the baby arrival.

Then compare that list to a real world life of what really does change. I think more than a few eyes would be open to what that twenty minute little bit of fun would really cost them.

Tell me when this thread is updated: (Registration is not required)

Add to my Tracker Send me an email

Showing posts 1 - 20 of462
< prev page
|
Go to last page| Jump to page:
Type in your comments below
Name
(appears on your post)
Comments
Characters left: 4000
Type the numbers you see in the image on the right:

Please note by clicking on "Post Comment" you acknowledge that you have read the Terms of Service and the comment you are posting is in compliance with such terms. Be polite. Inappropriate posts may be removed by the moderator. Send us your feedback.

512 Users are viewing the Top Stories Forum right now

Search the Top Stories Forum:
Topic Updated Last By Comments
Roman Catholic church only true church, says Va... (Jul '07) 3 min truth 512,246
Blaming Israel for carnage (Jul '06) 6 min Petesake del Liverpoole 109,725
Tamil vs Kannada. Which one is the oldest langu... (Oct '12) 8 min Civan 366
Prove there's a god. (Mar '08) 9 min Double Fine 680,570
is it wrong i like to wear womens underwear (Nov '12) 14 min Emilyhills 134
Ray Nunez PMG Studios Designer for Jordin Spark... 14 min PMG STUDIO RIP OFF 3
American Soldiers - Duty, Honor, Country (Jun '11) 24 min -USA-1 37,898
Girls snapchat names?(dirty) 1 hr zack 264
Atheism requires as much faith as religion? (Jul '09) 1 hr River Tam 217,105
•••
•••
•••