Dead Beat Dads

I have to say that I cannot understand why some dead beats refuse to help provide for their children after a divorce. They leave it up to the stepfather to pay all of the bills, carry insurance on their children, etc....Just remember that I will always treat your son like my own and will continue to provide the things that he needs and wants. As he has gotten older, he has realized what a dead beat that you really are. He's turning 16 in a couple of months and don't worry, I'll find him a car for his birthday. Also remember that you will be in court soon and ordered to pay half of everything for the last 7 years, including the attorney fees! See you soon!

Yea right you tard.

uknowwho wrote:

I have to say that I cannot understand why some dead beats refuse to help provide for their children after a divorce. They leave it up to the stepfather to pay all of the bills, carry insurance on their children, etc....Just remember that I will always treat your son like my own and will continue to provide the things that he needs and wants. As he has gotten older, he has realized what a dead beat that you really are. He's turning 16 in a couple of months and don't worry, I'll find him a car for his birthday. Also remember that you will be in court soon and ordered to pay half of everything for the last 7 years, including the attorney fees! See you soon!

Why do you feel compelled to buy him a car at 16?Don't get me wrong a person should pay child support.

uknowwho wrote:

I have to say that I cannot understand why some dead beats refuse to help provide for their children after a divorce. They leave it up to the stepfather to pay all of the bills, carry insurance on their children, etc....Just remember that I will always treat your son like my own and will continue to provide the things that he needs and wants. As he has gotten older, he has realized what a dead beat that you really are. He's turning 16 in a couple of months and don't worry, I'll find him a car for his birthday. Also remember that you will be in court soon and ordered to pay half of everything for the last 7 years, including the attorney fees! See you soon!

Treat this child like he is your own and don't let him know that you are buying him a car because his father won't. Be the father that he needs. You will be rewarded for it many times over, his real father will come out the loser in the long run. Love this boy as your own.

Be thankful you have a dad

Lesson Learned 1 wrote:

<quoted text>
Treat this child like he is your own and don't let him know that you are buying him a car because his father won't. Be the father that he needs. You will be rewarded for it many times over, his real father will come out the loser in the long run. Love this boy as your own.

AMEN.You can not buy love and respect.

Lesson Learned 1 wrote:

<quoted text>
Treat this child like he is your own and don't let him know that you are buying him a car because his father won't. Be the father that he needs. You will be rewarded for it many times over, his real father will come out the loser in the long run. Love this boy as your own.

This is exactly the way that I have raised this child. As my own. I posted this here because I know the low life reads it!

Men are not the only ones who don't support their children, we raised my husband's children with no help emotional, financial or any type support from their mother. We gave them a good home,love and tried to teach them right from wrong only to have the mother come into their life as they became teenagers and disrupt everything and destroy the lives of the children. Then we're left to deal with it and she's gone again.

First of all the chids father is in Heaven.Second, we can all try our best to be the best parents we know how to be. What you are claiming is a low life that is not a parent. a person with no responsibilty at all, Worthless. A parent does not have to be biologically bloodkin to the child. The loving kindness of an adult to raise a little one is priceless.You really don't have to have the money to love a child. You really sound resentful, unhappy and probably a cry baby yourself.

anyone can be a mother or father, but it takes people who are special to be a mom or dad. My father is like that, so iv been in the childs shoes. I just hope noone talks about or even makes comments or jokes about it. Even if the child makes comments. All of my family never talked bad or made any comments in front of me. Yes I didnt like never seeing him except maybe 2 times a year, and only talking to him when he was doing time ( didnt realy shed very much lite on this subject, just said he was away for a while and could leave right now), but it made it that much more special when i did get to see him. I came around and seen how it was when I got older and was able to make my opinions on how he was not very good, but i am thankful for the years that it seemed like he was.

I can relate to all of this - I have a step-son ("John") who will be 14 within a month and he has been one of the greatest joys of my life. I married his mother 4 1/2 years ago and with her came this very special young man and his sister who is older and somewhat lost - due to her exposure to her biological father. "John's" biological father is a full-blown drug addict and a drunk, who has repeatedly referred to his son as a "retard", and a "dumbass" - this coming from a concession-stand worker!! When I first met "John" he was depressed and had very low self-esteem, despite all of the support that his mother had provided him - he just never had the love of a true father in his life, sad. Because of his depression and low self-esteem, "John's" grades were low and his overall future seemed rather dismal - however since I have paid attention to him and have helped him out with his grades, as well as by spending time with him, he was selected as his school's "student of the week/month" for January! His biological father is a piece-of-trash, who has been an utter failure in everything that he has ever attempted, and if it hadn't been for his mother carrying his sorry ass financially, he'd be on the street today - the few people who know this clown can attest to this. I applaude any man who will step-up and be the father figure that these young men and women need in their lives to help them become healthy, happy, productive future members of society. These kids like "John" do not need expensive gifts or money handed to them, instead if a person would simply make time for them and let them know that they are truly cared about and loved, that is what makes the whole difference between a future successful young man or woman versus another lost and destroyed young man or woman in prison. THANK YOU to ALL of the Step-Father's and Step-Mother's out there, you all will never truly know the huge POSITIVE impact that you have on these troubled and lost children!

I know a few deadbeat dads. They just want mom and dad to take care of the problem. And that what usually happens until they die.

My uncle married a woman that had a young child, she knew who the father was, everyone did. He chose to raise that son as his own and he had a son, when his adopted son went to the army and the boys mother was killed in a carwreck, he raised that boy too. He raised his nephew to when his brother in law was killed. There seams to be an endless bottom to my uncle's heart because he has enough love to take in more to love and raise as his own. Nobody mentions the standup men like him, although they are out there. To the men out there like my uncle, THANK YOU. YOU HAVE WENT UNMENTIONED TOO MANY TIMES, PEOPLE FORGET TO MENTION MEN LIKE YOU. THEY FOCUS ON THE BAD, THE LOWLIFES. MY HUSBAND IS THE SAME KIND OF MAN, HE HAS HELPED RAISED MY SISTER-MY DAUGHTER AND NOW MY NEPHEW. Thank the good ones instead of concentrating on the others ever once in a while. There are many men helping wives raise step-children and being parents when theirs won't step up to the bat.

My nephew's real dad is like this, and my brother has been a really great dad to him. To all you children who do have a 'dead beat' for a real dad, you hang in there, and remember you are loved. I love my nephew with all my heart :-)