Lincoln efforts in teen pregnancy

ha ur dum wrote:

im 16 and im actually TRYING to get my girlfriend pregnant!

are you going to pay your own freight? or turn the kid over to the taxpayers to raise?.

hahahahaha wrote:

Accidents happen. I got pregnant at 17 and it wasn't for attention or "free stuff", I just finished my first year of college and my bf and I have our own place. & we arent on welfare. And I have my child 24/7 except for when she's in day care for me to go to school or work. Not everyone gets prego for attention it's just one thing that can happen when your having sex. & I chose to take responsibility for my actions instead of running off and having an abortion. Ppl gripe because teens are getting prego but then they gripe cause they have an abortion someone will always b!tch about something and judge ppl. Instead of juding someone how about telling them how awesome of a mother they are and what a great job they are doing.

WOw you juding girls and women who know they are not fit to have get an abortion as not being responsibility yet you want a patted on the head for being a single teenage mother. Abortion IS take responbilty when YOU KNOW your not fit and/or heath endanger. So is given the kid up for adoption. Being a teenage mother epsicaly a single teen age mother with no father/girlfriend around IS NOT responsible.

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ha ur dum wrote:

im 16 and im actually TRYING to get my girlfriend pregnant!

WHY, so she can end up stuck with a baby and risk not even graduating high school? Yeah, pal, you're a real "nice guy"...NOT.

I hope your GF stays free from pregnancy and eventually DUMPS you.

hahahahaha wrote:

Accidents happen. I got pregnant at 17 and it wasn't for attention or "free stuff", I just finished my first year of college and my bf and I have our own place. & we arent on welfare. And I have my child 24/7 except for when she's in day care for me to go to school or work. Not everyone gets prego for attention it's just one thing that can happen when your having sex. & I chose to take responsibility for my actions instead of running off and having an abortion. Ppl gripe because teens are getting prego but then they gripe cause they have an abortion someone will always b!tch about something and judge ppl. Instead of juding someone how about telling them how awesome of a mother they are and what a great job they are doing.

So in your opinion having an abortion to AVOID the hardships of teen motherhood is "not taking responsibility?" Sorry, but I STRONGLY disagree.

Having an abortion IS taking responsibility, just not in the way YOU judge is "right." So is giving a baby for adoption if a girl doesn't want to undergo an abortion. You're being rather judgmental yourself when you imply that being a teenage mother is the ONLY way to be responsible.

Personally, I think teen pregnancy/teen motherhood is a BAD IDEA, for a number of reasons, so I don't support it and make no apologies for not doing so. Thank goodness I DIDN'T become a teen mom and that I didn't have to give up my teenage years for motherhood.

pregnancy rates could not be any worse than the blacks in the projects in Huntington and Charleston popping out welfare babies like puppies.

sam wrote:

<quoted text>WOw you juding girls and women who know they are not fit to have get an abortion as not being responsibility yet you want a patted on the head for being a single teenage mother. Abortion IS take responbilty when YOU KNOW your not fit and/or heath endanger. So is given the kid up for adoption. Being a teenage mother epsicaly a single teen age mother with no father/girlfriend around IS NOT responsible.

There are other options like adoption. And abortion is murdering an innocent child plain and simple. I'd rather be a single mother then have to go through life knowing I had a baby but chose to KILL it.

Ocean56 wrote:

<quoted text>So in your opinion having an abortion to AVOID the hardships of teen motherhood is "not taking responsibility?" Sorry, but I STRONGLY disagree.

Having an abortion IS taking responsibility, just not in the way YOU judge is "right." So is giving a baby for adoption if a girl doesn't want to undergo an abortion. You're being rather judgmental yourself when you imply that being a teenage mother is the ONLY way to be responsible.

Personally, I think teen pregnancy/teen motherhood is a BAD IDEA, for a number of reasons, so I don't support it and make no apologies for not doing so. Thank goodness I DIDN'T become a teen mom and that I didn't have to give up my teenage years for motherhood.

