Making people yawn :(

this is embarrassing to admit and to ask.
i have noticed that i make people yawn when i speak. i have tried to pay attention to see if maybe it is my language. but it looks like it is people from both sides of the languages that i speak have that reaction. i don't know if it is my tone, or my very bad articulation of what i am trying to get out ...
i have noticed that lately i have a hard time getting to a point or articulating what i am thinking. and it has not always been like that. and it didn't happen over night either.
is this something that you have seen or heard of before? it is embarrassing to see that as soon as i say maybe a couple of words, i can tell the person is trying to avoid yawning! the reason i think it's my tone? because, they have not even had time to listen to what i have to say for them to get bored by what i am saying. a very odd thing i think this is.
thank you for your time.

AikKid wrote:

this is embarrassing to admit and to ask.
i have noticed that i make people yawn when i speak. i have tried to pay attention to see if maybe it is my language. but it looks like it is people from both sides of the languages that i speak have that reaction. i don't know if it is my tone, or my very bad articulation of what i am trying to get out ...
i have noticed that lately i have a hard time getting to a point or articulating what i am thinking. and it has not always been like that. and it didn't happen over night either.
is this something that you have seen or heard of before? it is embarrassing to see that as soon as i say maybe a couple of words, i can tell the person is trying to avoid yawning! the reason i think it's my tone? because, they have not even had time to listen to what i have to say for them to get bored by what i am saying. a very odd thing i think this is.
thank you for your time.
Wow! I can't believe I'm seeing this! The same thing happens to me. People start yawning when I speak. And I was also wondering why. Did you ever get an answer to your quesion here?

Wow! I can't believe I'm seeing this! The same thing happens to me. People start yawning when I speak. And I was also wondering why. Did you ever get an answer to your quesion here?

Wow! I can't believe I'm seeing this! The same thing happens to me. People start yawning when I speak. And I was also wondering why. Did you ever get an answer to your quesion here?

Damm!!!!! I thought this only happened to me. I though it was I was a boring person. The feedback I am getting from many could me because my voice is monotone. I keep repeating myself or say the same thing over and over again during a conversation.

I believe if you slow down when speaking - take your time - articulate an pronunciate your words in a low tone may cause the other person to relax and be more receptive to what you have to say.

Damm I thought this only happened to me. I though it was because I was a boring person. The feedback I am getting from many could be because my voice is monotone. I keep repeating myself or saying the same thing over and over again during a conversation.

I believe if you slow down when speaking - take your time - articulate an pronunciate your words in a low tone - you may cause the other person to relax and be more receptive to what you have to say.

This is an interesting topic. I think it is all about presentation. If you want people to be interested in what your saying, you have to make it interesting for them to hear. So, try to spruce up what you are saying by using a variety of facial expressions, a variety of intonation in your voice, and try not to use fillers like ummm, you know, and like. It is easier said than done, but try to be concise.

yeah, all this happens to me too. I'm pretty conscious of it, and I'm not crazy.

I too have trouble articulating what I'd like to say. I really envy those people who can get asked a question, and respond with a structured, multi-layered response that actually reinforces that they know what they are talking about. I know what I'm trying to say, but I end up saying some mediocre, fragmented thing which I think just bores the hell out of the person I'm speaking too.

On those rare occasions when I'm on top of the world, I have no trouble conversing and making people laugh etc. However when it counts, like when I am in a group of people I don't know well but would like to make an impression, this is when I suck the energy out of the whole group.

