Denim & Diamonds Owner Dennis Hess Dead?

It is to funny how they want to make comments like that but you and I both know that they are reading every one of those 272 postings. I don't understand people these days. I sure don't recall getting an invitation to this website and i'm sure they didn't either. But instead of just leaving they feel the need to make short sided statements like that. People like that shouldn't waste there typing skills on here.

Dennis and I were friends for 40 years and he was a good person. He told me things he said he had never told another person. In the last few weeks I knew Dennis was melting down and as sad as it was I couldn't do anything to help him. It was a wonderful thing to have a friend like Dennis. I hope his family finds peace. I only met Lena once about 6 months ago when she and Dennis came down to see me, so I don't know her good enough to judge her.

Sheila wrote:

Gene if you knew him so well, you would know how Dennis loved his children and would do anything for them. Also you would know his fondness and connection with Diane. You've made yourself seem very foolish, because I've only known Dennis since 1992 and I knew that information withing a month of meeting him. Many people live on the edge and we all make mistakes and your point is? Exactly.

Thanks, Sheila,
I'm just really grateful I got to chat with Denny last Friday. He called Michelle right after he got out of the Dr. I answered and things were said that I will take to my grave...I know how he felt about me, and all his kids mother's..and I'm sure there were times he didn't like us very well, but I never doubted his deep inside love.
I'm going to miss him alot!
Diane

I agree with you Watching. Denim's and Dennis live on in our hearts and minds. She can't take those away. What's left are only the material things. The only things that she really wanted. The public has the ability to take those away through non-support. They say you can't take it with you when you're gone but I'd like to see Dennis take Denim's with him. If he couldn't take it back in life we can make that happen now. Take her feeding tube away.

If Lena was with Dennis five years ago, she was cheating on someone else then. TRUST ME!
Wow, the things you learn on the internet!

Thank you for the classy response to my posting Country girl. I would also like to thank you for calling me an asshole. The point I was making was this I have went through all the postings trying to find good heart felt stories on Dennis. Unfortunately majority of the postings are bashings and pure hate. I understand the emotional rollercoaster the family is going through and I am sorry for there loss. I was hoping this forum here would celebrate the life of Dennis Hess and not the faults of one man. Some people here get that concept majority do not. That is sad!!!!

I don't recall calling you an asshole. I am sorry that you feel that i did. The way the posting was written might have been the problem. I myself felt that there was sarcasm in it. I can't speak for others but I do believe that at least one other person felt the same way. That coming from the response under mine from Memory Lane thanking me. I am truly sorry that I obviously didn't read it the way you meant for it to be read. With all the BS that is being said about Dennis it tends to just make people really furious. To speak so ill of the dead makes my skin crawl. Again, I am so sorry for not reading your post in the frame of mind you had when you wrote it. I hope the family and all the true friends of Dennis can get through this horrible ordeal and remember Dennis as the kind hearted, fun, loving, caring person that he was.

If I remember correctly from the marriage license I saw on line two nights ago, they were married on December 10, 2005. A day we all lived to regret.

Dennis was no angel. This is not the point here. There is no way you can convince me that any of the things she claims about Dennis are remotely accurate. I personally caught her in the overblown, feel sorry for me lies about how bad life was for her. Not to mention, knowing Dennis as long as I have, there are some things I can see him doing - but Hit men? Having to buy guns to protect herself? Would not “let her work”? Taking all HER assets? Everything was drama to her. She knew she needed reason to justify what she wanted all along. Money. I also watched her manipulate several people, or attempt to in this process.

She is and always has been a very insecure person since I first met her, Lena’s X friend could not have posted anything more accurate in an assessment of her character. Do some checking - follow leads -- you will find as I did - it is true. She has a pattern of this type of relationship. Dennis, while he had a few screwballs, and he obviously marched to the beat of his own drummer (and I am none to happy to hear he did not pay his child support, but from what I know of him the past few years is there is no question; he loved his kids.)

