Lynn Hoffmann October 25---Your mother was a fond friend of mine. I sent you an email I found from a cancer association, but it returned. I would like to contact or talk to you re: Barbara.
You may remember me. You rode with your Mom, sis, and I to Chesapeak VA in my little airplane. I met both your grandparents (I understand grandma passed in 2007).
Your write up about your cancer contribution was very impressive. I too am a cancer survivor. I also knew your Dad. I hope he is alive and well. I remember his dad and brother at the little grocery store. My email address is eotsj@gbso.net.
I would be interested in seeing some of Barbara's pictures in her travel through life. From when I knew her to current.
When I discovered her obit on the Internet, I was up North near that location and I visited Creech Cemetery. I need say no more.
Lynn A. Hoffmann
October 25 at 3:57pm---Mr. Hoffman...your email is far more of a shock than you can possibly imagine. Not only am I still greatly mourning the passing of my Mom, but the ride in the little airplane you reference was the one significant event I associate with the truncation of my very happy childhood (which I still mourn) and the last time I saw my beloved Daddy for several years. My memory of him standing on the tarmac wearing his fishing hat with all the lures waving goodbye and telling me he loved me and would see me in a couple weeks was the only image that ran through my mind for years. We were not allowed to have pictures of him, visit him, talk to him, or even talk about him. Hell befell us if we did. No little girls of 7 or 4 deserved that.
I've never blamed you. My Mother was a master of making bad decisions for us all on her own--but even after all this time and somehow managing to pull off a far better than normal adulthood, I cannot shake that one traumatic event. My Dad is well and the silver lining to that cloudy day is that he has been happily married to my wonderful and incredible step-mom for 35 years. Please do not contact them. My Dad's memory of that fateful day is quite clear as well.
I do wish you continued good health and I very much appreciate that you cared enough for my Mom to ask about her. She could have used more friends in her last years.
Regards,

Lynn Hoffmann October 25 --Ms./////: Thank you so very much for your reply. I too understand. You have no idea why. I remember every event to the thread. It was traumatic for me, but understand, I was not the reason, I was the "helper" although I loved her. Your Dad was on a decline as he told me then. There is a lot I would love to talk to you about.
No, I would never interfere or harm ////////. He is a fine man.
My daughters at that time were your age. My oldest, 46, next 45.
I cannot and should not tell you this story in an email.
It is not a reason for what happened, but I certainly was involved. I wish you to keep this only to yourself, but at this time in my own life it would not matter. I would tell ///// all I know, but why?
Just know, it affected me and I will always remember her. Not as a cause, but as a victim.
I will only say,
Please keep this to yourself, but I would make a trip to talk to you if you would wish this.
I am divorced of my wife at that time and very happily married to the person in that picture. She knows every thing I am saying and she is the "Barbara" I wished for.
Well, I guess I have said far too much.
In God I wish you and yours well. PLEASE keep me in contact, and yes I still would like to see pictures.
Lynn Hoffmann Mary Murphy-Hoffmann
P.O. Box 1
East Palatka, FL 32131
P.S. If I had known, I would have been there and also with my wife Mary on her dieing day. GBWY. Lynn
P.S.#2, You may share anything you wish with your sister. Lynn My BAD: I will only say, I will never forget but always love her.