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Aug 29, 2008
 
How do you get along with rude in-laws? Ive tolerated my mother-in-law for years and Im tired of being nice when she is nasty. I need advice.
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one word - divorce.

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Aug 29, 2008
 
guest wrote:
How do you get along with rude in-laws? Ive tolerated my mother-in-law for years and Im tired of being nice when she is nasty. I need advice.
Its simple...When she comes over, go fishing. When your spouse wants to go over there, stay home. Or get a divorce. Divorce worked for me..
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Aug 29, 2008
 
Divorce is out of the question. I often do leave when she comes around. But I cant avoid her always.
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Aug 29, 2008
 
How much do you love your husband and how much does he love you? Mine was like that, and I finally told my husband it was them or me. After that he stood up to his mom and told her we didn't have to come around or let her see our kids. Everything changed after that.
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Aug 29, 2008
 
I hate to put him in that position...but it's worth a try. I just want her to be nice! She has a very odd personality, I wonder if it could be menopause? Thanks
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who knows, I was very close to my family and my husband was close to his. I think she was jealous, because most of the time the girl can pull the guy away from his family and make hers more important.
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Aug 29, 2008
 
SHOOT'EM.....lol

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Aug 30, 2008
 
I'm sure you've already told your husband your feelings and that he's tried talking to them...so it's your turn. Have a sit down with them one on one...explain your position...the wife that feels that she is not good enough for their son, not good enough with the housekeeping, etc.(fill in whatever else applies)and let them know that when they are around you feel that you are unwelcome and that things are uncomfortable. Then explain that you feel that it would be good for you guys to have a relationship of kindess out of respect for your husband (and children if that applies). If you love your husband...you aren't going anywhere and neither are his parents. He will only resent you if you make him choose....and personally I wouldn't want to feel the guilt from that. Good luck! I know it will be hard getting the gumption up to speak with them...but, if you are really wanting things to be better...ya' gotta' do something. What's that saying "shi...or get off the ...."? I'm sure you can fill in the parts I've missed.:)
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I hate to put him in that position...but it's worth a try. I just want her to be nice! She has a very odd personality, I wonder if it could be menopause? Thanks
lol menopause is not a life sentence.some women just use it as an excuse.i wouldnt go out of my way to kiss her butt.just be nice and if that doesnt work remember your younger than her....you will probably out live her lol
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How do you get along with rude in-laws? Ive tolerated my mother-in-law for years and Im tired of being nice when she is nasty. I need advice.
Get rude back. I wouldn't care what they thought if they are not kind enough to be nice to me.
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i'm definitly used to rude in laws, im to the point where i've had to tell my husband that thewy arent welcome at my house, vice cersa. All she does is constantly insult me, treats my children differently, and his sisters are always in our business. It has worked so far, but u can tell it bothers him, prolly cuz he is such a momma's boy!
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Aug 30, 2008
 
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How do you get along with rude in-laws? Ive tolerated my mother-in-law for years and Im tired of being nice when she is nasty. I need advice.
Be invisable, when they are there. Act as though they don't exist. When they say something just act like you don't hear them, and don't ever say anything to them. After a while, they will forget you are there.
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Sep 1, 2008
 
i have one of those in laws from hell. she is in our business 24/7..my husband takes her side, and then all hell breaks loose. i have been rude, and told her and him that i would like for her to mind her own business, and it has worked some. but still she has to know everything that goes on. never ending.
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Sep 1, 2008
 
my wife and my mother are civil to eachother , but niether of them can stand one another. and everytime one of them does something i get stuck in the middle any advice on how to handle that?
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Sep 1, 2008
 
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my wife and my mother are civil to eachother , but niether of them can stand one another. and everytime one of them does something i get stuck in the middle any advice on how to handle that?
I would let both know you love them but can't take it anymore! I know I have told my husband its her or me, but if he said the same thing it would be a hard choice. I love my huband but I love my family! I might mouth about his mom but hes gotten where he'll mouth about mine. We both just end up laughing about it.
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Sep 2, 2008
 
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I hate to put him in that position...but it's worth a try. I just want her to be nice! She has a very odd personality, I wonder if it could be menopause? Thanks
Honey, It sounds like my mother-n-law you are talking about..lol..This is how I sum her up; Controlling, Pitiful, Obsessive, Rude, and VERY OPINIONATED!!! She complains because she is lonely and no one comes to see her, Gee who wants to be around someone like that. All I can say is either Move or get a script for xanax.

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#18
Sep 2, 2008
 
when they come over, slip some turbo colon blow into their food, that will shut them, (her) up for a little while. (unless they are a stall talker)

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Sep 2, 2008
 
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i'm definitly used to rude in laws, im to the point where i've had to tell my husband that thewy arent welcome at my house, vice cersa. All she does is constantly insult me, treats my children differently, and his sisters are always in our business. It has worked so far, but u can tell it bothers him, prolly cuz he is such a momma's boy!
Whew sounds like you are married to my ex!! I feel for ya, have been there, done that and would never put up with again what I put up with from the in laws when I was married to my ex. I look back and think I must have been nuts to put up with it then.
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Sep 2, 2008
 
Don't put up with them. That is crazy. Tell her what you think. Damn. Are you an adult or a child. Tell her she is being a very rude person.

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