Sexual attraction to my massage therapist

Not just my male massage and myself are attracted to each other, we are both married. I have been going to him for two and a half years. I started to notice he has feeling for me for about half a year. I am a woman and I can tell from the way he looked at me.

Hoppy Easter!

Transference, Counter-Transference. That's why they have ethics classes in most massage schools.

LMT wrote:

Transference, Counter-Transference. That's why they have ethics classes in most massage schools.

So what's next, what should I do or not do?

He doesn't really have feelings for you, he is just doing his job. Get over yourself.

Teacher wrote:

He doesn't really have feelings for you, he is just doing his job. Get over yourself.

He asked me out for coffee at my last session.

dlee5377 wrote:

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So what's next, what should I do or not do?

The general rule taught in ethics class is to end the professional relationship (the massages) and wait 6 months before beginning a romantic relationship. If you still have feelings for him, it was meant to be.

Your married and actually thinking about cheating on your husband? You actually need someone to tell you that this is wrong? You let someone you are attracted to touch you while you are naked, and you aren't sure what to do about it? Hmmmm..........

Yes I am married...No I am not thinking of cheating...I do not need someone to tell me this is wrong because I know this is wrong if I would have started an affair with my massage therapist...I said I noticed that he has feeling for me and asked me out for coffee...I am just trying to get an opinion...

dlee wrote:

Yes I am married...No I am not thinking of cheating...I do not need someone to tell me this is wrong because I know this is wrong if I would have started an affair with my massage therapist...I said I noticed that he has feeling for me and asked me out for coffee...I am just trying to get an opinion...

My opinion is: You already KNOW what to do, you are just trying to justify your actions.

Well, my view is that marriage is for life (I'm not married by the way). ANything that threatens the integrity of the relationship should be jettisoned immediately. If that means ending your relationship with the massage therapist, so be it.

The way to look at it is :'Would I like my husband to be doing the same thing'?

Right on Eric!

I prefer a male massage therapist, my question is does this imply to the therapist that I am looking for more than a massage?? I was asked out by one so I stopped going to him and am seeing a new one
any thoughts ??

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Payel sharma wrote:

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Has the pope moved to Norway?

I think it is natural to feel attraction for someone who make you feel a sort a paradise.
A sweet, lovely massage is more sensual for a woman than a normal sex practice. I experienced this situation and I decided to change the massage therapist because I pay him for having this service. He is just doing his work. Maybe he does not see you as a soul but just as a body. You feel frustrate after the massage and not happy.
A wonderful massage is a surrogate of a kind of relationship which is very rare.
For the spa center is a big deal

One day I was going to drop off a book at my wife's friends place near my work during my lunch break. It was a real hot and humid summer day in July. I knocked on the door for about 10 mins and she finally answered the door. She was wearing a skimpy bikni while her huge boob were bopping out on her tiny body. My jaw dropped when I saw her. She said she was sun bathing in the back yard. She invited me in. We talked a bit but I could not stop staring. She caught me and I said sorry but I just think you are so beautyful. She said thanks. She said she plans to do more sun bathing when I leave but she needed help putting lotion on her back. I untied the back string and rubbed the lotion on her back. I was getting real hard and even bummped into to her on purpose so she could feel it. She said is that what I think it is. I yes, sorry I was just getting excited. She turned around and took off her top and said would you like to rub theses. From there, I we did it. I shot my load all over those big boobs. What a lunch experience.

Leave your phone number on a card behind saying something along the lines of " do you do this kind of work on the side" " might be cheaper for me and more beneficial to you" should take a hint