Mean Girls- High School Stories

It seems like just yesterday we were hanging out in the hallways of our high school in between classes. Boyfriends and girlfriends sneaking in a kiss and hug trying to avoid getting caught by the teachers. Staying after school just so you could hang out with your friends before extra curricular activities started or maybe to catch a glimpse of that special someone you had been crushing on. High school was never easy, peer pressure, fitting in or being different and still being excepted. Maintaining grade averages, boys, homecoming, prom, dating and drama. Yes, I finally said it! There was always some drama, especially with that one clique. You know exactly what group of girls that I am talking about. The ones that stared you down in the hallways, spread rumors about you and went after your crush not because they liked him but because you did. They basked in everyone elses misery because they had control and they knew it. Making people look bad was their forte' and they would not stop until someone got hurt. Well years have passed and times have changed but some things will never change. Means girls are still at it and my daughter is now one of their victims. How hard is it to watch your fifteen year old come home in tears because girls spread rumors about her, threatened her and got a rise out of her reaction. They stalk her until she locks herself in the restrooms in tears and hyper-ventilating. She lashes out on me and her sisters because she is stressed and does not want to go to school anymore. Can I blame her? Honestly NO, If I had my choice, she would be home schooled for the rest of her high school days, however I don't want her to miss out on the great things like an education, homecoming, and prom etc. Where does it end with these girls, most of the time, they get a little slap on the wrist and go right back to doing what they do best. Which in turn makes them retaliate even more. It's a vicious cycle that needs to be broken. How many times have you gone to the school to confront the situation to have the administration to tell you "Girls will be girls, try and let them handle it. The girls will work it out on their own." Really? What is it going to take, some ones child going to the extreme, drama escalating into a fight and or hurting themselves? I'm not a super mom because I can do anything and everything, I am a super mom because I will do anything and everything to protect my children. I am the mom that will stand up for my daughters because I believe in them, I have brought them up with good morals and values and done the best I can do as a single mom. I work hard.
I just want to send a message out there for all you moms and kids that are experiencing this same situation.

~You cannot let them break you, remember how amazing you are and they would not do what they do unless you had something that they want. You can't break someone who thinks nothing of you. They are looking for a reaction which is really the only thing you are responsible for. You cannot control them but you can control how you react. Be strong and don't let them know they hurt you or that they scare you.

Moms;
Be supportive and remember how hard high school was and guide them to a better tomorrow.

To all you mean girls out there;
I have taught my daughter strength and courage, you will not break her.

Moms and kids across the world think about joining Team Super Girl. Check my forums and postings, it's a place where you kids can write about your days, Moms can express how they feel and how this effects their home life, vent, or get advice.

<3,Super Mommy Justice & Team Super Girl

WOW you are a mom who loves your child very much. There is alot of meaness in the world,I have seen so much of it on Topix with other women.I never understood the mean girls in school.

You are a wonderful mom and you can see the love you have for your daughter. Tell her to stay strong,she will be the winner in the end.Karma is a b*tch and these girls will be sorry they have done this to other girls,sometime in their life.Tell her to stay strong and as much as possible to ignore it. Prayers and hugs..<Pam>

Life is Precious wrote:

WOW you are a mom who loves your child very much. There is alot of meaness in the world,I have seen so much of it on Topix with other women.I never understood the mean girls in school.
You are a wonderful mom and you can see the love you have for your daughter. Tell her to stay strong,she will be the winner in the end.Karma is a b*tch and these girls will be sorry they have done this to other girls,sometime in their life.Tell her to stay strong and as much as possible to ignore it. Prayers and hugs..<Pam>

Thank you, I like to think I am a good mom. Those girls have every ounce of my heart. I would lay my life down for anyone of them and I can be the nicest person in the world until you mess with my children. Just how I was raised, and that will nto change.

And Justice 4 All wrote:

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Thank you, I like to think I am a good mom. Those girls have every ounce of my heart. I would lay my life down for anyone of them and I can be the nicest person in the world until you mess with my children. Just how I was raised, and that will nto change.

I think any good parent feels the same way. I have often said I would die for my children. And I would in a heartbeat.

Life is Precious wrote:

<quoted text>I think any good parent feels the same way. I have often said I would die for my children. And I would in a heartbeat.

Children bring out something in us that nothing else in the world could bring out. Our ability to do things is so great when it comes to our children.