He would not have done this to Lena; even if he should have. That is the point. Her assessment of his character is trumped not by just “bar patrons” but by good friends, stable people.. Years of knowing Dennis. She is alone in this argument - not because the Denims crowd is such a harsh critic (which they can be- as most bar scenes) But because people that went beyond the superficialities with Dennis know what he felt through this, could see how he wanted to “make it right”; which was something common about Dennis, he would work really hard to “make things right”. But he could not jump high enough for this girl.

I think the bottom line is that in the past few years, close friends and family have witnessed the dynamic between Lena and Dennis that went from a tumultuous relationship to now his death. These are people who like me have had long time interactions with Dennis, 15 years. I have also known of Lena for about 13. Quite surprised when I found they had married.

We witnessed within this arguing, a very deceitful mannerism about Lena. She never once went without. No, you cannot call someone a murderer because they are not a “nice” person, however, the factual circumstances surrounding this whole situation are dubious at best. The time line over the past few years, watching the imbalance of actions and reactions during the disagreements between them, the degree that this girl took the arguing to is down right abusive; she was most certainly reactionary. It was Dennis that needed the order of protection from her… but he wouldn’t do it. I think this is evidentially obvious!

…..con’t

...I felt Dennis tried to maintain some kind of composure for most of the back and forth drama. Attempting to save “face”, thinking about Lena and her daughter… But when Lena realized he really wanted out…Lena hit back and when she did; she hit hard. No other word for it but cruelty.

What many of us witnessed were lies, abuse; both emotional and material (manipulating the law to do so) I have ever seen. I saw a immature girl basically lying to get into this relationship (about who she was; what her skills were) to convincing him to put stock in her. When he caught on, when she didn’t get her way, she would throw a tantrum. When he would point out things about her character that were accurate, she tried to find others to fight her fight, and because of her survival skill of manipulating; she did just that. Finally, his putting stock in her put him in a financial mess, in which she continued her reign of narcissism.

I do believe she is mentally ill. I also believe that her manipulation is the only thing she “knows”, this is how she has survived. I am not excusing her.. Of course! I am just making an observation.

I pray each day I have heard that there is justice for this. That if there is evidence that it will come to light, I fear this will not happen. Honestly, this is not going to change the way I feel about her. I had the unfortunate experience of having her cross my path once…I realized then …she is bad news.

Dennis was no angel. This is not the point here. There is no way you can convince me that any of the things she claims about Dennis are remotely accurate. I personally caught her in the overblown, feel sorry for me lies about how bad life was for her. Not to mention, knowing Dennis as long as I have, there are some things I can see him doing - but Hit men? Having to buy guns to protect herself? Would not “let her work”? Taking all HER assets? Everything was drama to her. She knew she needed reason to justify what she wanted all along. Money. I also watched her manipulate several people, or attempt to in this process.

She is and always has been a very insecure person, Lena’s X friend could not have posted anything more accurate in an assessment of her character. Do some checking - follow leads -- you will find as I did - it is true. She has a pattern of this type of relationship. Dennis, while he had a few screwballs, and he obviously marched to the beat of his own drummer (and I am none to happy to hear he did not pay his child support, but from what I know of him the past few years is there is no question; he loved his kids.)

He would not have done this to Lena; even if he should have. That is the point. Her assessment of his character is trumped not by just “bar patrons” but by good friends, stable people.. Years of knowing Dennis. She is alone in this argument - not because the Denims crowd is such a harsh critic (which they can be- as most bar scenes) But because people that went beyond the superficialities with Dennis know what he felt through this, could see how he wanted to “make it right”; which was something common about Dennis, he would work really hard to “make things right”. But he could not jump high enough for this girl.

I think the bottom line is that in the past few years, close friends and family have witnessed the dynamic between Lena and Dennis that went from a tumultuous relationship to now his death. These are people who like me have had long time interactions with Dennis, 15 years. I have also known of Lena for about 13. Quite surprised when I found they had married.