I wouldn't trade being a mother for arnything. Everyone has there own opinions. But I'm glad I had my child when I did cause if I would've waited some family wouldn't have gotten to meet her And vice versa. I also have a lot of support from my family as well and still get to go out with friends on weekends because family wants to spend time with her. But like I said everyone has there own opinions.

hahahahaha wrote:

There are other options like adoption. And abortion is murdering an innocent child plain and simple. I'd rather be a single mother then have to go through life knowing I had a baby but chose to KILL it.

No, abortion is the termination of an unwanted pregnancy, in most cases in the first few weeks. Obviously, YOU feel abortion is wrong, but that doesn't mean every girl or woman has to feel the same.

Personally, I'm very glad I did NOT have to suffer the miseries and hardships of teen pregnancy/motherhood. Then again, I didn't cave in to the demands from some sex-starved boyfriend to have sex either, so I never had to worry about ruining my life because I got stuck being pregnant either.

hahahahaha wrote:

I wouldn't trade being a mother for arnything. Everyone has there own opinions.

Okay. On the flip side, there are a lot of women who wish they had NEVER had one or more children to begin with. They wish they could turn back the clock to the time they were happy and fairly carefree teenagers or young women WITHOUT kids again, but of course they know they can't.

Not every girl or woman is suited for motherhood. IMO it's irresponsible to assume that just because YOU "wouldn't trade being a mother for anything" that other girls and women should become single teen mothers as well. I would prefer that teen girls realize how much more freedom they have by NOT getting pregnant, and wisely decide to keep it and refuse to have sex with guys while in high school. Not having sex is the ONLY way to guarantee that girls stay free from unwanted pregnancy and STD's.

Lincoln county is full of 14-15year olds having babies. They think that they will be famous just like the show Teen Mom. That is the worst show ever it just tells them it's ok to have baby that you be on tv. It's so sad babies having babies or having an abortion just like one LC students did

oh yea right wrote:

Lincoln county is full of 14-15year olds having babies. They think that they will be famous just like the show Teen Mom. That is the worst show ever it just tells them it's ok to have baby that you be on tv.

I've seen quite a few segments of both "16 and Pregnant" and "Teen Mom," and I strongly disagree with the assertion that it "glamorizes" or "glorifies" teen pregnancy. From all I have seen on these programs, what these girls go through is NOTHING glamorous or glorious.

They have to experience all the hardships of pregnancy and motherhood at a time when they could have been enjoying their years as a teenager instead. They lose those years, which they'll never get back, and in many cases they lose most of their friends as well.

This article might be of interest to anyone who really thinks it's a "good" idea to get pregnant as a teenager.

http://voices.yahoo.com/what-its-really-like-...


What It’s Really Like to Be a Teen Mom
by Kelly Morris March 25, 2012

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"You've probably watched "16 and Pregnant" or "Teen Mom" on MTV, or at least heard about those shows. While I think it's a good idea to draw attention to the issues that face teen moms, I have to wonder if those shows are portraying teen motherhood in a realistic way. Consider the fact that Amber, one of the moms featured in "Teen Mom," reported that she earned $280,000 in one year. The typical teen mom certainly does not have that kind of income!

I was a teen mom. I gave birth to my daughter when I was 17. While I think childbirth and parenting are beautiful things, the reality of life as a teen mom was harder than I ever could have imagined.

The Day-to-Day Reality

I hadn't spent much time with babies before I had my own. I had the idea that they slept a lot and that they would cry when they needed fed, or diapered, or held, or were sick. I thought I would feed my daughter, change her diaper, rock her for a few minutes, and then she would go back to sleep. I didn't realize that babies sometimes cry for hours and sometimes you can't figure out what's wrong. I knew babies woke up during the night to eat, but thought I would just take her into bed with me, breastfeed her, and we'd both go back to sleep. I didn't realize that babies sometimes wake up multiple times during the night and that they don't always go right back to sleep. I also failed to realize how hard it is to be constantly sleep-deprived. I just didn't realize how much work it is to care for a newborn baby, and let me tell you, it doesn't get easier when the baby becomes a toddler.

