Husband (27) is having "trouble" and I don't know what to do.

My husband is 27 years old. He just got out from serving a year in prison. When he first came home we successfully had sex for a couple of weeks, but lately he has been losing his erection early on during sex. The last time we tried was hopeless and he hasn't even touched me since. We haven't talked about it...it is like an elephant in the room. I'm wondering if this could be due to stress due to adjustment and trying to find a job. My worst fear is that he is just not turned on by me anymore.

Can anyone please offer me any advice about how to approach the subject. I do not want to put more pressure on him, or humiliate him. I just want us to find a solution.

Thanks.:)

You need to take a hard look at yourself, and the situation. Look to yourself first. Have you let yourself "go"?

Next is there something thatg happened to him there that is making him think about something besides you? Some man love maybe? Does he feel guilty about it? Do you need to offer him something similar?

Lot's to think about.

He probably need to check a doctor to se what is wrong with him.

No. LOL (sorry) I have definately not let myself go. Without coming off as conceited, I consider myself to be above average when it comes to looks. I even "made enhancements" while he was in. ;)

I thought about the possiblity of him having experienced relations with another man, but honestly I don't see that ever happening. He is very comfortable with his sexuality and I think that is something he would be willing to talk about if it was the case. Besides, he was only in there for a year.

One thing that I've been thinking is this. For a whole year, all he could do was pleasure himself. I'm wondering if he got so used to it, that now that's the only way he can "achieve".???

I'm scared to bring up going to the doctor, but maybe that is what needs to happen. Thanks.

Oh...and I think he is watching a lot of porn...could that be part of the problem?

You may consider that your husband is sexually exhausted. It happens when you chronically lack key nutrients in your blood but continue sexual activity despite that fact. In the end you will get your hypothalamus-pituitary-testicu lar axis locked, and will lack the essential androgen hormones DHEA , testosterone and DHT to unlock it.

The key to dealing with this problem is:
-Make your husband stop any sexual activity and let him rejuvenate.
- You may want to use supplemental support(such as key vitamins and minerals + Human Growth Hormone promoting formulas) to assist him in boosting the rejuvenation time required.
- Stay positive and don't lose hope, he is attrackted to you.
Regards

Source and additional information: http://www.solidhealth.org/sexual_health/men

He has 2 things working against him, stress and porn.

He needs a check up by his doctor that includes a Testosterone check. Could be low Testosterone.

Has he tried the ED pills? He needs to stop masturbation. My guess is he is masturbating while watching porn.

Get him off his back side,look every where for a job even is working at McD's and turn off his access to porn.

My 2 cents worth.

Jackp

Lonestar13 wrote:

My husband is 27 years old. He just got out from serving a year in prison. When he first came home we successfully had sex for a couple of weeks, but lately he has been losing his erection early on during sex. The last time we tried was hopeless and he hasn't even touched me since. We haven't talked about it...it is like an elephant in the room. I'm wondering if this could be due to stress due to adjustment and trying to find a job. My worst fear is that he is just not turned on by me anymore.
Can anyone please offer me any advice about how to approach the subject. I do not want to put more pressure on him, or humiliate him. I just want us to find a solution.
Thanks.:)

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I appreciate everyone's advice. I have asked him to lay off the porn/masturbation. We have been intimate more lately, but not like I would hope for. Since I posted last he has started working steady. He's tired when he get's home because it is hard work, but things seem to be getting better.??? Maybe he is just feeling better about himself.

If the problem doesn't continue to improve, I'm going to ask him to go to the doctor.

Thanks again.

Lonestar13 wrote:

My husband is 27 years old. He just got out from serving a year in prison. When he first came home we successfully had sex for a couple of weeks, but lately he has been losing his erection early on during sex. The last time we tried was hopeless and he hasn't even touched me since. We haven't talked about it...it is like an elephant in the room. I'm wondering if this could be due to stress due to adjustment and trying to find a job. My worst fear is that he is just not turned on by me anymore.
Can anyone please offer me any advice about how to approach the subject. I do not want to put more pressure on him, or humiliate him. I just want us to find a solution.
Thanks.:)

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Thank you...I assumed it was. ;)

I have another question....

Yesterday I was looking at the history on my computer to find a website. I noticed that most of the porn he is looking at his black women. Now I don't have anything against black women, but I myself am a white girl. That coupled with the fact that he is not as interested in sex with me anymore, has me a little concerned.

I guess my question is...Do men tend to fantasize about what they want, or do they stometimes fantasize about things that aren't the "norm" for them in reality? I'm so confused, and hurt...but I don't want to approach him about it in the wrong way.

perhaps he's been violated and would respond if you were to shove something up his buttox

Thanks Bubba ;) I've already done that...

Lonestar13 wrote:

Thank you...I assumed it was. ;)
I have another question....
Yesterday I was looking at the history on my computer to find a website. I noticed that most of the porn he is looking at his black women. Now I don't have anything against black women, but I myself am a white girl. That coupled with the fact that he is not as interested in sex with me anymore, has me a little concerned.
I guess my question is...Do men tend to fantasize about what they want, or do they stometimes fantasize about things that aren't the "norm" for them in reality? I'm so confused, and hurt...but I don't want to approach him about it in the wrong way.

Young men fantasize about a lot of things. Fantasy is normal acting out on a fantasy is not. One of two things is going on he is masturbating to the porn or has a friend on the side. One way or another you need to know the truth.
If you want to save the relationship you both need counceling. If he wont go then go by yourself. The witholding of sex with you is not normal.
Jackp

He just need to find himself, that's all.

Jackp~ I appreciate your response. I am very aware that he is masturbating to porn...aLOT! He even does it in front of me sometimes. I'm 99.9% positive there is no-one on the side, and if there was, I do believe he would be honest with me about it. We've been through a lot in the past couple years so I'm thinking that counceling would be a good idea. I hope he is game.:)
Thanks again.

YUP prison'll do that too ya.

Lonestar13 wrote:

Jackp~ I appreciate your response. I am very aware that he is masturbating to porn...aLOT! He even does it in front of me sometimes. I'm 99.9% positive there is no-one on the side, and if there was, I do believe he would be honest with me about it. We've been through a lot in the past couple years so I'm thinking that counceling would be a good idea. I hope he is game.:)
Thanks again.

That he is doing it in front of you probally means he is adicted to both porn and masturbation.
You will have to treat him just like any other addict. If he won't go to counceling go yourself, you will need the support. He has to decide which is more important to him, you or his addiction.
Jackp