Mother and child killed in car accident in Virginia Beach - WTKR

Sickened wrote:

TO mgkid and JER,
What the hell is the matter with you!! A woman and her child is dead and all you can do is play the blame and what the drivers should have done game. The focus should be on the survivors of this horrific accident and how their lives have changed forever. Society is going to hell in gasoline underpants and comments of blame only add to the flames. If you weren't there personally just pray for those involved and to JER who's wife was there pray for her and keep your second hand accounts to yourself you have only added to the pain of the families. I pray this does not happen to any of you,as I have experienced this first hand and blaming only prolongs the pain and anger.

I understand as you knew the people . I have lost friends due to drunk drivers red light runners and falling asleep at the wheel. I not blaming anybody just stating facts. If the lady driving the scion is charged she could & may speed time in jail. plus the money outlay that goes alone with it if she does go to jail like loosing her house and everything. I do pray for the people involved in the crash. But people have to not cry over the death but lift up the good memorys and celibrate there lives. It sounds like she was a great lady and I know it hurts. I hope when I do die a party is held in my name as I may have died but I live in the people I knew. And yes I agree to a point that society is spinning out of control. But if you have faith all things are possible.

I appologize if my post brought distress upon those that are close to those involved. I had been seeing posts from those who wanted to see justice done and to them that simply meant "off with the other driver's head." From my perspective, and when objectively being considered, there may be factors that lay the loss of life at the feet of all those involved and the decisions and actions that led to the tragedy, even seconds before it all happened. We may never know all the facts, but we will learn more when the investigation is completed. It is my understanding that Mrs. Mise and little Lauren have been laid to rest. I think that it is time we also put to rest the posting and in solemness pray for the healing to begin. I certainly have come to appreciate the concerns and heart felt hurt exhibited by all. God Bless!!

My friend was driving the scion. She was leaving her place of work, so she has traveled through this intersection twice a day for years now. She is a very careful and conservative driver, and she says she saw her light green. She herself lost her own husband years ago in a car accident and was left with a child the age of Lauren. Her husband's life insurance had expired (he let it lapse) the week before he was killed. She is no stranger to pain and suffering, and now for this to have happened seems an especially cruel twist of fate. She had to build her life out of nothing and now will be reduced to nothing once again. Other employees at her work have said that the lights have seemed to be out of sync; indeed the day after the accident there was another one at this same intersection. The city was seen to be "working" on the lights shortly thereafter. Hmm.
Regardless, I myself have made careless mistakes while driving, simply a human error thing. So have all of you. Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. And JER, please ask your wife to prayerfully consider coming forward with her information, as my friend is devastated and is about to be charged with a crime she may not have committed.

Gracie, you are as good a friend as those of the Mise's who have also spoken their words here. All I can say at this time is that my wife was interviewed and she gave an account of what she saw. My son who was also a witness is to be interviewed in coming days. Your friend's lawyer and that of the Mise's will be able to obtain copies of all witness reports and 911 calls as soon as available (I imagine). As you can imagine, the police have a lot to try to piece together. I only pray that the blindfold of lady justice be not lifted and that only facts shed light on what happened. And as justice is always demanded, that justice is delivered in good faith and with mercy on all who have been affected by this tragedy. May God have mercy on us all.
This is my last post. God Bless!!

There is no reason to throw blame on another. My husband works near where the accident happened and he got off early that evening. His boss called us to see if he had made it home okay. I'm blessed to say he did. Our good friend and neighbor was involved almost a year ago in an accident with 3 teens on Salem Road. He was not drinking- nor using his cell phone- just driving down the road heading home. All 3 teens died in that accident and he blames himself everyday for what happened yet it wasnt his fault. I feel for both sides here as I'm sure this woman is who hit them is tormented inside as to the outcome and living with it every day of her life. It can't be swept under the rug nor put in a "Well if I would have...". As for the other party who tragically lost a wife and a beautiful young daughter let me tell you it can happen to anyone anytime. My 3 yr old unbuckled her safety seat ALL the time. My husband would be driving- I'd unbuckle and turn around in the seat and have to rebuckle her. Kids are notorious for playing Houdini once they get the hang of it. How many of us have had a moment while driving that once we figure out how bad it could have been we let out a sigh of relief? I think each and everyone of us could attest to it. I know I could. Whether it be the kids screaming in the backseat, cell phone ringing, daydreaming about the days events, etc etc etc- None of us are perfect and it only takes a milisecond- A MILI-SECOND for something to go from a 'normal' day to a life changing moment. I feel for both sides. I hope you all get the care you need in the coming months. It finally took my neighbor and friend to realize that he needed psychiatric care once the 5th wave of emotions hit him. Lets let the Authorities do their job and in the meantime Pray for all of those affected. No use in fighting or arguing here when we can use our energy to better them. Prayers for everyone and God Bless! xoxo

my payers are with the family i feel very sorry for them.