Education

I learned I was pregnant at the beginning of my junior year of high school. It never even occurred to me that my pregnancy or motherhood would interfere with my education. Then I developed terrible morning sickness, technically known as hyperemesis gravidarum. At one point I was hospitalized for dehydration and found myself trying to study for a history test from a hospital bed. I missed a lot of school and ended up having to repeat my junior year. I thought it would get better after I gave birth, but found that it's almost impossible to study while trying to entertain a fussy baby.

Dr. Phil's website reports that teen pregnancy is the number one reason girls drop out of school. Only about one third of teen moms graduate from high school. I wasn't one of them; I ended up leaving school and getting my GED."

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This is why I continue to say that teen pregnancy/motherhood is a BAD IDEA, because it imposes so many NEGATIVE impacts on a girl's life that she would do well to avoid by not having sexual activity. Click on the link below to read the rest of the article.

http://voices.yahoo.com/what-its-really-like-...

DOING THE MATH

One of the most overlooked factors of being a teen mom or teen dad is how much it really costs to care for a baby and child. Many teens have no idea whatsoever how truly EXPENSIVE it is to buy all the supplies a baby will need, even in the first two months.
So, just to do a little research myself, I took a notebook with me on my last shopping trip to the grocery store, and wrote down the costs for items that parents will need for a baby. Here's a short price list:

Diapers - Huggies (to 14 pounds) 40/pkg.$9.99
Formula - Enfamil, newborn, 6 2oz. btl/pkg.$7.99
Wipes - Pampers baby wipes, 72/pkg.$2.79
Bottles - Evenflo, 3/pkg.$5.69
Bottle cleaning brush, 1/pkg.$2.99
Pacifiers - Nuk, 2/pkg.$3.69
Diaper rash cream - Desitin, 1 tube $5.45
Baby powder - Johnson's lrg. economy size $4.59
Baby wash - Johnson's lrg.$2.79
Baby shampoo - Johnson's med. size $3.99

The above are just the BASE prices, which were priced on 3/26/12. The cost for diapers and formula will quickly multiply, depending on how much formula the baby needs and how many diaper changes the baby must have to keep his/her skin healthy. Diapers must be changed quite frequently to avoid diaper rash, which occurs as a result of babies being in a wet or stinky diaper for too long.
Let's assume, as an example, that the baby will have to be changed six times a day. The cost of diapers, which is $9.99 for a package of 40 can multiply as follows:

6 diapers per day, x 7 days = 42 diapers
42 diapers per week, x 4 weeks =$168 per month

The cost of formula can multiply a lot too, depending on how much formula is used per day. When my son was a newborn and infant, he could easily consume a bottle at each feeding, which could be 2 or 3 ounces. If the baby is bigger, he/she will need more at each feeding.

The base cost for a six-pack of Enfamil ready-to-use 2oz. bottles is $7.99, which is really $8.00 minus a penny. It can multiply as follows:

2 six-packs per week @$8.00 =$16.00 per week
$16.00 x 4 weeks =$64.00 month

Remember, these figures are just ESTIMATES. Parents may choose different types of formula, but they have to know what the cost is, and they'll have to multiply it for a monthly estimate.
Also, these costs are for diapers and formula ALONE. Parents will also have to buy clothes, a car seat (required by law), crib, stroller, infant seat, baby toys, and the list goes on.

It will be difficult, and in some cases impossible, for teen parents to buy all these necessities for a baby when they are too young to even work if they are younger than 16. Even for older teen parents, they still must graduate high school to be able to get better jobs.

Babies are EXPENSIVE. The sooner teen girls and guys know that, the better.

High Ticket Items

In every segment of the "16 and Pregnant" documentary, the girl makes the point that she had no idea how EXPENSIVE raising a baby is. Too often, doing the math to find out what items are needed and how much each item will cost wasn't done until the teen girl was six, seven, or even eight months along in her pregnancy. IMO waiting several months to find out what costs are involved is a huge mistake.

