MaleinFL

Fort Walton Beach, FL

#1 Apr 2, 2010
Ok, I am 25, straight, and out of college have been for 4 years). I have done the party thing, and just got tired of it. The entire time I was in college, I always had guys hitting on me, always trying to get me to do stuff, knowing that I was straight. I always turned them down, but the more I did, the more they pushed....especially when I was drinking. I have alot of friends that tell me that they don't see me that way, in fact most of the ones that say that are in fact gay. It died off for about two years after I left, but has recently started happening again, and it has me wondering, why do people always think that of me? And honestly, I just want to know what the big deal is... I actually asked one of my gay friends what would make people think I am recently and he said because I am a "pretty boy"....I take care of myself and am a "neat freak" (his words). He asked me if I had ever thought about doing it, just to see what my reaction to it would be, and I told him no, because really hadn't... but since then, I have been wondering, what the big deal is. I watched a couple gay porns, and was only able to get it up once, and it honestly surprised me. Part of me wants to go to my friend and see what the big deal is with the whole gay thing, but I don't know how I would take it if I actually went through with it? If I liked it...then what? Am I gay? If I don't like it, will I be able to live with myself? I don't know, but I am always going to wonder...

Any suggestions as to what I should do...if anything?

“Your Gods' Rules not mine.”

Since: Apr 07

Indianapolis

#2 Apr 3, 2010
If Gay porn did nothing for you and being hit on by men was mostly annoying then you're straight. But, experimentation is natural and NORMAL. Having Gay sex will not "make" you Gay.

1. There are some Gay men who will hit on anything with a penis.
2. There are some Gay men who have a neurotic desire to have sex with straight men. Some identify this as self-hating since no lasting relationship could come of it; some see it as edgy and daring; some do it to prove everyone is Gay.
3. Don't have sex with a friend, you're too old to be playing doctor with the neighborhood kids. It could lead to hard feelings (no pun intended).

If you want to experiment just BE SAFE (always with a condom, always, always, always) and don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.

Congratulations on not being a neanderthal about being hit on; you're a good person.
MaleinFL

Fort Walton Beach, FL

#3 Apr 3, 2010
My gay friend told me I could go to the gay bar here and just wait for a guy to come up to me, but I can't even make myself go into the bar itself...part of me wants to try it and part of me doesn't...the way I see it, you only live once, and I want to experience everything I can, but as I stated before, would I be able to live with myself if I actually did it. I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't...I guess I should just suck it up and do it...

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#4 Apr 4, 2010
MaleinFL wrote:
My gay friend told me I could go to the gay bar here and just wait for a guy to come up to me, but I can't even make myself go into the bar itself...part of me wants to try it and part of me doesn't...the way I see it, you only live once, and I want to experience everything I can, but as I stated before, would I be able to live with myself if I actually did it. I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't...I guess I should just suck it up and do it...
Don't do it with a stranger. Find someone you care about and trust. Make it perfectly clear that it's just a "trial". I've made out and more with a few of my straight friends. Some were drunk, some weren't. With a few it was never talked about again, and with a few it went to the point that they found out they were gay. I never lost a friend over anything we did, but we were very clear about where we stood. You may be bi. Don't worry, being straight isn't the end of the world!(Just a little humor there) You're young, take a few SAFE chances.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#5 Apr 4, 2010
Have fun and experiment. Do what feels good to you? Be safe but don't feel you have to limit yourself because you are straight. Don't feel like you have to fit under a specific label either just like it find you. There are some things men can do to pleasure a man better than women and there are some things men are willing to do for another man that most women would not. The male g-spot (prostate) is probably something you'd want a guy friend to help you explore.

“Son of Abraham”

Since: Aug 07

Natural Deviant

#13 Apr 4, 2010
MaleinFL wrote:
My gay friend told me I could go to the gay bar here and just wait for a guy to come up to me, but I can't even make myself go into the bar itself...part of me wants to try it and part of me doesn't...the way I see it, you only live once, and I want to experience everything I can, but as I stated before, would I be able to live with myself if I actually did it. I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't...I guess I should just suck it up and do it...
You should definitely try it. Let me put it to you this way:

I've heard of plenty of guys who have gone down on a girl only to insist they'll never do that again but I have never, ever, heard of a guy going down on another guy and not wanting to do it again. I'm not sure how far you want to venture into gay sex but every guy deserves a good BJ and the difference couldn't be more vast on the quality and intensity.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#14 Apr 6, 2010
McMike wrote:
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You should definitely try it. Let me put it to you this way:
I've heard of plenty of guys who have gone down on a girl only to insist they'll never do that again but I have never, ever, heard of a guy going down on another guy and not wanting to do it again. I'm not sure how far you want to venture into gay sex but every guy deserves a good BJ and the difference couldn't be more vast on the quality and intensity.
He should let a guy do it for comparison's sake. Straight guys that have had it done will say it's better than any girl has done.
The Virgin Queen

AOL

#15 Apr 6, 2010
equalityboy81 wrote:
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He should let a guy do it for comparison's sake. Straight guys that have had it done will say it's better than any girl has done.
This just further authenticates the theory that gays recruit.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#16 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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This just further authenticates the theory that gays recruit.
Just because a gay man has sex with a straight man it will not change his sexual orientation. I never stated that could be done.

You cannot change anyone's sexual orientation.

I'm done with watching what I say. We are going to be stereotyped, stigmatized, demonized, and dehumanized either way. Only when people become educated will it stop.

It doesn't matter what people assume because it doesn't justify denying a segment of society equal rights.

