What happened to My Post ???

1 hr ago
I am 40'ish attractive woman. My husband had trouble maintaining an erection before we got
married. Because of his christian beliefs, he didn't want to have sex before marriage. We lived together 7 yrs, with his erection problem.
Married and almost 19yrs. We have never had real sex ! He can't maintain a hard erection. I have
been depressed the entire relationship and can
no longer, fake this so called marriage. We have
tried other ways to have a relationship.This isn't normal ! I have to divorce him, before---
I crack up. He tells me his penis worked with other women, just not me. He will not go to the Doctor, because he is to afraid of the reaction from the Doctor. Another reason, No one in His or Her's mind would believe either one of us have lived without intercourse for 19yrs. We both are very attractive People. I am to ashamed to tell anyone, not even a Priest ! No, my husband isn't Gay ! He has avoided this situation and problem for 19yrs. Now, I am going to leave him. Please, I need feedback ?

why would you ask complete strangers who are completely anonymous for adviceon this? You must be joking...

If (which I doubt) you're for real, don't listen to any of the stuff that's about to come out the can you're opening!

Leslie Richards wrote:

why would you ask complete strangers who are completely anonymous for adviceon this? You must be joking...
If (which I doubt) you're for real, don't listen to any of the stuff that's about to come out the can you're opening!

And to think I was JUST reachin for a can to pull off the shelf!
Thanks Darlin

Leslie Richards wrote:

why would you ask complete strangers who are completely anonymous for adviceon this? You must be joking...
If (which I doubt) you're for real, don't listen to any of the stuff that's about to come out the can you're opening!

For Your information my post here, is very much real ! Hoe dare you
reply with your comment! You don't know me, what makes you think You know, this is not true !!!
I had 12 great people who gave me great advise !
Don't comment back to me, please !!!

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Lonely-Wife wrote:
I am 40'ish attractive woman. My husband had trouble maintaining an erection before we got
married. Because of his christian beliefs, he didn't want to have sex before marriage. We lived together 7 yrs, with his erection problem.
Married and almost 19yrs. We have never had real sex ! He can't maintain a hard erection. I have
been depressed the entire relationship and can
no longer, fake this so called marriage. We have
tried other ways to have a relationship.This isn't normal ! I have to divorce him, before---
I crack up. He tells me his penis worked with other women, just not me. He will not go to the Doctor, because he is to afraid of the reaction from the Doctor. Another reason, No one in His or Her's mind would believe either one of us have lived without intercourse for 19yrs. We both are very attractive People. I am to ashamed to tell anyone, not even a Priest ! No, my husband isn't Gay ! He has avoided this situation and problem for 19yrs. Now, I am going to leave him. Please, I need feedback ?
2 popsicle sticks and a roll of duct tape - poor mans viagra.

Lonely-Wife wrote:

1 hr ago
I am 40'ish attractive woman. My husband had trouble maintaining an erection before we got
married. Because of his christian beliefs, he didn't want to have sex before marriage. We lived together 7 yrs, with his erection problem.
Married and almost 19yrs. We have never had real sex ! He can't maintain a hard erection. I have
been depressed the entire relationship and can
no longer, fake this so called marriage. We have
tried other ways to have a relationship.This isn't normal ! I have to divorce him, before---
I crack up. He tells me his penis worked with other women, just not me. He will not go to the Doctor, because he is to afraid of the reaction from the Doctor. Another reason, No one in His or Her's mind would believe either one of us have lived without intercourse for 19yrs. We both are very attractive People. I am to ashamed to tell anyone, not even a Priest ! No, my husband isn't Gay ! He has avoided this situation and problem for 19yrs. Now, I am going to leave him. Please, I need feedback ?

if you have discussed this problem with your husband and still he has no interest then I suggest you do whats right for you.

skipper wrote:

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if you have discussed this problem with your husband and still he has no interest then I suggest you do whats right for you.

Thank You Skipper ! I wish it was that easy :(

Lonely-Wife wrote:

<quoted text>For Your information my post here, is very much real ! Hoe dare you
reply with your comment! You don't know me, what makes you think You know, this is not true !!!
I had 12 great people who gave me great advise !
Don't comment back to me, please !!!

i think the reason she asked if you were for real, is because this is completely bizzare or completely desparate. if the latter is the case, do you not have ONE person in your REAL world that you can confide in??? or REAL counseling,,,,why on earth would you go to a public forum, and disclose this issue. pretty bizzare. i totally stand in agreement with her post. and to how dare her is bizarre as well, you ARE ON A PUBLIC FORUM

reebie wrote:

<quoted text>i think the reason she asked if you were for real, is because this is completely bizzare or completely desparate. if the latter is the case, do you not have ONE person in your REAL world that you can confide in??? or REAL counseling,,,,why on earth would you go to a public forum, and disclose this issue. pretty bizzare. i totally stand in agreement with her post. and to how dare her is bizarre as well, you ARE ON A PUBLIC FORUM

well, I don't get either of You woman ? You being a woman,,,I would maybe expect some compassion. It is easier to go on forum, where no one knows you personally ! You can't always go to someone in your community, because people gossip! Then, why are you posting on these forums ??? No, different then me, asking advise from strangers! Maybe, a stranger can be more objective then family! I could never go to my minister with this situation ! I am looking for extra advise and ideas from others. Yes, My real world id real,,,
just like Your real world in corn town !!! Thanks for being so negative!