ITs so bad that I avoid going out anywhere, and I'm pretty sure I'm not crazy. I guess I'm glad to know that this kind of stuff happens to other people. Are we aliens lol.

why don't we setup a support group, albeit virtual? Does anyone here have TMJ problems? Could this be a possible cause?

well i yawn too.... i think yr momma does too... lol

Today some scientists say that yawning cools the brain. If so, why those people start cooling their brains as soon as one of you speaks? Their brains suddenly get overheated. Why? As many of you suggested, it is because your communication style is difficult to absorb. Perhaps, it takes a lot more concentration, guessing, exerting one part of the brain to understand what you are saying, so people's brains overheat, and they start yawning. Good speaker grabs people's attention, his speech is smooth, and yet colorful, it tends, perhaps, to light up one area of the brain after another, without overheating one of them. Such speech would evoke emotion, logic, sexuality, artistry, pragmatism, intuition, you name it, it would cause beautiful fireworks in people's brain , instead of burning out one fuse completely.
Then again, your speech might bring such a load of unique, unordinary information, that heats up people's brains, and they start to yawn in order to ease the thinking process, in order to be able to continue to absorb your words. A child yawns a lot trying to hear the end of the favorite fairy tale. That is yawning to stay in a game.
If I go to a kindergarden, and read them a theory of relativity, I am sure they will yawn none stop, and still fall asleep. It is not because they want to hear this theory, or the theory of relativity has to be rewritten, it's because you did not choose proper audience. That is yawning of drowning in indigestible information.
Another reason people can yawn, is on purpose ( which is extremely rude), as to sand you away. Some do it because they are not upt for intellectual work, some do it because your words are no use to them, so they think it is a waste of time listening to you. That would happen if they have no manners to explain themselves, or if after several signals to end conversation, you continue anyway, so they resort to rudeness to stop it.
If your speech is out of the range of their interests, they should politely switch the subject, instead of yawning. It takes good social skills to avoid demeaning person's words. Purposeful yawning borders with emotional abuse.

Slack vempire, you might be having social anxiety. On your own, when anxiety is not there, you are a great thinker. Perhaps, you can write a lot better, than talking in front of unfamiliar people. Try to keep a circle of familiar people, so you can be more often on top of the world. With practice, however, and with less care about impressing people, you will talk more freely to anybody. Another trick for social anxiety: ask people many questions about them, then you will turn into a listener, and, surprise, surprise, they will consider you a great conversationalist.
Reading great literature will also enrich your speech.

The yawning thing has happened to me a couple of times, but I believe that it is the result of the other person only being interested in what they themselves have to say so when they finish speaking their brain turns off and they yawn.(consider the personalities involved)
However if the other person respects what you have to say and is interested in hearing your opinion then they wont yawn.
If they are yawning then dont waste your breath just agree with what they had to say and move on...

this has been happening to me for years.when im relaxed ,it doesnt happen.it has totally affected my life.i wont go on a date because it always occurs in the car and i fear it may happen on my date.if she yawns once ,it makes me more tense .which makes her yawn over and over again.so i avoid most situations.its not what i say.its the stress i have in my throat while im speaking that causes it.ive tried everything.breathing properly,gum, meditation ...the other day i was with someone new and he said ^ i dont know why im so tired all of a sudden and why do i keep yawning^when im relaxed it does not happen.when it does occur im stressed and feel a strain in my voice .can someone advise or help me?

Okay
How many of you were dropped on your head as a kid?
Or how many of you went through electric shock therapy (or got stuck to an electric lawnmower while you were mowing the lawn in bare feet because the lawn was wet and you were being electicuted)
Tortured by your older brothers or sisters till you passed out.
Born to old parents or people who shouldn't have been parents.
Or Have a physical or mental disability!
Think carefully now... there must be some reason... something we have in common besides making half the population yawn while we are desparately trying to communicate.
I know I am slow mentally. I have been told I am smart. Sometimes I wonder about the smart though because I have done some real funny idiodic things in my lifetime.
Stress in the background of our lives can drag us down so low that you have difficulty communicating with friends let alone some smart talking individual who likes to pick on others for the fun of it. I got relatives who walk into a room and I have to think of them as a couple in order to remember their names and only one just walked in. My mental cpu is overloaded. I can be quite witty (at least I think so) I can also suck the life out of a room just by walking in.
WHAT don't tell me I'm the only one. It's only one step away from a yawn because all you have to do is start broadcasting and no one is listening.
Everything that you people are experiencing I do too. Don't let it bother you. It will make it worse.
Lets try and have some fun and try and figure this out. If you are approaching a crowd of people who you are afraid to speak to just "Smile and wave" just "smile and wave boys". Keep walkin you don't belong there. Not yet anyway, especially if you are afraid to talk to them. Think of a few witty things to say before you get too close so you can carry on to your destination. Don't let them know they make you feel bad. Snicker about a private joke to yourself and if anyone says anything be prepared to quote a book too old or too new for anyone to have heard of. Keep a joke or on liner available and change them often.
This forum has got my attention but has anybody noticed how long it has taken to get to this point.
Don't worry how long it took for us to get here.
We are here now.
How am I don't today "Fabulous and You?"

