She wants to pursue workplace relationship

Rational wrote:

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*Gasp* Why Flawless. How inappropriate! Miss Manners would not approve!(well actually maybe she would. Am I the only one who looks at that picture of her and thinks "man she has a devilish look about her like she just shagged the pool boy or something!")

Perv.

jennifer wrote:

LW3: Amy is off her rocker today. Great taste in women indeed. The daughter no doubt had alot of adjusting to do as a child and teenager when her father forced on her so many siblings and step-siblings because of his lack of maturity.

Really. Maybe her reply was light hearted because the letter writer seemed okay with it - but I find it bizarre to be joking about a guy being married 5 times. Unless it is Elizabeth Taylor or Erica Kane, there is something basically disturbing about it.

Stone Thrower wrote:

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Hehe. The stories I could tell...

Go for it, whats holding you back?

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LW1.....Could the man you are dating just be family oriented and you are one the outside of HIS family? Sounds like he has a close lifelong bond with his kids and while he dates you THEY are forever. He doesn't want to make waves.
LW2..... Multiple step-family members at the wedding. Sounds like the daughter is marching right in the father's steps.(pardon the pun.).

Stone Thrower wrote:

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Hehe. The stories I could tell...

You tease!:)

EEE wrote:

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Perv.

Haha... Nah I doubt Rational ever even has sexual thoughts, right Rational?

EEE wrote:

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Perv.

Have you looked at that picture? That glint in her eyes that says "oh yeah, you have NO IDEA what Im capable of!!!"

Rational wrote:

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Ha-ha! Me too. I havent had my coffee yet.

I've had coffee and my head is still spinning. She must be one smart woman.

Am I the only one who noticed she's been with this guy SIX years but she has been a widow for FIVE years? Just curious is all. Sometimes people look for companionship when a spouse is terminal and can't emotionally support the other spouse. I wouldn't blame her if that was the situation -- just noticed it is all.

I say she should give him an ultimatium and if he doesn't buck up like an adult and tell those "kids" she should take her marbles and go.

As for the co-workers, he better be really hot to put such a stress on your job. If the relationship doesn't work out, you gotta see the guy each day. Better be sure of your and his maturity before you start something.

As for the divorcing dad, he sounds like a jerk. Sounds to me that all the ex-wives were basically sounding the warning signal to the current wife and having a fine joke at her expense. No, a wedding probably isn't the place for such jokes but after a few drinks, that's what happens. You can't get all worked up about "what's proper conversation" when you got a room full of people. If you don't like the conversation, go speak with another relative.....

Flawless wrote:

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She does sorda have a smile on her face that says: Hey I just got some.
Either way life is too short.
There are so many different ways you could explore work place sex, which seems inappropriate, but makes it all that more exciting. ;)

That is a capitol idea. I suggest they start on the photocopier.

About the kids and the new lady, the kids are self-centered morons who need to be drop-kicked out of a rowboat. My kids have been the same with my second marriage, they're now 20 and 23. It's all about their mom. These people do not have that issue. They need to see a proctologist to et their heads out of their @sses.

Rational wrote:

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*Gasp* Why Flawless. How inappropriate! Miss Manners would not approve!(well actually maybe she would. Am I the only one who looks at that picture of her and thinks "man she has a devilish look about her like she just shagged the pool boy or something!")

Bad Visual. Bad BAD visual.

Okay since you started it...

Maybe Mr. Manners was taking the photo and the gleem in her eye was the thought of their previous "photo" session. I'm surprised the video hasn't surfaced on the internet yet.

My company has three couples who met at work and gotten married. Um, it depends what the type of corporate atmosphere the company has. I know my friend's law firm is strict about the no-dating policy. I'm in advertising so a lot of artist types here and its very chill. But sometimes you get pervs working with you who want to just sleep around. That creates tension between people who are involved and some end up quiting. Honestly, I would never date somebody from work cuz I have to deal with that person at work and after. ew FRAK that!

I know better than to kiss and tell, but I do have suggestions for the LW:

1) If you are in the same department/division or he has any authority over you: DON'T DO IT! Mostly because whoever holds the power at work will hold the power in the relationship and although that can be fun in some cases, generally it is a recipe for too much drama or a situation where someone has to look for a new job.

2) Anyway, keeping it on the DL can be a stupid amount of fun. Little is hotter than "running into" each other when you both are working late and no one is around.(Of course, not doing too much b/c you must save yourself for marriage. Only evil dirty things have premarital sex.) The tension when you are in the same boring meeting is also quite a rush.

3) Not having to work with each other directly is key if the relationship doesn't work out in the long run. Assuming you are both adults about it, give each other space and time and then it will be just a great memory. If you are the type to get heartbroken easily when relationships end, you won't be able to deal with it at work, and really - you will annoy the bejesus out of your coworkers with your moping that will only be compounded with the fact you will probably torture yourself by "running into" him post-relationship.

BTW. I completely agree with Rational, Miss Manners has a look...

Flawless wrote:

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Eh I disagree with your response to LW1. I say go for it and one day in the middle of work on a slow day when she's feeling kind of frisky go and grab him up and find a closed in office and have him throw her over the desk or maybe a storage room, throwing her up against everything, don't forget to lock the door and be discreet about it.

Do you know how hard it's going to be for me to get through the day now? That hot hunk in accounts is in trouble now....and you are the one to be blamed!

LP Trixie wrote:

My company has three couples who met at work and gotten married. Um, it depends what the type of corporate atmosphere the company has. I know my friend's law firm is strict about the no-dating policy. I'm in advertising so a lot of artist types here and its very chill. But sometimes you get pervs working with you who want to just sleep around. That creates tension between people who are involved and some end up quiting. Honestly, I would never date somebody from work cuz I have to deal with that person at work and after. ew FRAK that!

*sigh* Yet again I must disagree with your statement LP Trixie. I think a company where it is accepted to sleep around creates a very low stress environment! I mean, have you ever been to a strip club? Everyone looks pretty laid back to me!

:)

Rational wrote:

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*sigh* Yet again I must disagree with your statement LP Trixie. I think a company where it is accepted to sleep around creates a very low stress environment! I mean, have you ever been to a strip club? Everyone looks pretty laid back to me!
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And they would all have great complexion.

Terri at home wrote:

Am I the only one who noticed she's been with this guy SIX years but she has been a widow for FIVE years?....

No no. I read it that way at first, but what she says is:

"He HAD BEEN a widower for nine years, and I HAD BEEN a widow for five years."

Nothing untoward. The grown kids need to lighten up and put their father's feelings first for a change.

LW3. Wow! Who does this guy think he is, Elizabeth Taylor? Sounds like the mother and daughter are able to see the absurdity in the father's behavior. Good for them. A healthy sense of humor is often the best tool.

Rational wrote:

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*sigh* Yet again I must disagree with your statement LP Trixie. I think a company where it is accepted to sleep around creates a very low stress environment! I mean, have you ever been to a strip club? Everyone looks pretty laid back to me!
:)

My. You ARE pervy today.

Rational wrote:

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*sigh* Yet again I must disagree with your statement LP Trixie. I think a company where it is accepted to sleep around creates a very low stress environment! I mean, have you ever been to a strip club? Everyone looks pretty laid back to me!
:)

Rational, I tend to agree with Trixie's comment. Have you ever watched ER? They're constantly jumping around, every doctor has slept with every nurse, and it's always stressful there!

But seriously, I wouldn't want to date (or marry) anyone I work with, because once the relationship inevitably ends, it would make for a very uncomfortable workplace. If I enjoyed my job, that would ruin it. Perhaps that's why so many offices have a rule against office dating.