Spooner woman killed in car accident Thursday

This is for the young people who caused my cousin Mary Sienko not to be here on this earth anymore.
I really hope this event will haunt you for years to come.
Mary was a wonderful person, a woman of faith, devoted wife and mother. She also did much volunteering in her life.
Being the Christian woman she was, I don't know if she could not forgive everything in life. Probably she could and would.
But with this event which changed to many lives,her husband, three children, her parents, brother and his wife and family. Endless number of family members. Endless number of friends. Endless number of caring people that she touched in her life.

I hope you can look yourselves in the mirror and realize what happened.
You all will have to face your Maker someday.
But you probaly will have face some of the people who knew her so well.

cousin Chris wrote:

This is for the young people who caused my cousin Mary Sienko not to be here on this earth anymore.
I really hope this event will haunt you for years to come.
Mary was a wonderful person, a woman of faith, devoted wife and mother. She also did much volunteering in her life.
Being the Christian woman she was, I don't know if she could not forgive everything in life. Probably she could and would.
But with this event which changed to many lives,her husband, three children, her parents, brother and his wife and family. Endless number of family members. Endless number of friends. Endless number of caring people that she touched in her life.
I hope you can look yourselves in the mirror and realize what happened.
You all will have to face your Maker someday.
But you probaly will have face some of the people who knew her so well.

To this man all i have to say, is yes, i have looked in the mirror and wished i had been the one to die that day, if not instead of Mary, than at least with her.
i completely understand your hatred. i even feel it with you. But the person that you should feel that towards is me and only me. i was the one who was driving that day. do not blame the other two in the vehicle. they were not the ones in control, i was supposed to be. hate me, that's okay, but please do not hate them. they dont deserve that.

It was me wrote:

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To this man all i have to say, is yes, i have looked in the mirror and wished i had been the one to die that day, if not instead of Mary, than at least with her.
i completely understand your hatred. i even feel it with you. But the person that you should feel that towards is me and only me. i was the one who was driving that day. do not blame the other two in the vehicle. they were not the ones in control, i was supposed to be. hate me, that's okay, but please do not hate them. they dont deserve that.

If you were really the driver that killed Mary, then I would like to communicate with you. My family was deeply hurt by her loss and my daughter refused to get her license for more than 2 years because of this. The whole time we believed that you hadn't learned anything from this trajedy or at least felt remorse. I hope these are really your words and I pray that you have asked the Lord to forgive you. Our God know's what's in your heart and will embrace you in His arms and comfort you and of course forgive you if you are truly sorry. I also truly believe that Mary would have forgiven you too. She was truly remarkable.

reaching out wrote:

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If you were really the driver that killed Mary, then I would like to communicate with you. My family was deeply hurt by her loss and my daughter refused to get her license for more than 2 years because of this. The whole time we believed that you hadn't learned anything from this trajedy or at least felt remorse. I hope these are really your words and I pray that you have asked the Lord to forgive you. Our God know's what's in your heart and will embrace you in His arms and comfort you and of course forgive you if you are truly sorry. I also truly believe that Mary would have forgiven you too. She was truly remarkable.

I am remorseful beyond belief, and my heart aches when i hear that you believed that i wasnt, or that i could have possibly moved on and gone back to my lifestyle from what happened that aweful day. I have met with Joe and that went much better than i could have ever imagined. I hope to spend my life interacting with your family often, to give me guideance, and to help me be what she would have wanted me to be, which is what i strive for every day. I hope that someday i can make her and all the rest of you proud. And i like to think that me doing whats right and what i feel not only youre family would want me to do, but the lord as well.
You speak of your daughter not getting her licence because of this, i would like to apologize to you and her for that. I, too have suffered fear in cars, and around them, for i cant imagine getting in another accident, i dont think i could ever emotionally handle that, at least not at this point. Just today, within the last hour or so, i saw an accident. My reaction was one that i half expected. First i had to make sure everyone involved was well, after that i went into a shock that i cant even explain. This wasnt the first happening that brought me back to the night of Mary's death. Many things do.
I think of what i did often, every day. There is no escaping it, nor do i think i want to. The accident makes me who i am today, its what makes me want to do better, go to college, and help people in any way i can. And im sorry that it had to come to such a terrible thing before i learned the possiblities there were for me.
Im sorry if anything i ever say in these offend you, that is not my meaning. This is how i feel
Joe has my information, Im sure. If youre intent on contacting me, you can get it from him. I am always open to hearing what The Sienko/Ricci family has to say
thank you
samantha

I was Derek Campbell's cousin and I loved him very much as well as loads of other people ...
But he is gone but he will never be forgotten xx

Dear Samantha,

It means so much read your words. Mary was not family in the biological sense, but we were part of the same church family. She also was a youth leader to our children and a friend to us as well. My email address is thankyouGod@charter.net and I would love to communicate with you. I pray that somehow in your experience, you can reach out to other youth and help them to make positive choices in thier lives. There has to be something good that can come out of this.

My daughter has recently gotten her license and is doing well driving. We think about Mary every day as she was killed just down the road and accross the field from us. We miss her so much, but I have great comfort in the fact that you sound truly remorseful.

Please take this second chance that the Lord has given to you and use it to His glory.