what makes adults tell teens they can move in and play house?

I don't get it! Why do Parents of teens think it's okay to let their son/daughter's girl/boy friend move in with them and play house. I hear more and more of this happening. Do they not think that that teen has a family that will be affected by this? My 18 year old daughter has moved to stockbridge with a 17 year old boy and his parents because they asked her to and she "wants to be with the person she is going to spend the rest of her life with." I understand the kids think they are in love....but what exactly are the parents thinking? Neither of those kids have finished High school. Well of course my daughter is going there to get her diploma from a school that has received no support from us as tax payers....isn't that nice. a wole 2 classes. Not too mention I hear tell the 17 year old makes $1000.00 a week laying carpet/flooring????? Makes you wonder how huh?

It's not the other parents.
All they know is what your daughter tells them. They probably think she has it bad at home and only want to offer her a safe haven.
Have you met the other parents and discussed the situation with them?
I can't tell you how many times my teens have had friends stay here for more than a few days and not once did the parents call me or try to meet me.
All I can do is provide a warm place to stay and a hot meal for a kid I have to assume is in need.

Another Mother wrote:

It's not the other parents.
All they know is what your daughter tells them. They probably think she has it bad at home and only want to offer her a safe haven.
Have you met the other parents and discussed the situation with them?
I can't tell you how many times my teens have had friends stay here for more than a few days and not once did the parents call me or try to meet me.
All I can do is provide a warm place to stay and a hot meal for a kid I have to assume is in need.

Absolutely I went to them. And I begged them to not let her go with them. They told me that...They told me they would have to think about it. They did it because they think that when a kid is 18 they are not accountable. Sad part is they really don't know what she is giving up. They have no idea what kind of damage it is doing to the relationship she will have with the rest of her biological family. Reguardless of what a teenager tells an adult....shouldn't they call social services before the make a decision that could alter more than one life.....I mean look at teens today. They have a sense of entitlement like no other generation. These parents have cause me not to be able to have solid nights sleep for the last 4 months. She did have it bad at home. Bad because when she stole my checking account card out of my purse and took her boyfriend and her friends on a shopping spree of approximately $800.00 (out of our bill money) We told her she would have to pay it back. I tell these parents this several times. They can't understand why I can't let it go....Maybe because she doesn't want to pay it back but blow her paychecks on their son.....she is far from abused. They are just losers!!
However, all that said I have heard this going on from many of people.... I understand the kids wanting to get there own place and be a couple and all, but what happened to kids earning there way and working for what they want? Girl or Boy the thing we are suppose to be teaching kids is to work hard and you will have the things you want. Parents are suppose to be there as the soft place to fall...Not to say hey you poor young ADULT, your parents obviously don't care for you so I will let you feed off me.....I mean don't you think if it is that they would be more worried about working and not partying all the time or hanging out at someone elses house???

and just for you to think about or consider, that teen you think you are providing a safe haven for is probably being just nasty and hateful at home and those parents are tired of hearing how crappy they are and how great someone elses are. Those teens are probably playing you for a fool, because they get told NO they will look where they can get away with doing and achieving nothing. Look at the nations drop out rate. Do you think all those parents mistreat their teens? Odds are no. They just have rules too. But there is always that exception..... Question have you ever called a parent to invite or ask if their teen could spend the night? Cause people use to do that too....

If this sound mean it is not intended to be. Im just very passionate about this because I feel like I mourn my daughter everyday. And with her father in Iraq right now it is not easy to deal with. I told those adults that he was away at a training school and he was due home the day they were leaving. I asked them to please wait for him to get home and to call before he left so he could see and talk to her before he was to deploy to Iraq. They left without a call or anything that I asked them....to me they are evil and garbage. I will never forgive them--never!!

Bless your heart.
I can see that you are hurting and completely overwhelmed. I wish I could give you some clear advice, but I'm just not qualified.
Every person's situation is different.

Since your husband is in the service, perhaps they have some kind of family counseling resource that you can reach out to? Maybe your daughter is acting out because she doesn't know what to do with her emotions right now and the counseling would benefit both of you?

Is the boy in school?
Where is your daughter attending classes?

Another Mother wrote:

Bless your heart.
I can see that you are hurting and completely overwhelmed. I wish I could give you some clear advice, but I'm just not qualified.
Every person's situation is different.
Since your husband is in the service, perhaps they have some kind of family counseling resource that you can reach out to? Maybe your daughter is acting out because she doesn't know what to do with her emotions right now and the counseling would benefit both of you?
Is the boy in school?
Where is your daughter attending classes?

I have no idea if the boy is attending school. The last time I talked to her they both were going to Stockbridge high. Her emotions have nothing to do with her dad being gone. It is just selfishness. We have been going through this teenage behavior for a while and her father and I have set the boundaries...however now that this couple have asked her to come live with them out of their own selfishness, she thinks she doesn't have to consider us. The law also supports this kind of thinking...when you are 18 you are an adult and a parent has no say But they (the law)want us to carry them on health insurance and cosign for loans and use our taxes to allow them to apply for school grants/loans. It is a messed up situation cause those adults are not accountable for her at all...but they can ill advise her. Do you think they will help pay her medical bills if she gets hurt or sick.....most likely not.
My point was not just about my daughter...I see this happen alot now aday with teens....I just don't get it. my Son's ex girlfriend moved in with her new boyfriend because she didn't like that her 60 year old grandmother had rules for her to follow. Now knowing this family I know this girl was perfectly cared for. She just doesn't want to follow the rules, so instead of working hard and finding her own way. These parents of her new boyfriend let her move in with them and her boyfriend... her granny is devastated! This same girl's bestfriends mother thought it was appropriate to open a checking account with this young lady behind her granny's back. Who do these people think they are.....Way over the line I think.