Three Teens Die In Wolcott Crash

I think that alot of people who are defending this boy are people that wouldn't be defending him and his record if it was their child that was in the backseat and is now dead! RIGHT?? It's sad anytime a child is killed, but do you know what's even sadder than that? When it was all PREVENTABLE!! this didn't have to happen...it wouldn't have happened if the parents had taken the money and spent it on some driving lessons, and demanded he take some AAA classes since he was drinking and driving at the age of 16. Put yourself in the shoes of Tham's parents...they are the innocent people in this mess. I'm sure you'd look at anthony's record in a different light if your child died in his "accident". Think about it and then write in. Could you honestly say that you would feel safe being on the road with him with all of your children in your minivan? I wouldn't.

to "a wolcott mom" who has written...I'm sure that there are plenty of the wolcott kids that are saddened about this "accident", but I'm sure there are plenty of them that would agree that he was an accident waiting to happen. Before you write in and defend anthony...just think...if your daughter/sister died in his backseat, would you think it was an accident after hearing about all of this driving mishaps in the short year of driving that he's done, never mind his other very serious accident almost killing 2 people? When it's your child that dies, you wouldn't be as quick to defend him, would you? well, put yourself in Tham's parents shoes...their daughter wasn't speeding, or driving drunk of breaking any other law, she was totally innocent and in the wrong place at the wrong time. I feel for that family totally.

yes he did have a bad driving record but he was not drunk at the time of the accident so that was not even relevent and i am not saying that i do not feel for her family what i am saying is not to call a 17 yr old dead child an asshole and whatever else you believe him to be because he wasnt a bad kid he made mistakes and people that know him are on here and grieving they do not need to hear this stuff just remember they are children who have lost friends of theirs it is not right to make them feel like that and then to make fun of his cousin for mis-spelling words real nice. it could have happended to any one.

Most of us will agree that a time like this, these parents deserve compassion, sympathy and support. But respect? Respect is given when earned. What respect did they show to Darryl Ramones’s parents after Anthony nearly killed their son? What respect have they shown to the other innocent drivers on the road? Respect for the law? Instead of having respect for their own community, they felt Anthony's want for another fast car was more important. These parents had to be aware of their child's behavior as a driver. Numerous violations, DUI, almost killing himself and a friend in less than a year! How many clues did they need to see that Anthony was a danger to himself and to others on the road! Were they that naive to believe that if they just ignored the obvious nothing bad could happen? Their son almost DIED 6 months ago! He didn't but what if Darryl did? Their son could of been jailed for vehicle manslaughter! What kind of parents wouldn't see that as the biggest wake up call of their lives!!!! Did they share the same lack of maturity with their son to not realize that Anthony's actions will effect others. Anthony DID NOT deserve this.! Everyone that loved this young man DOES NOT deserve this! But so many of them knew of Anthony's love for speed and that he had a daredevil side to him. Can they honestly say they are all that surprised of this horrible outcome? With his driving record, you don't have to have ESP to predict that this tragedy was a possibility! Some of you want to blame DMV because they had a loophole that allowed this underage boy to drive again after only 90 days. But wasn't the decision to allow Anthony to drive ultimately up to his parents? They could of said NO! Let this be a lesson to all parents...... These parents loved their son but in this aspect of his life they loved him carelessly! Good parents say no to their kids in the best interest of their children’s safety and well being. Good parents teach their children that in life there will always be consequences for your actions. Good parents realize that you can't always be your child's "friend". Good parents know that your child may not always "like" you but they will always "love" you. Good children will understand this.

These parents just lost their children....seriously! I highly doubt they give a sh*t about your opinion. This could have happened to anyone... I mean it happens everyday. Do you have children? What if it was your child driving. Now that's a different story right? Parents can not control everything their children do.....its called lying and all teenagers do it. It breaks my heart to hear about young kids losing their lives and I suggest you think before you write something as ignorant as you are. Come back to reality. Think before you speak.

