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going mad wrote:

i’m here because i’m having social problems... i have no confidence and i always feel like people are judging me. i am so aware of everything i do and say and i feel stupid about everything that i say. this is really bad at work, i work in a very sociable bar. i must be showing my weaknesses as people don’t really seem to like me very much and i over heard a girl saying that i’m weird. i always get on well with males and am extremely anxious about being around females and as a result don’t have many social interactions with them. the worst thing is that i love to dance and perform but when i am at work and all of the staff are dancing and loose, i freeze. even if someone starts dancing with me i freeze and walk away. i think this is because i take peoples pointless comments to heart and in the past people have commented and laughed at my dancing in clubs. when this happens now, i run to the bathroom without being noticed and i cry my eyes out. i just don’t know what to do as i want to be like the other girls and i feel as if i am really going crazy.

Im not so sure I am the one to talk, since I have my own social issues... but, I have found that it can be really helpful to consider new social outlets. You might be subconsciously aware of your own desire for a new environment. Instead of dancing at the clubs maybe you really just wanna chill out and go to a jazz club to sit and chill out to some good tunes. Or do yoga with some girlfriends. I dont know what, but maybe its time for something a little different that really grabs your attention in a new way.

Hi thought this place was psychology chatroom, wrong apparantly, anyway does anyone know anything on psychological projection?

i have a relative who is a psychologist- does she have the right to observe my children,and then go to the authorities,saying that my children are suffering from development problems? it happenned after we had spent christmas eve,with the whole family. she did not come to me,she just wrote a disgusting letter and sent it to the social whatever,i dont know what its called,of where i live. is it ok???

Lost feeling wrote:

I have been experiencing such a lack of emotion for the better part of 6 months. I just don't want to go out have no desire to do much of anything. I don't feel sad but don't laugh much.
Causing a problem with my g/f. Not sure what to do.

Sounds like you may be experiencing depression. If you are losing interest in your normal activities, are isolating yourself, as you described, you could very well be suffering from depression. If anyone if your family struggles with depression, you may be predisposed to having it yourself. I would recommend that you see your Doctor, describe what you wrote here, and see if he prescribes something for you, temporarily, or long term. Take Care

Lotte, besides an obvious diagnosis of depression, you could be experiencing side effects of current medications. Any good therapist or Psychologist or Psychiatrist will first have you undergo a series of lab tests before diagnosing your condition. I am a fourth year Psychology student and have been drilled that medical conditions can also cause depressive symptoms. Blood pressure issues, sugar issues ( high or low), hormonal issues, PTSD, pregnancy and Post Partum Depression are all relevant causes of possible lack of energy and the will to move on in normal daily activities. As those are all possible medical reasons there are other life factors that can come into play. Loss of a loved one, loss of a job, low income and the fear of death. Actually, the fear of anything can contribute to fearing to have an active life. Lack of sexual gratification, lack of social contact and lack of a good nights sleep (minus the horrible dreams), can also contribute to lack of motivation which can all manifest itself into a deep depression... My advice: MOVE. I don't mean move from your house or your job, but just start moving period !

when i was younger i used to get bullied fairly badly nothing physical just verbal but it was literally everyday for about 5 years now i am in college and i am finding it very hard to make friends with people in my classes or talk to anyone for that mater usually my lunch consists of walking an watching films as is only natural is have been annoyed during college but this has now left me not being able to trust anyone even some of the few friends i do have and i cant keep up a convo with them even though i have known some of them for over five years also as can be expected i have some issues with my anger however i need to keep this inn check to avoid bullying again any advice on the social or anger side of this wold be much appreciated

Lost feeling wrote:

I have been experiencing such a lack of emotion for the better part of 6 months. I just don't want to go out have no desire to do much of anything. I don't feel sad but don't laugh much.
Causing a problem with my g/f. Not sure what to do.

You should get in to see a therapist or even a psychologist. You should be evaluated for depression. From your comments, it sounds as though you may be suffering from some sort of depression. A doctor can review your history and symptoms, and make recommendations for treatment. Depression can be caused by biological factors, life situations or both. Get help :) There really is a light at the end of that tunnel :)

Hi. I tried to kill myself about 8 month ago (doesn't matter how). Before that I was many years with severe depression. Months have past, I've past through a psychologist and but currently Im with a psychiatrist. I've been under medication for several months now but I don't feel any changes. Since little I've had problems concentrating but wasn't diagnosed with anything related to attention-deficit. Days pass and I don't feel any better. I do have my bright days in which I'm happy and smiling, but sooner or later this feeling comes back. Depression, not wanting to go on, not finding point in talking to anybody. I don't care in making any effort in my studies because I seriously can't see myself living much longer. I try to do this thing where each time I feel like this I go to sleep. It worked at the beggining, but now I ended up sleeping a lot and at odd timetables. I feel tired, un-motivated, sad and crying to myself each time I'm alone...

Someone can answer me please? Haha... Just tell me what you think I can do...

I'm responding to Adam's posting on Dec. 10, 2009. I am a retired psychotherapist. Is there a chat room where therapists can share their ideas and insights? I have a great deal to share that can make psychotherapy much more short term. Some of what I have learned and hypothesized will eventually alter the methodology of therapy considerably. There is much to discuss.