And Justice 4 All wrote:

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Children bring out something in us that nothing else in the world could bring out. Our ability to do things is so great when it comes to our children.

My kids always brought out the very best part of me.When I got to a point I had nothing else to give after Jenny died,my boys never gave up on me. My youngest was only 10 when she died and as much as I wanted to give up and die,my youngest made sure and let me know how much he still needed me.When my babies were growing up I would ask them do you know how much I love you and they would always answer .enough that you would die for us. And now my grandbabies know the same thing.

Your daughter is going to be fine because she has you as a mom. You truly are a super mom.She is very blessed to have you. You know that ...right???

Life is Precious wrote:

<quoted text>My kids always brought out the very best part of me.When I got to a point I had nothing else to give after Jenny died,my boys never gave up on me. My youngest was only 10 when she died and as much as I wanted to give up and die,my youngest made sure and let me know how much he still needed me.When my babies were growing up I would ask them do you know how much I love you and they would always answer .enough that you would die for us. And now my grandbabies know the same thing.
Your daughter is going to be fine because she has you as a mom. You truly are a super mom.She is very blessed to have you. You know that ...right???

I can't even begin to imagine life without any of my girls. I think I am the one that is blessed to have such wonderful girls who love me dearly. Kids just don't understand the damage they do to someones self esteem. She has dealt with it for years, she has been held back once because of its effects, she spent 8 weeks in an adolecent clinic for depression. Where does it end? She is almost 16 now and the mean girls just keep getting meaner. We have changed schools numerous times but they are everywhere. Some of the parents, well most of them are so blind when it comes to their children doing wrong and being hurtful. I hear all the time that "my child would never have done something like that" or "well your daughter had to have provoked her." We have no idea how our children act when they are away from us and what they are capable of. I know that my daughter is a good kid but she has her flaws. I am not here to preach how perfect my daughter is, she makes mistakes and is punished for them and the worst punishment anyone can endure is their own conscience and she has learned that first hand. I try to instill in my children that we follow the golden rule and learn from our mistakes. I want them to know that every action has a reaction and how they react to others actions is what is most important. I feel like all this negative stuff is just holding her back from her true potential, lowering her self esteem and she really has no idea how beautiful and talented she is. I can't wait to show you pictures thru email when I get a chance to email you. Ill give you mine as well.
heavenscent_angel_eyes@yahoo.c om
Thank you for always being so sweet and caring.

And Justice 4 All wrote:

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I can't even begin to imagine life without any of my girls. I think I am the one that is blessed to have such wonderful girls who love me dearly. Kids just don't understand the damage they do to someones self esteem. She has dealt with it for years, she has been held back once because of its effects, she spent 8 weeks in an adolecent clinic for depression. Where does it end? She is almost 16 now and the mean girls just keep getting meaner. We have changed schools numerous times but they are everywhere. Some of the parents, well most of them are so blind when it comes to their children doing wrong and being hurtful. I hear all the time that "my child would never have done something like that" or "well your daughter had to have provoked her." We have no idea how our children act when they are away from us and what they are capable of. I know that my daughter is a good kid but she has her flaws. I am not here to preach how perfect my daughter is, she makes mistakes and is punished for them and the worst punishment anyone can endure is their own conscience and she has learned that first hand. I try to instill in my children that we follow the golden rule and learn from our mistakes. I want them to know that every action has a reaction and how they react to others actions is what is most important. I feel like all this negative stuff is just holding her back from her true potential, lowering her self esteem and she really has no idea how beautiful and talented she is. I can't wait to show you pictures thru email when I get a chance to email you. Ill give you mine as well.
heavenscent_angel_eyes@yahoo.c om
Thank you for always being so sweet and caring.

You are very welcome. I am just so sorry she is going through this. I know it breaks your heart.Just hang in there and be there for her as I know you will be.

I just Emailed you. I have to get off tonight to fix supper for hubby but will talk more to you tomorrow.

I love having a room all to ourselves. This is cool and the nasty trolls can't find me. LOL Have a good night and I'll catch you tomorrow..Pam

Life is Precious wrote:

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You are very welcome. I am just so sorry she is going through this. I know it breaks your heart.Just hang in there and be there for her as I know you will be.
I just Emailed you. I have to get off tonight to fix supper for hubby but will talk more to you tomorrow.
I love having a room all to ourselves. This is cool and the nasty trolls can't find me. LOL Have a good night and I'll catch you tomorrow..Pam

Thank you, go spend time with the hubby. I hope to have that again one day. I know my time will come. As for the nasty trolls, LOL You are too funny!
Talk soon, Christine

And Justice 4 All wrote:

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Thank you, go spend time with the hubby. I hope to have that again one day. I know my time will come. As for the nasty trolls, LOL You are too funny!
Talk soon, Christine

Oh you don't know the half of it. I am literally stalked on Topix from a bunch of (cough) women. It's gotten really bad.