Family Friend wrote:

Have some compassion. Kids are kids and the tragedy happened. Not even a shred of hope for the parents. Anthony always loved to test the limits with anything and everything. That’s just his personality. And by the way- Anthony could do anything on a BMX bike as well. Instead of criticizing the parents, How about some compassion for them. No matter what and how it happened, their babies are gone. Both of them.
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I agree that everyone should have compassion for their parents because they are my cousins, and I was very devastated when I heard the news.

anonymous i total agree but dont even bother trying to explain to these people they are unbelievable with the things that they are coming up with they are not realizing that this kid was 17 and he was a kid and young people are reading this stuff that they are writting

Anonymous wrote:

These parents just lost their children....seriously! I highly doubt they give a sh*t about your opinion. This could have happened to anyone... I mean it happens everyday. Do you have children? What if it was your child driving. Now that's a different story right? Parents can not control everything their children do.....its called lying and all teenagers do it. It breaks my heart to hear about young kids losing their lives and I suggest you think before you write something as ignorant as you are. Come back to reality. Think before you speak.

Not quite sure to whom you addressed your message to.... You're correct. Teenagers lie. Parents can not control everything their children do. But this young man's driving record does NOT lie and his parents could of controlled this. They could of made the choice to take his irresponsible and reckless driving more seriously and not allow him to drive until he proved himself worthy of the priveledge. It breaks anyone's heart to hear about young people losing their lives but when it could of been prevented is even more heartbreaking. If you truly believe that these parents couldn't of done SOMETHING to avoided this almost predictable tragedy than you are the ignorant one my dear and it would be wise not to have children yourself. Of course these parents don't give a #$%* about our opinions! Our opinions are hopefully preventing other parents from making the same mistake.

A bereaved parent wrote:

My heart goes out to the parents of all the children. May our Lord walk beside them as they take small steps in the days ahead and may his Love fill your hearts with peace forevermore.

Thank you for keeping me and my family and relatives in your prayers. Anthony and Jessica are my second cousins, and I am still heartbroke and hurt over this tragedy.

I have to say that I'm tired of peope blaming this "accident" on anthony's car that was handed to him on a silver platter after totalling his other car 6 months earlier. Who in their right mind gives a car that supposedly goes up to 210mph on the speedometer to a kid who just drove drunk at 90mph into a tree tearing his car in half and almost killing himself and his poor friend?? It's not the car...unless you want to blame his last car also. People have mentioned that these Subarus shouldn't be sold anymore. Just for your knowledge, not everyone who drives those cars does 70mph in a 40mph zone and impatiently enters another lane to pass a vehicle exiting his lane and slams head on into another vehicle killing 3 people. If these cars should be taken off the sale floor, then so should every other sports car, every gun, every knife, every aspirin etc...They all can be used to kill somebody. If the parents didn't plan on teaching their kid how to drive, then why would they have given him a fast car if they knew he wasn't a good driver to begin with? I just don't understand people these days. Come on parents, wake up and watch your kids. Don't have them if you don't want to raise them. We are tired of paying for your kids and watching them for you...whether its in the store and they are running wild and you are no where to be found or if they're flying through our neighborhood in their frigan car. I'm tired of all the ignorant kids in this world and it's the fault of their ignorant parents. How can we expect the kids to be smarter than the parents that raised them?? All I know is that these parents are the first ones crying when their kids are killed or kidnapped and they are on t.v. asking "why??" when all of us that saw it coming ask "why not?"

I just got my license last Friday and have already learned a valuable lesson. I learned that speeding doesn't get you anywhere much faster and can be deadly and I will try to take my time when driving. I also learned not to ride in cars with friends if they are newly licensees or have bad driving records because you never know what will happen. I have a friend who has never been arrested for DUI or got speeding tickets but still drives like a maniac. I would never want to be hurt because of his mistake. I knew Anthony a long time ago and can't believe this happened. I'm not defending him or his parents but I think everyone should lay off of them for a while. His parents have to live with the loss of their son and daughter and their lack of punishment on the matter. The funeral was yesterday and I think they have enough to deal with right now. Thamara's family also has to deal with the death of their daughter. Her sister, for the rest of her life, will have to think about what happened. Right before the accident, Thamara's sister called Thamara and told her she would pick her up. Thamara said she had to go and then hung up. Then the accident happened. Basically, I think everyone should take it easy on everyone involved because they are already dealing with so much.