We witnessed within this arguing, a very deceitful mannerism about Lena. She never once went without. No, you cannot call someone a murderer because they are not a “nice” person, however, the factual circumstances surrounding this whole situation are dubious at best. The time line over the past few years, watching the imbalance of actions and reactions during the disagreements between them, the degree that this girl took the arguing to is down right abusive; she was most certainly reactionary. It was Dennis that needed the order of protection from her… but he wouldn’t do it. I think this is evidentially obvious!

…..con’t

I hope she gets arrested at the funeral!!!!!!!!!!

sorry for the double posting...

I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to all of you who were close to Dennis. I didn't know him very well, but he was always nice to me. I'm embarrassed FOR him that his dirty laundry is being aired on a very public forum on the internet, but if I were in your shoes, I'd be defending him too I suppose. I really hope his funeral isn't full of all this fighting... that you all can get through a couple of hours peacefully for his sake. I didn't know who this Lena person was until a few days ago. She sounds like a very awful person and she will get hers. Sounds like Dennis has enough people that really care about him to make sure she does get what's coming to her.

RIP Dennis

curious wrote:

Thank you for the classy response to my posting Country girl. I would also like to thank you for calling me an asshole. The point I was making was this I have went through all the postings trying to find good heart felt stories on Dennis. Unfortunately majority of the postings are bashings and pure hate. I understand the emotional rollercoaster the family is going through and I am sorry for there loss. I was hoping this forum here would celebrate the life of Dennis Hess and not the faults of one man. Some people here get that concept majority do not. That is sad!!!!

Curious,
You have not mentioned if you knew Denny or Lena, so for family & friends of Denny, we tend to get defensive at this point...Emotions are very raw..please read #282! An hour ago, Michelle called me..she's trying to get ready to say goodby to her father, whom she loved & adored & had ALOT of his traits, I might add..How do you think I feel not being able to be there and my grandson, Anthony can't make it either, because the family was never ask when they might like to have the funeral...well today is Anthony's last final before his college break and HAD to stay here...Grandpa understands, but please, you have to understand, Curious, that Denny's family has been disregarded and left out of any decisions for their own father, grandpa, uncle, brother! There are some wonderful stories about Denny, so if you want, just read those & skip over the rest!

Diane

rip dennis hang by your nostrils lena

Watching wrote:

No one should speak to her at his funeral.
…snip….. That will have a very big impact on her.

This "reverse psychology" only works with people who have a conscience. I truly hope the police are watching her.

However, I completely agree with you, in my very humble opinion, if anything people should stay away from her just based on the evidence of her psychopath tendancy...

Wow wrote:

Sounds like Dennis has enough people that really care about him to make sure she does get what's coming to her.
RIP Dennis

You got that right.

Guess Who wrote:

If Lena was with Dennis five years ago, she was cheating on someone else then. TRUST ME!
Wow, the things you learn on the internet!

She attempted to do the same thing during '06 and '07...etc...

The last thing she wants to see is for people to put their heads together...

I need to claify something....Denny was not a dead beat dad!! The judge ask me in August 1969 if I wanted child support & I said no. Those papers are filed with the Atchison County Courthouse...My eighteen year old brain told me not to ask for it, because I didn't want Denny to get visiting rights...I wanted to be the one to determine when he saw his child. Through the years, when I talked to Audra's mom, she would tell me that Denny would help her out, as we say, in between paydays!! And, of course, it really bothered him, more than anyone can know, when he let another man adopt Melissa & Brian. Denny felt like he was doing the right thing by not confusing his children when they were little and he did tell me 20 years ago, that all he had to do was sit tight and wait for his kids to come to him and they all did & he was an instant Grandpa!!
So please don't think that Denny chose to not be in his kids lives...Takes two to make that decision!! He tried his best to make up for it!

Diane