need advice

I know exactly what your talking about. I've been seeing a married man for 7 months now and i know he doesn't plan on leaving his wife! I'm the one that got it started and about 2 months into the affair he told me he couldn't do it anymore cause he really loved his wife,p.s if he loved his wife the way he should he wouldn't have done it in the first place!so i said okay and left it at that and about 6 weeks later he shows back up and i only get to see him ever couple of weeks now.But those of you that wants to down us for it do you ever stop to think that maybe our home life is not what it should be!!My husband has never treated me like i should be treated,everything and everybody else is always put before me and that ant right!! I was faithful to him for 20 years and I had just had enough and wanted something different in my life and to be truthful I would leave my husband this second if the other guy said he was ready.I could carless what people think of me i'm no whore nor slut, i'm a very good person and anyone that knows me would not believe i was doing this because everyone thinks we are the most perfect couple!But what goes on behind closed doors is sometimes a total different world!So my advise is do what makes you happy and live your life for you!!

Where is honesty and committment? Marriage is about honoring your word and staying committed to each other. I get sick of people saying, "I just ain't happy no more. I don't love him/her". WAAAAAAA!! Love and honesty is not about a feeling. It is about honoring a life-long vow that you made. Stop being selfish and looking for someone to make you happy. Make your self happy. Do something for yourself. BE HONEST. It will be better for you and everyone!

put urself in the wifes shoes how would u feel if the shoe was on the other foot . not so good .back away till he leaves and let it be them that make that choice not to be together not because u r sitten to attack once he does or doesnt . stop talkin and c if he wants u or just to get in ur pants guys r very deciveing.and yess u will be labled a hoe slut and everything else .

I've been in a relationship almost 2 years with this great guy, he went to the doctor the other day. The doctor asked him if we've been monogamous in our relationship. I know I am and he claimed he is. The doctor ended up giving him pills to take. I went to my doctor and he said I have chlamydia. I am taking pills for this now. I've been feeling horrible these couple of days physically as well as mentally. As of now, I just want to focus on myself taking care of me and on getting better.

I confronted him again and he still claims he hasn't slept with anyone else. The doctors said it could have been caused by mechanical injury. He still plays with himself he claims and that's what maybe caused it but I've never seen him and we live together. We've been together almost 2 years. He's been a great boyfriend and I guess I'll just wait take his word for it.

The truth will eventually show...he can't act/fake forever. Has anyone ever heard of this happening before?! Is that possible?

leave the married men alone!

same here wrote:

I know exactly what your talking about. I've been seeing a married man for 7 months now and i know he doesn't plan on leaving his wife! I'm the one that got it started and about 2 months into the affair he told me he couldn't do it anymore cause he really loved his wife,p.s if he loved his wife the way he should he wouldn't have done it in the first place!so i said okay and left it at that and about 6 weeks later he shows back up and i only get to see him ever couple of weeks now.But those of you that wants to down us for it do you ever stop to think that maybe our home life is not what it should be!!My husband has never treated me like i should be treated,everything and everybody else is always put before me and that ant right!! I was faithful to him for 20 years and I had just had enough and wanted something different in my life and to be truthful I would leave my husband this second if the other guy said he was ready.I could carless what people think of me i'm no whore nor slut, i'm a very good person and anyone that knows me would not believe i was doing this because everyone thinks we are the most perfect couple!But what goes on behind closed doors is sometimes a total different world!So my advise is do what makes you happy and live your life for you!!

If your both married, when and how do you meet up and how can your spouse not know something is going on?

same here wrote:

I know exactly what your talking about. I've been seeing a married man for 7 months now and i know he doesn't plan on leaving his wife! I'm the one that got it started and about 2 months into the affair he told me he couldn't do it anymore cause he really loved his wife,p.s if he loved his wife the way he should he wouldn't have done it in the first place!so i said okay and left it at that and about 6 weeks later he shows back up and i only get to see him ever couple of weeks now.But those of you that wants to down us for it do you ever stop to think that maybe our home life is not what it should be!!My husband has never treated me like i should be treated,everything and everybody else is always put before me and that ant right!! I was faithful to him for 20 years and I had just had enough and wanted something different in my life and to be truthful I would leave my husband this second if the other guy said he was ready.I could carless what people think of me i'm no whore nor slut, i'm a very good person and anyone that knows me would not believe i was doing this because everyone thinks we are the most perfect couple!But what goes on behind closed doors is sometimes a total different world!So my advise is do what makes you happy and live your life for you!!

Waaaaa, Waaaaa You stayed in the relationship, stop your whining, instead of looking for someone to get you out of it, help yourself!!!

Good person? what are you serious? stop lying to yourself and yes someone would believe it!!!!!!!!!!

I am a good person. I'm not married and I see it as his choice to do this. I didn't beg or plead for him to cheat.

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I am a good person. I'm not married and I see it as his choice to do this. I didn't beg or plead for him to cheat.

If you're not married, what kind of relationship did you have that you were faithful for 20 years and no by most peoples standards you are not a good person, a good person doesn't do things like this.

advice wrote:

<quoted text>If you're not married, what kind of relationship did you have that you were faithful for 20 years and no by most peoples standards you are not a good person, a good person doesn't do things like this.

I never claimed to be faithful for twenty years?

Bottom line a marriage contract is with two people and God. Wanna mess with him? This is probably just a comment to get a response but I am sure there are many youmg folks out there who are doing exactly this very thing. Temptation is part of life , if not you then 20 other women will temp this man over the years. The measue of the man is saying no to the instant gratification and yes to the long term goals he has set for himself and his family. And BTW. infatuation is a drug it only lasts for a while. marriage is real life. Every man has dirty laundry to do and that is not very romantic LOL

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If your both married, when and how do you meet up and how can your spouse not know something is going on?

Well meet near my house he comes by before work..and people tell on themselves!

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<quoted text>Well meet near my house he comes by before work..and people tell on themselves!

how do you hide it? why don't you leave your husband before you start a relationship with another man?

What do you mean how do we hide it? We haven't told anyone so nobody can run and gossip!And because neither one of us wants to leave it's more about the sex than having a full time relationship!!

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What do you mean how do we hide it? We haven't told anyone so nobody can run and gossip!And because neither one of us wants to leave it's more about the sex than having a full time relationship!!

You have to hide it from your husband, right. If it's just about the sex why would you leave your husband in a second for this other man?

Better close one door before you open another.

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You have to hide it from your husband, right. If it's just about the sex why would you leave your husband in a second for this other man?

Because at the moment i'll not allow my feelings to go any futher but I could totally love this guy!!! He doesn't plan on leaving his wife so I can't fall hard for him because I don't want my heartbroken!!

same here wrote:

<quoted text>Because at the moment i'll not allow my feelings to go any futher but I could totally love this guy!!! He doesn't plan on leaving his wife so I can't fall hard for him because I don't want my heartbroken!!

Why not make sure his wife knows through someone else and maybe she will leave him. Then he could turn to you and you would see where it takes you? The truth will hurt but it's better than secrets and lies.

Sounds like you've already fell for him and your heart is breaking. Not good for the relationship your are in at this time.

Well, if your so confident in your love then what's your and his real name?