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ANNETTE
Northridge, CA
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mmj wrote: My mother recently lost her husband of 40 years. More than half of those years together they were alcoholics. Now she has been diagnosed with nonhodgkins lymphoma. She has started chemo and other treatments. She continues to drink. While my father was ill, I always told the doctors how much he drank because my parents down played how much they consumed. I wrote letters to my mothers doctors informing them of her drinking. This is what my two siblings agreed and supported. I am mostly concerned about her drinking the night before chemo. She has a power port that has to be drained before every treatment.The doctors are stumped why her port had a hematoma. Now my mom has found out about the letters to her doctors and is full of angry and hate to us her children. I wish there was a rehab for cancer patients to recieve cancer treatments and to learn how to live a sober life. Her illness is so advanced and that has left me wondering if causing a rift between our relationship due to the letters were worth it, but then did I do everything I could have done to let her have more time with her children and grandchildren. I will have to see.... My thoughts and prayers are with you. i agree with you rehab/chemo at the same time. My boyfriend(46) passed away in May and he chose to stop chemo in November 2009 and drink when he wanted instead. He went out the way he wanted to no matter how many times I talked to him about drinking. You did the right thing writing her doctors.You had to do that for you as well. she is just protecting her addiction.
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Sad Aunt
High Point, NC
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Mary - California wrote: All of the fact sheets for the different types of chemo caution that you are not to drink alcohol while going through chemo and it isn't recommended during radiation, either. That being said, I am a breast cancer survivor. I am going through chemo for the second time. I do not smoke, drink, do drugs, etc. and I haven't. I have tried to maintain a healthy lifestyle from a very young age, but I love people that have gone through treatment that did some of those things. The answer is that you love people through and support them just because you do. There are a lot of people in my life with addictions and I love them still. If you love someone you just do and you accept them flaws and all knowing that the only person you can change in life is you. Accepting that and letting go of what you think someone else should do to change their life will set you free. It's hard to accept a person who continues to drown himself in alcohol when his 13 year old son begs him to stop so the chemo and radiation can work.
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ANNETTE
Northridge, CA
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Sad Aunt wrote: <quoted text>
It's hard to accept a person who continues to drown himself in alcohol when his 13 year old son begs him to stop so the chemo and radiation can work. The 13 year old needs to go to ALATEEN support groups with other kids his own age to talk about his feelings about the father still drinking for starters. He needs to understand the three c's. HE DIDN'T CAUSE IT, CAN'T CONTROL IT, AND CAN'T CURE IT. Good Luck...
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Helen
London, UK
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I need help my brother is an alcoholic and just had a full laryngectomy and started chemotherapy and radiotherapy but I just found out his been drinking again, I'm so frightened that his treatment will not work please someone help thanks Helen x
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blablabla
Dundee, UK
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my friend is recieving radition everyday and is still drinking is this allowed i say no
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cyndi
Maineville, OH
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can i have and occasional drink during the holidays with rectal cancer and taking chemo pills and radiation.
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Shay
New York, NY
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I self medicated with alcohol to forget how afraid I was while going thru sugary then radiation for breast cancer..going to tell my oncologist.
Didn't think it or anything at the time...just wanted to numb the fear and pain away.
Thank you for making me aware...
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Heather
Burton-on-trent, UK
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Our son has non Hodgkins lymphoma of late diagnosis. He has been drinking all the way thro chemo.We all love him so much but fear him too. He controls us all with heavy sarcasm and treats his siblings with utter disdain.This Christmastime is breaking our hearts and we feel so sad for all you guys who are suffering with us.We are senior citizens and we felt alone til we got on this site. Thankfully, we believe in prayer but our son is his own god and that makes it so hard.
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AURORA
San Antonio, TX
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I AM A 32 YR OLD FEMALE DIAGNOSED WITH NON HODGKINS LYNPHOMA LARGE B CELL , MY DOCTOR ADVISED FOR ME NOT TO DRINK DURING MY CHEMO AFTER 4 CYCLES MY SCAN CAME BACK CLEAN ,BUT I STILL HAVE TO UNDERGO 3 MORE TREATMENTS , I GOT ON HERE TONIGHT BECAUSE I WANTED TO GO OUT WITH MY HUSBAND AND AT THE MOST DRINK 3 BEERS , BUT U KNOW WHAT IM JUST GUNNA WAIT THE UNTIL MY INTIRE CHEMO SESSION IS OVER WHICH IS ABOUT ANOTHER 3 MONTHS :) HOPE YALL DO THE SAME MUCH LUCK TO EVERYONE
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