I have to say that I agree totally and it's reassuring to know that there are still some good parents out there. My anger and hurt over this whole tragedy brought me to tears last night. I'm so mad that this didn't have to happen...they had a huge warning and everyone chose to ignore it and now everyone wants to put blame on the car, the state of CT, etc.. etc... except for where the blame really falls.

Nana wrote:

Most of us will agree that a time like this, these parents deserve compassion, sympathy and support. But respect? Respect is given when earned. What respect did they show to Darryl Ramones’s parents after Anthony nearly killed their son? What respect have they shown to the other innocent drivers on the road? Respect for the law? Instead of having respect for their own community, they felt Anthony's want for another fast car was more important. These parents had to be aware of their child's behavior as a driver. Numerous violations, DUI, almost killing himself and a friend in less than a year! How many clues did they need to see that Anthony was a danger to himself and to others on the road! Were they that naive to believe that if they just ignored the obvious nothing bad could happen? Their son almost DIED 6 months ago! He didn't but what if Darryl did? Their son could of been jailed for vehicle manslaughter! What kind of parents wouldn't see that as the biggest wake up call of their lives!!!! Did they share the same lack of maturity with their son to not realize that Anthony's actions will effect others. Anthony DID NOT deserve this.! Everyone that loved this young man DOES NOT deserve this! But so many of them knew of Anthony's love for speed and that he had a daredevil side to him. Can they honestly say they are all that surprised of this horrible outcome? With his driving record, you don't have to have ESP to predict that this tragedy was a possibility! Some of you want to blame DMV because they had a loophole that allowed this underage boy to drive again after only 90 days. But wasn't the decision to allow Anthony to drive ultimately up to his parents? They could of said NO! Let this be a lesson to all parents...... These parents loved their son but in this aspect of his life they loved him carelessly! Good parents say no to their kids in the best interest of their children’s safety and well being. Good parents teach their children that in life there will always be consequences for your actions. Good parents realize that you can't always be your child's "friend". Good parents know that your child may not always "like" you but they will always "love" you. Good children will understand this.

good, maybe they'll learn from this, even if they don't have parents to teach them. Sometimes it takes something like this happening before people wake up. It wouldn't have had to happen to my family for me to wake up, the first accident would have been more than enough...actually it wouldn't have gotten that far...the first ticket.

a wolcott mom wrote:

anonymous i total agree but dont even bother trying to explain to these people they are unbelievable with the things that they are coming up with they are not realizing that this kid was 17 and he was a kid and young people are reading this stuff that they are writting

Dean...we're not their second cousins and we're heart broken and hurt too. But...we're also mad too...are you mad at all? since this could have all been prevented and your cousins could still be here. It's a lesson that his parents shouldn't have had to learn that way. This shouldn't happen to any child...It's up to us parents to stop alot of it.

Dean DeVirgilio wrote:

<quoted text>Thank you for keeping me and my family and relatives in your prayers. Anthony and Jessica are my second cousins, and I am still heartbroke and hurt over this tragedy.

Anonymous wrote:

I just got my license last Friday and have already learned a valuable lesson. I learned that speeding doesn't get you anywhere much faster and can be deadly and I will try to take my time when driving. I also learned not to ride in cars with friends if they are newly licensees or have bad driving records because you never know what will happen. I have a friend who has never been arrested for DUI or got speeding tickets but still drives like a maniac. I would never want to be hurt because of his mistake. I knew Anthony a long time ago and can't believe this happened. I'm not defending him or his parents but I think everyone should lay off of them for a while. His parents have to live with the loss of their son and daughter and their lack of punishment on the matter. The funeral was yesterday and I think they have enough to deal with right now. Thamara's family also has to deal with the death of their daughter. Her sister, for the rest of her life, will have to think about what happened. Right before the accident, Thamara's sister called Thamara and told her she would pick her up. Thamara said she had to go and then hung up. Then the accident happened. Basically, I think everyone should take it easy on everyone involved because they are already dealing with so much.

Very well thought out and written. If you approach driving the way you approached this post, I doubt you will have many problems and no tickets.

