How old should you be to lose your virginity?

confused wrote:

HELP!!!!!!!!!!
Please answer back.
This guy came up to me in school out side,i was by my self and he grabbed me and pushed me down and tried to make me have sex with him!!! i called him a perv. and he hurt me i got off the ground and ran inside.im scard now! I know who he is but he said if i said anything to anyone he hurt me!!!
I still go to the same school but he has not messed with me and i have not told it happend when i was 11. im 12 now and i have a boyfriend put i keep him distant im afraid to let him get close him asked me why i kept pushing him away. i dont know what to do please help me!!!

My half-sister had a similar experience we she was 12 by an older boy at her school. She was really scared when she got her first boyfriend after the incident but she soon managed to put it behind her. I think you should only have sexual contact with your boyfriend if you know you can trust him. Have you told anyone about what happened to you? If you don't want to tell an adult tell a close friend, it'll feel better once you talk to someone,
Svetlana

kelly wrote:

okay my boyfriend wants to lose his virginity to me and me to him but im really young and im afraid that he will lose it to somebody else and not me help me please
kelly
12 years old

Kelly, when I was 12 I lost my virginity and I'm 15 now. At the time I was very scared that I would be called a slut, if you decide to lose your virginity only tell close friends and/or family that you know you can trust. It dosen't make you a slut if you lose it at a young age, your just curious, still it's up to you to make your own decision on this one,
Svetlana

a guy from ireland wrote:

Iam 15 I really lose it dnt no y do-I going crasy allways think about girls -I dnt hav a gf am i gonna turn into a manslut i worried about me.12 too yong

It's ok to be curious at your age, and unless you explore your sexual curiousity you will never know what it's like. Boys at your age who are going through puberty often think about girls, and it's normal,
Svetlana.

Me and my boyfriend were round his house on his bed watching a DVD. When it was over (the time was about 10:00) he asked me if I wanted to sleep with him, so I said yes not really thinking about what I was doing. He went to the bathroom to get ready, and I was lying in his bed having second thoughts about sex because I was 15 at the time. When he came back I shut my eyes and pretended to have fallen asleep. We still haven't talked about what happened that night but since then we have had sex (I'm 16 now) and we used a condom - random story I felt I had to hate with you!
Reya

Me and this boy Dominc are really good friends and I have to admit I fancy him a bit. I'm 12 and he's 13. We were talking about how funny it would be if one of us brought in vodka and drank it out of a Lucozade bottle in our art lession, so I brought some in the next day. We ended up buying loads more alcohol from some year 10's and were drunk. Dom's best friend Matt was sober and he took us around the back of the tennis courts and got us some water to try to sober us up for the rest of lunch. Neither me or Dom had ever kissed anyone before, so what happened next was new to us. You probrably guessed it by now, we kissed and he was feeling my boobs (through my shirt). I really like him and I've thought about it a lot and I really wanna loose my virginity with him but the last time I asked him out we fell out once we broke up for 3 weeks - I know he want's to loose it as well but I really don't wanna get him drunk again so he will have sex with me or anything.

Hi, I'm Alyssa and I wanna tell you about a little story I have from last year:

Me and this boy are like best friends, and so he invited me to a new year party on 2011 to celebrate. He has a key to his nan's house and she has a massive cupboard of alcohol and his nan was on holiday, so me and about 26 others went there that night. He found the key to the cupboard about 2 hours after the party started, but there was little alcohol. Me & him and about 15 others drank the remaining alcohol in the cupboard, but none of us were drunk. Me & Dom acted like we were drunk, but I think we both new we didn't have enough to get us drunk. Anyway, he said "kiss me" an hour later so we kissed and then we went into the bathroom and he fingered me for about 10 minutes. The next day I rang him saying "I'm sorry I didn't mean for anything to happen I was drunk" , but we both knew we didn't have enough to get us drunk and we kissed because we wanted to. I just wanna remain friends but I don't wanna confront him and say "you weren't drunk, were you?" incase he reacts badly, please help!
Alyssa x

Hi I'm tiffany, I'm currently a virgin. I'm 17. Most people I talk to say they're not a virgin and that they have sex often. This sort of made me feel left out because I made a pact with myself to not have sex until I'm 18, out of high school, and in a one year relationship with a guy I trust. Am I setting my standards too high? Should I be proud to be a virgin? Please, I need some advice.

makenna wrote:

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i bet im going to feel like a total retard when i say this, but, is there anyway u can prove ur not a creepy-child molester-rapist-person? because my dad is incredibly over protective, and he will want to know who u r if i start texting u. sry, i cant even think how stupid i sound right now.

