Swingers, Swingers....Everywhere

Swinger wrote:

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Well, my wife and I love each other deeply. What's the difference between a vibrator and another person in bed? Doubles the fun, that's all.
You all are so closed minded. And if you think this country, which had an entire state used as a off-shore prison, where people ran to in order to escape religion, and where our consitution explicitly states "no religion of the country"; was founded on religious principles, you are sorrily mistaken.
Or if the religion of a president matters to his/her presidency. That's completely stupid. I would venture to say an atheist would run the country better than bible-thumping GW Bush has.
And what is there to be quiet about? A party of consenting adults having fun? Let me guess, none of the people against Swingers own ANY sex toys, huh? And missionary is the only way to go?
Vanillas... You all need to look into the possibility of what you THINK is right, is not necessarily so. Or else we should burn witches, have a elected Exorcist for the county, and pay taxes to the church? Oh wait, we had that, and then founded America so we wouldn't have to do it any more!!

Frances wrote:

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....and you are a woman-hating Federal Govt. worker who reveals much about himself.

REAL king of op wrote:

<quoted text>you have a good one as well . i'd better hear from you !!! ttyl !!!

Contradicting wrote:

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I smell an affair brewing! This is what happens in your so-called monogomous relationships (notice the one post that noted "don't want to cause friction"). Now, if you were a swinger, you wouldn't have to worry about such things - you'd just tell your spouse that you want to talk to and/or see an old girlfriend/boyfriend and it would all be good - again, it's the secrecy, betrayal, and insecure jealousy that is damaging - and swingers are above that. But those of you who are repulsed by swingers - look how you behave - you do the same thing only in secret, behind your spouse's back, then shun those that do it in the open! Good stuff - thanks for making your "reconnection" public. And as for the person that said swingers 'objectify' swing partners - true for some. Some are aroused by the BEHAVIOR and the experience, not the people per se - others form close relationships with those they swing with. All different kinds - the trick is to find your match as in "monogomous" relationships. But in monogomy, once that relationship is on, the next trick is to find the ones that won't tell - seems far worse than engaging in recreational sex together because you both like it and want to do it. And the person who suggested that one partner is forced into swinging by the other to keep the relationship - you're clueless about this stuff - and even if this ever were the case, it would be the problem of the passive loser who has to do something against their will to keep a spouse - If you don't like it, don't do it - it's that simple. If you do like it, swing on!

to are you kidding wrote:

If you aren't a swinger, why would you be reading these posts? And why do you care so much? If you would READ the posts, you'd see that i saw his name on a recent post on this thread so i'd thought i'd say hi...big deal. What does it matter to you? Does it concern you at all? He's an old friend from 20 yrs ago...no one is hooking up. It's kind of strange, if you re-read your old posts, you sound a little jealous, maybe? Are you on here looking for someone. People can be friends with members of the opposite sex without "hooking" up. Maybe your better half has you on such a tight rope you're choking to death. That's what is sounds like to me.

Are you kidding wrote:

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Okay, so what you're saying is that you don't care if some guy wants to screw your wife?! So is that your wife hanging out down by the 31 Club every weekend waiting for some guy to come along so she can go screw him? Class act! Now that you've hooked up with your first love on this blog, I guess it doesn't matter anymore.

The real you wrote:

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So what you're saying is you don't treat the other people as people at all...you objectify them and think of them as a toy?
This would certainly explain the lack of conscience on your part...thank you for clarifying.

Anti Soap Boxer wrote:

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What's the difference then between swinging and one night stands? Both parties in one night stands objectify each other for a good time and that's all. Or you never had a one night stand?

Barb wrote:

Are you kidding! What's going on today is shameful and to hear it is in my neighborhood is so digusting. What is wrong with people. Marriage is sacred between two people. Now you can understand why the kids of today have no morals. It comes from their "parents".

Bob A Luu wrote:

I like it when he touches me down there. Oh Baby baby don't stop!!@!!!!!
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lowkey wrote:

<quoted text>xzxzxzxxz Whoever you are I couldn't resist to let you know what an assh--- you are.Its crap like yours that wrecks good conversation. Did you just learn how to run a computer?Or did mon and dad let you stay up late.I mean you must be about what 10,9? Nite nite

Bob wrote:

You gotta be kidding me! What happened to "I take this vow forever. To be be faithful, to be true. In sickness and in health,'til death do us part"?
You have to add some spice.... get some hot sauce and add it to your bar-b-que!

Donnamarie wrote:

<quoted text> U got it Bob... Married 12 years... I ment it when I said I do it was for ever... Me and my man ... People need to look into each others eyes Kiss hold and touch... snuggle love each other... not look for the next ****

Swinger wrote:

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How about the couples that do look into each other's eyes, kiss, touch, snuggle, but also occasionally invite another person in for the fun? Married 27 years, and still going strong...
Cheers! Maybe you and your man (See the use of the possesive "my man", very telling indeed) should look into it?

Swingtime wrote:

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No thanks...it's not for us. Apparently, you like the smell of another man's nutsack on your wife's breath...Go for it.
More telling is the fact you describe your marriage as "going strong"...Yeah, go ahead and keep telling yourself that. Or is that what you tell each other when you're banging someone else, that you're only doing it for because your partner loves you.

Swinger wrote:

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Most people who swing are very careful of their hygiene. I understand washing your balls might not occur to yourself, and how you may not notice the stench of your own on your wife's breath...
Going strong. Yes. Married 27 years, which is longer than most marriages last these days between "vanilla" couples.
As for why we do it? I participate because my wife enjoys it, and her pleasure in the sack is utmost priority. She does it conversely for the same reasoning.
I do understand how this can be hard for someone who thinks sex is about getting themselves off, and that's that. But, try to understand those who actually have sex to make their partner enjoy it as well. Cheers!

Swingtime wrote:

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That's exactly my point, their MY balls, not someone else's. But I'm really trying to understand your POV. to quote: "But, try to understand those who actually have sex to make their partner enjoy it as well." Yes, and it gives us both satisfaction in knowing that the partner we are enjoying that sex with is each other. Oh, and for the record, we're married 32 years this June, and it's never been vanilla.