After reading your post I think you have already made up your mind. You are the only one who can make this decision it is a big one. Hope you do not think this silly but one piece of advice I would offer is to make a list of what you love in your relationship with your husband. Then decide whether it is enough to continue to try and workout this problem. I am not a professional so please take this as it is just a poster providing an opinion. I wish you well good luck.

My apologies, wife. I really didn't mean to offend you. It's just that there are a lot of idiots waiting for an opening to be mean to someone on this forum. I hope you get some decent advice, and not more junk like post #10.

And I do have compassion, which is why I said to not listen to the garbage you were opening yourself to getting.

Good luck.

JazzKeyz wrote:

<quoted text>And to think I was JUST reachin for a can to pull off the shelf!
Thanks Darlin

No prob :) I hope she doesn't get a whole bunch of meanies giving her trouble!

Lonely-Wife wrote:

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well, I don't get either of You woman ? You being a woman,,,I would maybe expect some compassion. It is easier to go on forum, where no one knows you personally ! You can't always go to someone in your community, because people gossip! Then, why are you posting on these forums ??? No, different then me, asking advise from strangers! Maybe, a stranger can be more objective then family! I could never go to my minister with this situation ! I am looking for extra advise and ideas from others. Yes, My real world id real,,,
just like Your real world in corn town !!! Thanks for being so negative!

not trying to be negative, just realistic, as your reaction is with some trolls, defensive, and attacking. personnaly i am on topix for the same reason as most. mindless entertainment. i feel if you were completely legit ---maybe your issue is--who knows, but if you were completely legit, you would be ignoring those who are making fun of you, and or questioning you, and soak in the advice, as opposed to attacking, however, i am not an expert, just a poster, if i am going to end my marriage,, i dont think i would trust the advice of strangers. again just my opinion.

nawty finger wrote:

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Do NOT insult me a 2nd time!. I will open 60 windows at a time with changing internet protocol addresses, and post around the clock debauchery filled with filthy shenanigans of biblical proportions.

<burp>
Christ but youre boring!

Chatty Kathy wrote:

After reading your post I think you have already made up your mind. You are the only one who can make this decision it is a big one. Hope you do not think this silly but one piece of advice I would offer is to make a list of what you love in your relationship with your husband. Then decide whether it is enough to continue to try and workout this problem. I am not a professional so please take this as it is just a poster providing an opinion. I wish you well good luck.

Chatty Kathy, Thank You So Much for Your real solid advice ! Fathers Day hit me really hard, because---I always wanted children
and Fathers day and Mothers Day are difficult for Me. My story is for real. Sometimes, it keeps to get an outsiders opinion. I can understand how some folks, may thing this is some made up story. Believe, we all have issues in life, were dealing with. I truly, appreciate your genuine post :)

Leslie Richards wrote:

My apologies, wife. I really didn't mean to offend you. It's just that there are a lot of idiots waiting for an opening to be mean to someone on this forum. I hope you get some decent advice, and not more junk like post #10.
And I do have compassion, which is why I said to not listen to the garbage you were opening yourself to getting.
Good luck.

Thank You ! Not sure ??? are You
a Man ? I called YOU A LADY EARLIER. mY APOLOGIES
AS WELL.

Does your husband take medicine that might affect his ability to maintain and erection?

Does he drink or use other recreational drugs? This can effect his ability to get an erection and maintain an erection.

Just some thoughts to toss out.

Mabe

Lonely-Wife wrote:

<quoted text>Thank You ! Not sure ??? are You
a Man ? I called YOU A LADY EARLIER. mY APOLOGIES
AS WELL.

I'm a woman. I see your point about getting advice from people who are outside of your community. I wish you the best :)

Lonely-Wife wrote:

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Thank You Skipper ! I wish it was that easy :(

As you mentionned it, no kids....Did he wanted any ?
What I don't understand is the fact is telling you he never have any problem with others women, not very kind or flattering to me.
So, if it's because you he does not get an erction then unless you love him, leave him.
To me a man who do not try to improve and put his ego over his relationship is a kind of selfish.
Does he have any "need"? Because it does not mean he does not want some...and it's hard to believe he never went to see somewhere else.
To me it will be either you take it or leave it. Obviously you want to do something, what stopping you ?

Mabe McClay wrote:

Does your husband take medicine that might affect his ability to maintain and erection?
Does he drink or use other recreational drugs? This can effect his ability to get an erection and maintain an erection.
Just some thoughts to toss out.
Mabe

Thanks Mabe, no he has never used
drugs. He is a social beer drinker, he never has abuse alcohol. The Doctor, told us both---he thinks his problem is mental and that is the worst
problem to treat. Getting his mind off, the failure to maintain. He can have an erection, he just can't keep it. So, we have never had a real
sex life in 19yrs. I can't be creative any longer.
I feel empty inside and sad. I no longer, feel like a real woman. Thanks for Your Help.
We have prayed and tried every measures of treatment other then implants. Hes 52 and I am 47. This has been apart of us for almost 19yrs.
I married him for better or worse. I hope God, can understand---I can No Longer live in this empty relationship without a normal sex life.
I have done, all I can do. I hate to start my life all over in this world. Now, that our economy
is so bad, it would be almost impossible for us
to sell our home. I don't have the money to start my life over. I have stayed for security, thinking
this outways the sexless marriage.