The MUST-have items that a teen needs to have if she plans to keep and raise the baby are as follows:

1. Car seat (required by LAW)
2. Crib
3. Stroller
4. Diaper bag (with portable changing pad)
5. Special garbage pail for diapers

This is IN ADDITION to the previous list, which was for everyday items like diapers, formula, bottles, wipes, pacifiers, and other things that mom will need every day. Some car seats can go as high as $200, and a crib can cost $200 or even more. I remember paying $500+ for my son's crib, and the car seat was about $150. That was over 15 years ago, and I am sure the prices for some of these items have gone up, depending on how expensive the store is.

Teens need to be aware of how EXPENSIVE it is to raise a baby, preferably BEFORE a pregnancy occurs but definitely before the baby arrives. Doing the math and buying these items, IF the mom decides to raise her baby, should never be left to the last two or three months.

Ocean56 wrote:

<quoted text>No, abortion is the termination of an unwanted pregnancy, in most cases in the first few weeks. Obviously, YOU feel abortion is wrong, but that doesn't mean every girl or woman has to feel the same.

Personally, I'm very glad I did NOT have to suffer the miseries and hardships of teen pregnancy/motherhood. Then again, I didn't cave in to the demands from some sex-starved boyfriend to have sex either, so I never had to worry about ruining my life because I got stuck being pregnant either.

Well I can assure u didn't cave into demands lmao and being a teen mom isn't hard unless u make it. And by that I mean teens these days are lazy and dont want a job.

Ocean56 wrote:

<quoted text>Okay. On the flip side, there are a lot of women who wish they had NEVER had one or more children to begin with. They wish they could turn back the clock to the time they were happy and fairly carefree teenagers or young women WITHOUT kids again, but of course they know they can't.

Not every girl or woman is suited for motherhood. IMO it's irresponsible to assume that just because YOU "wouldn't trade being a mother for anything" that other girls and women should become single teen mothers as well. I would prefer that teen girls realize how much more freedom they have by NOT getting pregnant, and wisely decide to keep it and refuse to have sex with guys while in high school. Not having sex is the ONLY way to guarantee that girls stay free from unwanted pregnancy and STD's.

Well I'm not a single mother so idk how that feels. But honestly most teens are having sex. Can u honestly say u waited to have sex till marriage or after high school? I doubt it.

oh yea right wrote:

Lincoln county is full of 14-15year olds having babies. They think that they will be famous just like the show Teen Mom. That is the worst show ever it just tells them it's ok to have baby that you be on tv. It's so sad babies having babies or having an abortion just like one LC students did

16 & pregnant I feel shows the hardships of pregnancy but teen mom 2 not so much

stuck wrote:

Well I can assure u didn't cave into demands lmao and being a teen mom isn't hard unless u make it. And by that I mean teens these days are lazy and dont want a job.

Actually, I was too SMART to fall into the stupid trap of teen pregnancy and motherhood, so your rather lame attempt at insult is rather amusing.

So teen pregnancy/motherhood, which is UNPAID by the way, is considered a "job" now? Gee, I wonder why so many teen girls and guys DON'T want it. Other than the fact that there's NO pay for the "job" and NO time off, that is. Why any girl would WANT to be a teen mom and not be able to complete all her education and get a good paying job after that is beyond me. Thank goodness I didn't HAVE to be one.

stuck wrote:

<quoted text>Well I'm not a single mother so idk how that feels. But honestly most teens are having sex. Can u honestly say u waited to have sex till marriage or after high school? I doubt it.

yes I can honestly say that I did wait till I was married! So there !!!! I guess I am just old school though that's the way it should be

stuck wrote:

Well I'm not a single mother so idk how that feels. But honestly most teens are having sex. Can u honestly say u waited to have sex till marriage or after high school? I doubt it.

Doubt it all you like if that makes you feel better.

I DIDN'T wait until getting married to have sex. I DID wait until after I had graduated high school and then completed my vocational program after that, however. Then I got a great job and was able to pay for my OWN birth control, after seeing a doctor.

I didn't want any of my plans for graduating high school, completing vocational training and then getting a great job after that RUINED by an unwanted pregnancy. My plans DIDN'T include being stuck with an unwanted pregnancy and being a teen mom.