How do you build confidence in your children?

Poor self-esteem and low confidence can have a huge impact on how a child mentally develops, in how they interact with other students at school and how they do academically in school. It could cause marks to fall, cause depression to develop, cause one to become withdrawn and lead to problems in developing the social life. Parents can work with their children to deal with low self-esteem and poor confidence so that the children can have a more positive experience at school. Helping them to build their confidence can go a long way to improving their marks and to better prepare them for their transition from child to adult.

It is clear that a caring parent would want to help their child to build good self-esteem and a higher level of confidence, but many will wonder how this can be done. There are a number of things that parents can do that can help in building a child’s confidence up. First, a parent can try and provide opportunities for their child to do something successfully. Putting effort into something and being successful at it will do a lot to boost a child’s confidence because they feel they have the ability to do something right. They will feel that if they can do that successfully, then they could probably accomplish other things successfully. Building a child’s confidence also means doing one’s best to make them feel safe and secure in their home, as well as to feel confident in themselves. They need to be able to trust in their own judgments and feel that they can easily make the right decisions on their own. Praise and encouragement will also go a long way in building a child’s confidence, because it makes them feel good about themselves and, again, they feel that they can do something right. Working on building a child’s confidence will also require some patience, because a lack of patience on the parent’s part will only push the child away.

While parents can do their best to help their child to build confidence and good self-esteem at home, helping to build the confidence and self-esteem in the school atmosphere can be difficult because they can’t be there. What they can do is to show understanding and support for their child and help them to deal with difficulties at school as best as they can; however, if things at school get a little too out of control to the point where the child appears to be developing some depression, they should think about online therapy. It is not uncommon for children with low self-esteem and confidence to be bullied at school or to have difficulty in developing a social life. Contacting an online therapist who can talk with the child can give the child the chance to clearly express the difficulties they are experiencing at school. Through online counseling, the online therapist will then work with the child to learn how to deal with the issues at school, as well as help them become more confident in themselves while dealing with the issues.

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Thanks for the free stuff. That was miiiighty fine of ya.

I'd like to share my techniques. Maybe others will follow my examples or completely disregard them. Prolly the latter.

We homeschooled so we didn't have to deal with all that bully bullchit. The confidence builder techniques that my husband and I used was put blindfolds on them and turn them loose.

Once they could successfully navigate the place without bumping into furniture or the woodstove, or knocking over the homemade pepsi bottle lamp, they were good to go. Confidence was at an all time high.

Then we decided it was time to take them to the bar and teach them some trick shots on the pool table.

That really did wonders for their little psyche's and esteem.

Before we knowed it, they would be betting some drunk $5 that they could perform the impossible.

The drunks would take them up on the bet, not caring if they could do it or not, simply because they were cute kids.

They would take them ol geezers for $100 a night. It paid for our bar tab, and also gave them a lesson in physics.

Plus it gave them their peer socialization because how many people could afford baby sitters AND beer?

When them kids got down and out, we would just remind them they could have it much worse. They could have been born with 2 heads like that baby in India.

When procreating with cousins, life is like a box of chocolates...... you know?

Anyway, I know it's not for everyone, but where I come from it's cornbread and chicken baby.

Roflol.

You are too much, HillBilly.

Agreed, having fun is the key to building confidence. After age 10, it is all about the peer pressure, so you have to get it in before then. Glad to see a discussion going on here. If anyone wants any more help, just ask.

Dr. Jennifer Baxt, DMFT, NCC, DCC
jennifer@completecounselingsol utions.com
http://www.completecounselingsolutions.com