Judge it!
One time, while at a wedding shower for a relative, the bride-to-be- introduced her aunt to me & her aunt said, "You are the shortest person I've ever seen," No hi or nice to meet you. The bride-to-be just smiled & said nothing. I knew right away what that soon-to-be in-law was going to be like.
When I told friends about this, they all said I should have replied, "You don't get out much, do you? Or "You're the ugliest person I've ever seen."
By the way, I'm 5'2.
Salem, VA
Humor is disabled woman's defense against rude remarks
DEAR ABBY: May I offer a response to the letter from "Petite's Mom in Salem, Va." , whose daughter "Claire" is the target of rude comments due to her size? I was born disabled and walk with a limp.
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5'2" and you're the shortest person she's ever seen? She DEFINITELY needs to get out more. I'm also 5'2" and I've met LOTS of people (adult people) shorter than me! |
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I'm 5'3" and weigh 175 pounds, so you can guess that I've had to endure my share of rude comments from strangers. If I eat an ice cream cone on a hot day, people will come up to me and say, "You sure don't need that!" or they ask me "How much do you weigh?" Once a woman walked up to me, completely uninvited, at a restaurant and started sharing her dieting advice!
Another time a child of about 8 or 9 came up to me in the supermarket and said, "Wow," you sure are fat!" And his father, instead of reprimanding him, laughed and said, "She sure is, isn't she? That's what you will look like someday if you stuff your face like ap ig." What I do when people say these things is just to smile pleasantly and, without a hint of sarcasm in my voice, say, "Why, thank you!" The worst thing you can do is engage them in converseation, validate their "concern for your health," or share with them your doctor's opinion. None of their business. |
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I'm a 5'11" tall strong woman with some heft.
No one says anything to me because I will squish them like bugs. |
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5'2" is not short. I have a 4'10" sister in law and a 5'0" mother. Oddly enough, I don't think that anyone has ever asked them this stuff. Is it a geographic thing?
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Your story brought tears to my eyes. Although, it is small comfort, I have found that people who behave in such a shaming, insulting and demeaning manner to others have usually been treated the same way by their own caretakers/parents. This creates a vicious cycle of abuse. |
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Good one! |
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Dear Abby,
I was really fat, 4'0" and weighed 220 lbs. The comments were horrible. Then I went on a diet, lost weight and stop shaving under my pits and legs. Now, no one comes near me or bothers me at all. In fact, I stopped wearing shoes in the house as well. And when I go to the store, I always carry my mini pooch in my purse. I look like a hobbit with a rabbit. |
Hahahahah! I love it. Sometimes I have to tell myself these things... I'm not overweight, but I'm not skinny either, at 5'7" and in a size 8 or 10 (depending on the clothes), I guess I'm 'average'. But when I see a girl who is very tiny and I'm envious... I tell myself,'Yea, but you could break her like a twig.' If I can't be skinny, at least I can be strong!:) |
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I sometimes have had to bite my tongue to avoid possibly offending someone. I'm 6'1". my Mom was the tallest girl in her family at 5'2', even her brothers weren't over 5'6". My Dad's side is very tall. So with us, height discrepanies were just a matter of fact thing. I once discribed someone as short - they were about 5'4" - and a listener got highly offended. I didn't mean any offense - to me it was a descriptor, not a negative.
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Dear Time Challenged Person: Your boss needs to understand that as long as you shave your underarms and wear appropriate undergarments you are a model employee. Perhaps reminding him of the sexual harassment laws will get him off your back. As for your so-called "friends", if they can't understand that you are doing the best you can, you need to find new friends who will appreciate you for your sterling qualities. Abby |
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Hahaha!!!! Would you like a gummy bear? They've been in my pocket so they're nice and soft. |
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No thank you. Gummi bears get stuck in the cavity that I really should get fixed - one of these years... |
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Abby, I respectfully disagree. This may not be a model employee. She may be bringing cookies, cake, and other baked goods into the office and placing them on her desk or in the break room, in plain sight of people who are on diets. |
Between grief and nothing... I'll take grief. |
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Lol. I was thinking Ferris Buehler too. So Nova is Ed Rooney? "Ahh, Sir. We're professionals." |
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Either that or he's the Sausage King of Chicago... |
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Nope, not Clint Howard (or even Ron Howard, another redhead). Besides, that would have been cool because Clint Howard was on a cool Star Trek episode! LOL!
I said not a TV actor, that should help narrow it down. The movie those two "ladies" cited was based in Chicago, too. That's the last hint I'll give you... I have a pretty good guess...did the movie have sequels....I won't name the movie, but doubt if you or anyone else looks like that..... UOTE] |
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Don't use descriptors like runt, midget or umpa lumpa.(my politically correct side is coming out today) |
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So I guess my Granduncle Midge's (real name was William) name wasn't politically correct? |
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