Don't you just love it when you screw up the ending to a perfectly good rant. It's like tripping and ruining a perfectly good exit.
When I realised I had mispelled the ending I searched in vane for the mysteriously absent edit button I had read sooo much about.
For those of you who have taken the time to read the previous post, I do apologise, it should of ended with a question. It was supposed to uplift your spirits and show you how I react when meeting people.
It is supposed to create a response!
Sooooo may I please repeat my previous statment.

How am I doing today? "Fabulous and You?"

Wow
I don't know why I bother to check back to see if anyone has responded. I know I have a problem but I am not afraid to face it.
No wonder people yawn.
Aikid.. I think you are right... tone, stance, presentation also speed at which it is delivered as well as lack of questions for the lister.

Shawndrie "I believe if you slow down when speaking - take your time - articulate an pronunciate your words in a low tone - you may cause the other person to relax and be more receptive to what you have to say."

Think about it, really think... Shawndrie if they are yawning you need to PICK UP THE PACE AND KEEP IT REALLY SHORT SO THEY CAN RESPOND.

Denice is right in what she has to say but it is so much more that causes people to be bored.
Slack Vampire experiences the same things I do.
Slack Vampire Are you getting enough sleep or are you destracted by some project you have running in the back of your mind. Other people said they can tell when I become tired but I am unaware of it.
Work with me here d_aus.. I am trying to kick start some help right here!!!
Tony you are probably right.
Keep the topics light, very short sentences, leave em with a joke.
Hey James if you are reading this I am trying to help all of us but I have to ask the question.
Is anybody out there?
Is anybody interested in trying to fix this in themselves?
If somehow I have missed the point of this forum please tell me because I feel I am wasting my time.

nah not wasting your time. perhaps everyone feels there is a silver bullet to this issue? mentally this is killing me. i've started to distance myself to others in the fear. my anxiety has taken control of my life. i've developed a phobia speaking to people and even worse, can't even properly function at work which requires me to talk a lot. urgghhhhh

I did notice one thing if I got lots of rest I seemed to be quicker mentally. A little quicker with the one liners. Try and leave em laughing. Try keeping the conversation short. At least the part you (we are saying) Get input try and tell your stories differently. Stories! I bet you are like me in that we tell stories describing our life experiences. Ask questions on how the other person feels about what you just said. Spruce it up. Don't get too relaxed. Don't withdraw. Make contact with old friends. Laugh. Volunteer at the local food bank. Do anything to give yourself value and pride. Be proud in doing a good job.
Thanks for writing. Get some rest see if it makes any difference.
Joe

Sorry about that d_aus.
Opps hope it made you laugh. Shows you how much I know about forums eh.
I did notice one thing if I got lots of rest I seemed to be quicker mentally. A little quicker with the one liners. Try and leave em laughing. Try keeping the conversation short. At least the part you (we are saying) Get input try and tell your stories differently. Stories! I bet you are like me in that we tell stories describing our life experiences. Ask questions on how the other person feels about what you just said. Spruce it up. Don't get too relaxed. Don't withdraw. Make contact with old friends. Laugh. Volunteer at the local food bank. Do anything to give yourself value and pride. Be proud in doing a good job.
Thanks for writing. Get some rest see if it makes any difference.