I sent you an Email last night.

Christine,Have you ever gone and actually sat down and talked to the principle? And maybe even brought the mean girls parents in. I wonder if that would do any good.

I see so much nastiness between women in Topix and at one time said some nasty things myself.I just couldn't continue to be so nasty,it's not me at all. There is a poster in Topix that actually told me I deserved to have my daughter die and that I should have aborted her. Can you believe that??????? I lost my temper last year and said some nasty things back because it hurt me so bad,but since then have apologized but she refused to accept it and continues to be nasty. She is one of the most nastiest posters on Topix. And you would know her by her name if I revealed it. Any ways its nice to have a room where hopefully they can't find me.

Have a wonderful Thursday and I believe that someday your prince will come and swoop you up. I truly do. In the mean time I am here to talk anytime.

Wow, I am soo glad to find something like this. When things like this happen to our daughers it hurts soo much. My daugher is a freshman at an all girls catholic school and some of the staff are friends with the mean girls mothers. This is making it tough for me to keep her focused. Also for me to do my job and having this issue taken care of. Her self worth is totally being put on the line.. I teach my children to turn the other cheek. Well I am tired of saying that. I have never seen anything like this before. With that being said, I am truely blessed to have such wonderful children and I will not let this happen any longer..

Maybe the time has come for parents to insist complete protection with surveilance cameras in their schools to protect innocence. If a person is caught on camera, mistreating another, there would surely have to be restrictions that can be placed on the violator. No one should have to put up with mistreatment of any kind, or, accused if not guilty. Film could be dated, stored and the film replaced on a regular basis. If/when accusations are made, the film would show what, if anything, happened.

There is only one thing you can control in this life... your own actions..
If you give a bully a rise, or cry, or even want to fight back they WIN...
It's no different than a shark smelling blood...
Laugh it off...
Be a smooth river pebble that the water flows around.
It means nothing... look at the source... become your own source of power... Peer Pressure? What is that really... YOU letting others control you.
Control yourself... Yes it's that EASY.
Unfortunally most ladies aren't taught this, and even most young men haven't been taught this simple lesson of life.
Take care

get a life and get out of high school, im sure your high school glory days were great but seriously, move on. stop trying to live our lives and start living yours.

Life is Precious wrote:

WOW you are a mom who loves your child very much. There is alot of meaness in the world,I have seen so much of it on Topix with other women.I never understood the mean girls in school.
You are a wonderful mom and you can see the love you have for your daughter. Tell her to stay strong,she will be the winner in the end.Karma is a b*tch and these girls will be sorry they have done this to other girls,sometime in their life.Tell her to stay strong and as much as possible to ignore it. Prayers and hugs..<Pam>

Your daughter is SUPER lucky. I don't have a very close relationship with my mom and i solve all my problems by myself. I don't like to talk about my problems. I know my mom loves me and everything but she never tells me. I don't get good support b anyone, not even my parents and i don't feel like i accomplished anything when I really did. KEEP it up they're lucky to have a supportive mom.

I used to get picked on in school, & aside from taking a 2x4 to the mean kids, about the best remedy I found is to learn some self defense, not for fightings'sake but for more of a confidence booster. Many times they prey on others because they can spot low self esteem a mile away-interestingly enough as an adult I can definitely see it in kids & adults alike. Work on that this year & during summer break. The new school yr is the BEST time to make a new start. When bullies see a kid just isn't intimidated anymore, 9 times out of 10 they'll move on. Its like no one cares about the bullies desire for attention & they're 'sooo last year' or whatever. It can take the wind out of their sails. Also help them to develop a strong peer small group of friends. If everyone acts like the bullies are a bunch of immature juveniles & doesn't phase them anymore,that will often work. They'll keep pushing for weeks or months, but usually will subside & move on to a weaker target. Confidence & knowing you're above that can work miracles. Many times it comes with tools, like self defense training, karate, etc. They know they can handle themselves should they ever need to. Good luck!