Well I don't have any besides sending you a pic. And I'm not a creep like Jerry Sandusky

im going to type my number in a different way, because it isnt showing up on my phone.

eight three one- six hundred- five five three two

eight hundred, thirty one- six hundred- five thousand, five hundred, thirty two

i have no life.

makenna wrote:

im going to type my number in a different way, because it isnt showing up on my phone.
eight three one- six hundred- five five three two
eight hundred, thirty one- six hundred- five thousand, five hundred, thirty two
i have no life.

Haha smart thinking I'll text you tomorro before my basketball game bcuz it's and away game so I have to ride the bus for an hour or so......so I'll be pretty bored

The best time to lose your virginity is after you get married!

Tiffany wrote:

Hi I'm tiffany, I'm currently a virgin. I'm 17. Most people I talk to say they're not a virgin and that they have sex often. This sort of made me feel left out because I made a pact with myself to not have sex until I'm 18, out of high school, and in a one year relationship with a guy I trust. Am I setting my standards too high? Should I be proud to be a virgin? Please, I need some advice.

A lot of people these days bullshit about loosing their virginity, so your probrably not the only one. If you know you can trust him but promised yourself no sex until you leave school then maybe start of with something like oral and see where it goes from there, good luck!! From Alyssa :)

Ok so there's this girl called Tyler at my school who lost her virginity when she was 12 (my current age) and everyone calls her a slut. I've been in a relationship with this guy I like, Mac, and I know he really wants to loose his virginity and I feel like I'm holding him down because I don't want anything to get out and end up like Tyler, please help!!

HELP!!!!
On Friday me and best friend (who I also have a crush on) drank loads of vodka and got drunk. Anyway, he kissed me but then his phone rang and he had to go. I really like him (he's dosen't know) and we have plans to meet up on Thursday with a few more mates and bring vodka - I really wanna loose my virginity or at least have oral sex with him but I'm worried because I don't wanna get him drunk everytime I wanna kiss him...:/

VIRGIN NOT wrote:

U SHOULD LOSE IT WHEN YOUR READI IM 12 AND IM NOT A VIRGIN I LOST IT YESTERDAY WITH A BOY IM IN LOVE WITH BUT HE DONT LOVE ME DID I MAKE A GOOD CHOICE????

That happened to me the 3rd time I had sex... I think u need to confront him about your feelings and say something like "we've been through a lo together"

emily wrote:

help
i just met this guy named nick and he ask me to have sex am 15 years old and i think am ready not sure though plz help i love him he said he'd wait for to be ready what should i do?????help me

Hun, if he said he'll wait then he does love you enough to wait. He is totally worth it, but don't be to sure he could just say that to get you to do it. I was young when i did it and it's not worth it at all he broke up with me right after. i should have waited til i was married. i am married now and he made me feel welcome and he loved me after.

i am 12 years old and i lost my virginity to a 17 year old the smorning was it wrong or should i do it again

red hot red hed wrote:

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what kinda people are raising you!!!???

bahahahah thats sooo funny!! seriously? chick must be some kinda hoebagg. or have hoebagg mommy :p baaa!!

Im about to turn 15 in sept. and my boyfriend just turned 17 in Jan. I really have alot of feelings for him even though we've been dating for a month now. He said he wants to have sex with me he isnt pressuring me as much but i know he wants to have sex. Im still a virgin but he isnt. Idk what to tell him or what to do . Help?!

well i am 13 and i am goin out with a 15yr old he has already lost it and he keeps sayin he is waitin till i am ready but sometimes its like he only cares about sex i just dont even know what to do can anyone give me some advice please?