You sound like a smart kid and hopefully you'll be a good driver. The important thing is that you are learning from others mistakes and hopefully you won't make any of your own. People writing these entries are upset that 3 kids had to lose their lives because of something that could have been avoided...it's useless. Ignorance killed these kids. If one person opens their eyes and changes their thinking from some of these entries, it's all worth it...somebody's child could be saved and not end up like this. We feel for these families and all involved and wish it never happened, but things have to change or it'll happen again. Good luck driving and stay SAFE! If you have a drink (or drug)...please don't drive...call somebody or stay put!!!

Anonymous wrote:

I just got my license last Friday and have already learned a valuable lesson. I learned that speeding doesn't get you anywhere much faster and can be deadly and I will try to take my time when driving. I also learned not to ride in cars with friends if they are newly licensees or have bad driving records because you never know what will happen. I have a friend who has never been arrested for DUI or got speeding tickets but still drives like a maniac. I would never want to be hurt because of his mistake. I knew Anthony a long time ago and can't believe this happened. I'm not defending him or his parents but I think everyone should lay off of them for a while. His parents have to live with the loss of their son and daughter and their lack of punishment on the matter. The funeral was yesterday and I think they have enough to deal with right now. Thamara's family also has to deal with the death of their daughter. Her sister, for the rest of her life, will have to think about what happened. Right before the accident, Thamara's sister called Thamara and told her she would pick her up. Thamara said she had to go and then hung up. Then the accident happened. Basically, I think everyone should take it easy on everyone involved because they are already dealing with so much.

Well, the parents should give a sh*t about the residents opinions...they put their son on the road to drive with us and our children...and he shouldn't have been. He had no right driving erraticlly on the roads where I live and I drive my car with my children in it. He had no right! If you want to drive like that...get on a race track, not the roads where I live. It couldn't have happened to anyone...only the people who give their kids car after car after car when they've proven by accidents, tickets, a DUI etc.. that the child isn't mature enough to handle the responsibility of a 3,000 pound piece of machinery that can be used as a weapon. That's who it happens to...I guess we might be hearing about your childrens accidents next if you don't change your thinking and if you approve of this behavior and you're calling us ignorant? You're correct that parents can't control EVERYTHING that their kids do, but they don't have to turn their head and look the other way and enable them to make bad decisions. That kid wouldn't have had another car without his parents help. That was their chance to step up and say NO. The accident never would have happened without the car right?

Anonymous wrote:

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These parents just lost their children....seriously! I highly doubt they give a sh*t about your opinion. This could have happened to anyone... I mean it happens everyday. Do you have children? What if it was your child driving. Now that's a different story right? Parents can not control everything their children do.....its called lying and all teenagers do it. It breaks my heart to hear about young kids losing their lives and I suggest you think before you write something as ignorant as you are. Come back to reality. Think before you speak.

wolcott mom wrote:

You sound like a smart kid and hopefully you'll be a good driver. The important thing is that you are learning from others mistakes and hopefully you won't make any of your own. People writing these entries are upset that 3 kids had to lose their lives because of something that could have been avoided...it's useless. Ignorance killed these kids. If one person opens their eyes and changes their thinking from some of these entries, it's all worth it...somebody's child could be saved and not end up like this. We feel for these families and all involved and wish it never happened, but things have to change or it'll happen again. Good luck driving and stay SAFE! If you have a drink (or drug)...please don't drive...call somebody or stay put!!!
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to Anonymous;

Do one additional thing. Have a No questions asked contract with your parents, In case you ever do make a mistake and are not feeling right, get over tired, have a drink, somebody slips you something. If you call them they will come and pick you up. No questions asked . No lectures. No scene< until the next day when you will sit downand discuss it calmly.
Keep a cell phone with you, and by the way this is whether you or someone else was driving and whether you were or were not supposed to be with that person.

FEEL SAFE

This is a terrible time for everyone, this isn't the time to blame anyone, especially the parents, there trying to deal with the loss of not 1 kid but both, the only 2 they had, Like any parent they want to make their kids happy, Anthony most likely promised he would slow down convincing his father of getting him the WRX. MAY GOD be with the families and friends, REST IN PEACE "teens"