I view men as predators

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FrigidGirl123 wrote:

I am just so tired of being alone really. I think that if I had a boyfriend and caught up with my peers I would be happy. Everyone is so much more experienced than I am--they have more sexual experience, relationship experience etc. I have never even spent the night over a guy's house before. This truly depresses me. And my mom feels sorry for me, she says she hates seeing me without a boyfriend and home by myself every weekend

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Mojoe wrote:

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It has been my experience, that if you depend on other people to make you happy, you will almost always be disapointed. Observe other people around you. Would you rather spend time with someone who is almost happy and has a sunny outlook on life, or someone who is unhappy and depressed? What I am trying to say, is that somehow, you need to make a change in your outlook. Try to focus on the positive. Smile, even if you have to force it. this will attract other positive people to you, untill it becomes a spontaneous reaction situation, with everyone benefiting from the positive energy. Negative energy brings everyone else around you down. Friends will deal with it to a point, but eventually, they will withdraw to protect themselves from the negativity. My sincere best wishes and hopes for you.

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genevieve wrote:

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I am not going to go and search out the other threads, I am not that invested in your stories. However, for you to ask for help, you actually have to listen to people and want their help. The general consesus was that your previous threads were not about seriously getting help, there were about you trying to get attention as your stories were frought with lies that you were caught in. If you want to re-read how everyone eventually turned on you until the threads dies then by all means go back and read those threads.
No one should be alone, but if you seriously want help an internet the forum is not the place for it. If you SERIOUSLY want help you would start with your family and ask for help, you would pick up a phone and start calling free clinics, you would pick up the phone and look at options for people with economic challenges becuase they do exist, if you were SERIOUS you would seek out help through the doctors at your college, if you were SERIOUS you would do research on the interent, if you were SERIOUS as a last resort you could go to the hospital. This is if you were serious.
I guess you can show people if you are serious. If you are serious GO do those things, search out real help. If you aren't serious keep posting.

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gacherry wrote:

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Oh, it's me who's negative now?? I was just giving a positive advice to someone and I couldnt describe what a negative person is other than citing you as an example since it's a common and most recent experience for both of us. You should be thanful I'm using your negativity for a positive purpose. You're such negative person!!!!

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FrigidGirl123 wrote:

I have never had any luck with relationships or anything. I am 24 and never been in love): I am watching all of my peers get married or settle into long term relationships, and I am viewed as the girl who is always single.
Well, in a way I am scared of men. I view them as predators. They always seem like they are up to something--only out to get sex or to try to use you to their advantage. In the past I have had friend set me up with guys and the experiences turned out horribly. The guy would say really mean things about me--that I am crazy, uptight, not fun etc etc. These things would hurt me and cause me to be pessimistic about ever finding a guy who really likes me. I even had a friend say that I will be single forever because I am "weird".
So whenever a guy approaches me, or I walk pass a group of guys I tense up and run from them in a way. I fear that they will say bad things about me or think that I am not good enough for them. And if I see a guy that I find attractive the first thing that pops into my head is that I am not "good enough" or he will think that I am "boring, crazy, and weird". If I see a really attractive guy in the grocery market or something, I won't even look his way, I will walk the other way because I feel like 9 times out of 10 my personality is not charismatic enough to hold his attention, and I will waste his and my time.

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Josh Helmick wrote:

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If I can't look someone in the eye, I don't trust them.

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FrigidGirl123 wrote:

I don't have anyone to turn to, if my family would help me do you think that I would still be so lonely and upset. My mom or dad do not want to help me at all, I guess they don't know how to deal with my depression. Not everyone has a supportive family

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FrigidGirl123 wrote:

I had someone I used to talk to, but it turned out that this person would talk about me behind my back. They told others my problems and would laugh about it. So I come to the internet.

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Josh Helmick wrote:

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I for one would never laugh at a person in need. But I am sure she has read the responses from other people on lesser and more pressing issues. Some of the posters on here are wanting only a response from their negative comments. I don't think she should turn to a bunch of strangers for help. I wish I knew her or lived near her so I may provide some advice or even just an open ear but I don't so all I can say is that she needs to seek help from someone she is comfortable with.

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FrigidGirl, unfortunately at 24 girls can be a bit cruel and what not. No one deserves to be laughed at behind their back. NO ONE. Remember it is better to have one true friend then many friends that you can not count on. gacherry jumped on my comments and twisted them out of context, however what I was urging you is to really truly listen to what people are telling you in this forum. The last time you posted it came across to people that you weren't even listening to the replies or acknowledging the advice that you were seeking. As I said before, no one should feel as though they have no one to turn to or that the world is against them. that must be a horrible feeling. I just urge you to listen to the advice that people give you so that they thread does not turn out as your previous ones have. that was the intent of my previous comments. Use your resources and find a support system that can help you feel confident and develop into the strong self-assured woman that you can be.

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Ronnnie wrote:

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I don't believe 24 yo women are going to change. If they still feel its alright to backstab their friends at that age then they will always do it.

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genevieve wrote:

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True, some people are mean and cruel no matter their age. But I do think that some people do grow up and at some point mature and realize that the value of a friend is of far more worth then pettiness and shallowness. I do think that many people see this at some point and it grows stronger as they age. I know for me personally, with each passing day I find even more value in the love of my family and close friends. It is much stronger and there is a stronger sense of appreciation now then when I was 24. That said, I was never one to backstab, etc.

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gacherry wrote:

I hope Frigidgirl is allowed to truly express herself without fear of being rejected or criticized for asking help in this forum.
But unfortunately, she could be intimidated by the presence of someone negative here who wants to star the forums.

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genevieve wrote:

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I must thank you gacherry for you admission. I do respect that you have taken the time to admit that your goal in this thread was to be the "star of the forums". I got that impression as well by the manner and volume that you were posting to you. So well done, I am proud that you would stand up and admit that you were just seeking attention! Perhaps now that you have admitted that you were motivated to get attention we can move on past your negativity and name calling and focus of FrigidGirl as many of us had been trying to do through the past several hours. Everyone needs attention from time to time, it was brave of you to admit to wanting to be the star of the forums. Well done.
Now please, us this to help the rest of us as we were trying to offer her some support as you can see.

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gacherry wrote:

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Well the poor girl doesn't need your judgmental and sarcastic support! If you think you are a star for booting her out then you badly need the help of a shrink. Pathetic!!!
Look, i cannot go on explaining how negative you are because twisting facts seems to be your favorite pastime and while your good at it, you are a very poor lier, Ms. Negativity!

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genevieve wrote:

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Your opinions and statements are becoming more ludicrous by the moment. Your goal of being the star of the forum is working. You really did give me a good laugh yesterday with your big girl lectures" that made no sense. If you think your lectures "worked" they did, they worked to show me what an immature, name calling hypocrite you are.
Obviously you are more focussed on wanting to spread your negativity and your lies.
Apparently your respect for FrigidGirl is quite low as you wish to keep this off topic. I however had tried many to get it back on topic. So with that, in THIS threads there is no more that I wish to say to you unless it is in regards to supporting FrigidGirl.
I know we can continue this else where ass you have been following me into multiple threads to name call and spread your negativity.
SHow some class and let the thread return to FrigidGirl.

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gacherry wrote:

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Good, at least you learned something from my lecture. Now that you know how hypocrite and immature you are, I hope you endeavor to make some personality revisions for the better. I'm an easy person, and a simple apology from you will do.
And please dont give me the crap about getting back to the topic because you know very well that you already booted out Frigidgirl, and you think you can do that to everybody else who disagree with you. Well, NOT TO ME, oh no... sorry. Oooopppssss, no sorry! Ms. Negativity!