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And that is what I don't understand. Why is it so rare? What happened to it? When did it become just another word? A person could go crazy trying to figure it out. How can someone fall out of love with their partner? I cannot imagine ever not loving my wife. No matter what. Even when we had our arguments,(and there were a few) I never stopped loving her. In fact, it made it stronger. Have times changed so much, or am I just over thinking this whole thing?
I don't think anything has happened to any of the levels of love because it's programmed in us to love, mate and reproduce. At risk is the lifelong committment, and I think that's what you mean, right?
The problem is, in my opinion, relationships have become too easily disposable.
Back to my original thoughts, people are not willing to put the work into loving another. The majority of young people today have had no role models. They have unrealistic expectations, are unable to recognize a potential partner, have little tolerance for imperfections, are selfish due to their "ME" mentality, and are confused about their roles.
This is just a few of the problems I see.
There are shallow, selfish individuals in every age group and it's been going on since our society became greedy for "things."
Now we have a helluva mess of mixed up children who haven't been taught how to extend themselves to another human being. They have an unrealistic image, an ideal, of what to expect in their "relationship" and turn away from anyone who doesn't fit into the mold of their model mate. I've seen this time and again.
Lots of immaturity out there and it's not limited to the younger generation, either.
I never believed one could fall out of love, but I do believe relationships can be destroyed. If there is abuse in a relationship, it can most certainly be gutted. But once you've loved, that remains, somewhere, in your soul.