I'm not telling any straight guy to do anything they don't want to do or anyone for that matter. I believe in consensual sex, not rape.
Rose

North Hollywood, CA

#17 Apr 6, 2010
NE Jade wrote:
<quoted text>Don't do it with a stranger. Find someone you care about and trust. Make it perfectly clear that it's just a "trial". I've made out and more with a few of my straight friends. Some were drunk, some weren't. With a few it was never talked about again, and with a few it went to the point that they found out they were gay. I never lost a friend over anything we did, but we were very clear about where we stood. You may be bi. Don't worry, being straight isn't the end of the world!(Just a little humor there) You're young, take a few SAFE chances.
I'm a straight chick. I've done it with another woman (we both know) at my boy friend's request.(All straight guys have that fantasy.)
So, the situation was safe.
To the straight guy thinking and wondering...
I wouldn't do anything I didn't feel very. very comfortable with.
Having sex with a member of the same sex doesn't make you gay.
I'd do it again if asked, but I have no yearning for it. Kind of like running a scan on the computer.
The Virgin Queen

AOL

#18 Apr 6, 2010
equalityboy81 wrote:
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Just because a gay man has sex with a straight man it will not change his sexual orientation. I never stated that could be done.
You cannot change anyone's sexual orientation.
I'm done with watching what I say. We are going to be stereotyped, stigmatized, demonized, and dehumanized either way. Only when people become educated will it stop.
It doesn't matter what people assume because it doesn't justify denying a segment of society equal rights.
I'm not telling any straight guy to do anything they don't want to do or anyone for that matter. I believe in consensual sex, not rape.
You are telling a straight guy to "try" gay sex with knowing his personal situation, or taking into account what the consequences for his life will be. Instead of telling him to try it and see if he likes it, you should be asking him to at the very least talk it out with a therapist first.
Short Left Index Finger

Toronto, Canada

#19 Apr 6, 2010
People with short left index fingers date women and people with short right index fingers date men.

Since: Aug 08

Location hidden

#20 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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You are telling a straight guy to "try" gay sex with knowing his personal situation, or taking into account what the consequences for his life will be. Instead of telling him to try it and see if he likes it, you should be asking him to at the very least talk it out with a therapist first.
So should he seek therapy if he were a virgin and curious about having sex with a woman? I see what you are trying to say but do not completely agree with you.

The decision is ultimately up to him to try whatever type of sex he wants. A 25-year-old man is completely capable of consenting or declining a sexual offer. If he decided to try gay sex and didn't like all he'd have to do is say this isn't working out for me.

Saying a straight person that is curious about gay sex should try it is no different than a straight guy telling a gay guy to try sex with a girl that we gays don't know what we are missing out on. I've been told that before and I'm not traumatized by it. I just know women aren't my thing and therefore feel no desire to try it. If guys are not his thing I'm sure he'll have no issue with declining a sexual offer. The man is not mentally incompetent. I can tell by his first post he is not.
The Virgin Queen

AOL

#21 Apr 6, 2010
equalityboy81 wrote:
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So should he seek therapy if he were a virgin and curious about having sex with a woman? I see what you are trying to say but do not completely agree with you.
The decision is ultimately up to him to try whatever type of sex he wants. A 25-year-old man is completely capable of consenting or declining a sexual offer. If he decided to try gay sex and didn't like all he'd have to do is say this isn't working out for me.
Saying a straight person that is curious about gay sex should try it is no different than a straight guy telling a gay guy to try sex with a girl that we gays don't know what we are missing out on. I've been told that before and I'm not traumatized by it. I just know women aren't my thing and therefore feel no desire to try it. If guys are not his thing I'm sure he'll have no issue with declining a sexual offer. The man is not mentally incompetent. I can tell by his first post he is not.
Equality, in this instance there is a big difference between being gay and straight. Maybe you're too young to realize this but the gay lifestyle is one that usually leads to self-destruction and/or loneliness. No one should be encouraged along that path, especially a straight male who at least has the option of functioning in a more traditional lifestyle. It's one thing to make such choices for yourself but really...you shouldn't be encouraging someone else to get into something that could result in negative consequences.

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#22 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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You are telling a straight guy to "try" gay sex with knowing his personal situation, or taking into account what the consequences for his life will be. Instead of telling him to try it and see if he likes it, you should be asking him to at the very least talk it out with a therapist first.
OK, let me get this "recherried/straight', before the guy tries anything sexual, he should see a therapist? Christ, people like you make therapists rich. He's young, maybe hung, and more than likely, full of come. Let him live safely, consenting, and with no regrets.

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#23 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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Equality, in this instance there is a big difference between being gay and straight. Maybe you're too young to realize this but the gay lifestyle ...blah, blah, blah
Just because your "lifestyle" lacks substance, doesn't mean everyone else's does. Grow a pair and go live!

“Son of Abraham”

Since: Aug 07

Natural Deviant

#24 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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This just further authenticates the theory that gays recruit.
There is no need to "recruit" when most guys are at least bi-curious. The only recruiting going on is showing people there's nothing to be ashamed of however, as we all know, you're the poster child for closet cases.

“Son of Abraham”

Since: Aug 07

Natural Deviant

#25 Apr 6, 2010
The Virgin Queen wrote:
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You are telling a straight guy to "try" gay sex with knowing his personal situation, or taking into account what the consequences for his life will be. Instead of telling him to try it and see if he likes it, you should be asking him to at the very least talk it out with a therapist first.
You're insane.

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#27 Apr 6, 2010
McMike wrote:
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You're insane.
He is "recherried". Every dried up queen needs that!
Booty

Owensboro, KY

#28 Jan 23, 2013
This girl is such a hoe

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