Abducted Boy Found Safe in Romania

Well!! I hope it was all worth it... glad they both were found safe.. especially the little boy...

Boy, he didn't waste anytime

Blessings that the child has been located, safe and well. Prayers that he shall soon be returned to this country, and that he remain safe and well.

Let's see...dad gets kid taken away from him based on accusations from ex-wife...I would not doubt for a moment that he simply wants his child back and nothing more.

I am very happy to know that he was found alive and well. Romania is quite a distance from home, but at least he's safe.

Amber Alerts should be reserved only for dangerous abductions by strangers, and NOT for mothers and fathers who take their children out of frustration. Although they are illegal, parental abductions are almost never dangerous. However, child abductions by non-parents are always dangerous. People are becoming desensitized to Amber Alerts because most of them are issued after non-dangerous parental abductions.

"Living in Oakdale" has that black-and-white controling cop mentality. There is a grey area between right and wrong, and she doesn't see it. That father did something illegal, but he was desperate to save his son from the mother's abuse.

Living in Oakdale wrote:

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I'm sorry to say but he did do someting wrong when he took the child out of the country. What happened prior to that is thier business and there is always two sides to a story, but he should have thought a little more before he took the child. Going over state line is bad enough but over international borders that was stupid, your just asking for trouble.

Living in Oakdale wrote:

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I'm sorry to say but he did do someting wrong when he took the child out of the country. What happened prior to that is thier business and there is always two sides to a story, but he should have thought a little more before he took the child. Going over state line is bad enough but over international borders that was stupid, your just asking for trouble.

Well somtimes when you get scared as a parent , you will do anything to protect your child. Maybe he dident know what else to do legally. And sometimes when you were not raised in this country, you dont know all these laws, just the one you need to know to stay. If that situation was really going on with the mom, then I dont blame him. i think he just dident what else he can do. He probably was scared she was going to take him away, she sounds like the type that would threaten him that way. Hopefully someone will go over the laws for trying to get custody or joint custody, the proper way.

Any man who takes his child illegally or refuses to pay child support just to get "even" with an ex-wife should be castrated and thrown into jail until hell freezes over.

i say if your miss's cheats on ya or anything like that be all means its your son, and as long as you dont hurt your son then do what ever means .. its not illegal to take your kid outa the country... he is prolly just lying and making up stories like women do......

This story is interesting to say the least. While I may have taken a different, more legal approach to gaining custody if I were in the same position, I can't pretend to know the dynamics of the relationship between the mother and father.

I'll be interested find out the entire story, needless to say, I am glad the child was found safe.

Why was the sucka carrying a gun (according to cops).

Johny Utah wrote:

i say if your miss's cheats on ya or anything like that be all means its your son, and as long as you dont hurt your son then do what ever means .. its not illegal to take your kid outa the country... he is prolly just lying and making up stories like women do......

What? It IS illegal to take your child out of the country, if both share custody, each parent has to give consent. In fact, some airlines require written documentation from the absent parent prior to allowing the alternate and child to board a flight.

BTW, Women don't lie, people lie.

anonymous wrote:

Amber Alerts should be reserved only for dangerous abductions by strangers, and NOT for mothers and fathers who take their children out of frustration. Although they are illegal, parental abductions are almost never dangerous. However, child abductions by non-parents are always dangerous. People are becoming desensitized to Amber Alerts because most of them are issued after non-dangerous parental abductions.

Have you been reading all the reports in the news lately about estranged parents stealing their children and killing them to get back at the spouse? The poor kids have been drowned, shot, burned, and dropped off bridges into water (and that's just what I remember offhand in the past few months).

I guess not.

Living in Oakdale wrote:

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I'm sorry to say but he did do someting wrong when he took the child out of the country. What happened prior to that is thier business and there is always two sides to a story, but he should have thought a little more before he took the child. Going over state line is bad enough but over international borders that was stupid, your just asking for trouble.

Well said and I totally agree, I am sure that more will come out and what happened between Husband and Wife is their business. What I don't agree with is that he went out of the country with his son. That is really breaking the law and whatever wrongs she did do not make it right for him to take the child and run. So he was scared and trying to protect his child their are laws and their are the proper ways to go about protecting your children for a reason.

anonymous in SF wrote:

"Living in Oakdale" has that black-and-white controling cop mentality. There is a grey area between right and wrong, and she doesn't see it. That father did something illegal, but he was desperate to save his son from the mother's abuse.
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Where has there been anything written about the mother abusing the son? The only abuse that I have seen written about is the sexual assault against the mother by her estranged husband prior to the kidnapping.

As far as traveling to a foreign country with a child, I can tell you from experience that if both parents are not traveling with the child, then there has to be a notarized letter of approval to leave the country with the child by the other parent. This applies even if you are married. My daughter and I were flying down to Mexico to meet up with my husband who was already there and we were not allowed to fly out because we did not have this letter in hand! That was 8 years ago, I'm sure it has gotten more strict since then!

anonymous wrote:

Amber Alerts should be reserved only for dangerous abductions by strangers, and NOT for mothers and fathers who take their children out of frustration. Although they are illegal, parental abductions are almost never dangerous. However, child abductions by non-parents are always dangerous. People are becoming desensitized to Amber Alerts because most of them are issued after non-dangerous parental abductions.

About a month ago a father abducted his 3 year old child (son) after assaulting the mother. He murdered the child with a screwdriver.

In austria a man abducted his daughter and stuffed her in the basement, raping her and fathering children by her for about 20 years before she adn the children were discovered and freed.

Not all parents are loving, or patient, or nurturing. Abduction is abduction, regardless of relation. No parent should be wisking children out of the country without the other parents knowledge, or at least without notifying the authorities they are doing so if the ex is abusive.

And authorities are there to help with domestic violence situations, as well as child endangerment and abuse.

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Where has there been anything written about the mother abusing the son? The only abuse that I have seen written about is the sexual assault against the mother by her estranged husband prior to the kidnapping.

Abusing the otehr parent IS abusing the child (a boy hearing or seeing his mother raped is being abused, even a child knowing one parent is abusing the other is abusive to the child).

The fact that this guy raped his wife, then took the child out of the country screams abuser. He obviously is not real respective toward women, is that really how you all who are whining think a boy should be raised into a man?

And the news didn't say what the difficulty with the mom was. She may have been hysterical after just being raped nd having her child taken God(dess) knows where. Bit understandable. If you add in the possibility that English is not her first language, that would explain why the cops had problems communicating with her.

Did anyone see the part where he sexually assaulted the mother? He wasn't just after the child - he was after control. I do feel sorry for good fathers who do not have custody of a child - but this man does not sound like any kind of winner.

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Well said and I totally agree, I am sure that more will come out and what happened between Husband and Wife is their business. What I don't agree with is that he went out of the country with his son. That is really breaking the law and whatever wrongs she did do not make it right for him to take the child and run. So he was scared and trying to protect his child their are laws and their are the proper ways to go about protecting your children for a reason.

Thank you, and I agree with the rest of your post, in that there are other means in getting your child. And for those of you who are saying it's not illigal to take your children out of the country with out both parents consent you are wrong.