I believe homosexuality is a human fettish thing. If you are practicing it, then thats your business, I dont hate you, but I kinda shy away from the "born this way" thing. I think its a excuse to say you like what you like. No one is born gay or straight, you pick up things as you go, and gays have told me this, but the other gays think "born this way". Its propaganda to be accepted by the mainstream I believe. I do not hate gays, I have lesbian friends, and I dont judge them, but I dont think anyone is born this way, hell, some have changed to straight, thats when I stop believe that about gays.
Most straight people as well as most gay people will tell you they have no choice over to whom they are emotionally and physically attracted. Only bisexual people are attracted to members of both sexes.
With the prejudice and hate frequently expressed on these threads, why would anyone choose a life of legal and social rejection, demonization, and dehumanization? I certainly wouldn't, and all of the gay people I know agree the only choice was whether to live life authentically, or try live a life of denial and deceit.
Ironically, much of the research showing orientation is not a choice, comes from efforts to change it. Not only have such efforts shown efforts to change orientation are not successful, but that they are often harmful to the point of self destructive behavior including suicide.
"Contrary to claims of sexual orientation change advocates and practitioners, there is insufficient evidence to support the use of psychological interventions to change sexual orientation," said Judith M. Glassgold, PsyD, chair of the task force. "Scientifically rigorous older studies in this area found that sexual orientation was unlikely to change due to efforts designed for this purpose. Contrary to the claims of SOCE practitioners and advocates, recent research studies do not provide evidence of sexual orientation change as the research methods are inadequate to determine the effectiveness of these interventions." Glassgold added: "At most, certain studies suggested that some individuals learned how to ignore or not act on their homosexual attractions. Yet, these studies did not indicate for whom this was possible, how long it lasted or its long-term mental health effects. Also, this result was much less likely to be true for people who started out only attracted to people of the same sex."
"Based on this review, the task force recommended that mental health professionals avoid misrepresenting the efficacy of sexual orientation change efforts when providing assistance to people distressed about their own or others' sexual orientation."
Insufficient Evidence that Sexual Orientation Change Efforts Work, Says [American Psychological Association]