We need to stop the drugs in Paden!!!

johnny wrote:

By the way EXT1 you never did tell me what town that was in.

The DIVA wrote:

I really don't think anyone is saying that stripping is the employement of choice for anyone, much less a single mother. I doubt very seriously that Lorna enjoyed it or would ever want to do it again. She did what she felt she had to do at the time. Comparing her to others is unfair and unjust. She may have had different circumstances or economic issues. She made a decision, and she did what she felt she had to. Would that have been my method of choice to support my children? No, absolutely not. Would I say that I would never do it? I can't say that either. I'm educated and I have a good career. But as a single mother of a child who is my world, if I had no other options at that time, if I got no help from anyone else, especially his father (whom I never have received a dime of support from) I would do what I had to do to support my child. If that means flipping burgers at Micky D's then that is what I would do. To me, my time with my child is more important than anything in the world. So working fast food jobs or some other low paying positions in which I would have to work three times as many hours to make ends meet versus stripping for two or three hours a night and being home with my kids the rest of the time would be a difficult decision. Do I do what I have to to make money and have the time to be a good parent (which means being there for the child when they need you) or do I work three jobs to put food on the table and not worry about what they are doing when I'm not at home? I don't know, because I haven't been put in that position. But I'm sure as **** not going to condemn a woman who simply did what she felt she had to do. You are not a parent therefore you do not have the knowledge of what a parent would do for their child. You have no right judging anyone at all.
Everyone has a past. Everyone single one of us has done things in our past that we are not proud of, I certainly have. Me, I choose not to talk about mine, I keep it where it belongs, in the past. Lorna is an open book and she does open her self up for bigoted small minded people to judge her. I seek no forgiveness from anyone other than GOD. And Johnny, I have to ask you, if God can forgive and tell Lorna everything will be okay, then why can't you?

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I AM NOT CONDEMNING YOU,.

Extended Family1 wrote:

<quoted text>What does it matter? It doesn't. It was in the past. I'm living for my kids' future now. And I'm truly happy your mother didn't find herself in the same predicament that I had found myself. But this forum isn't about me. It's about trying to better Paden.Please drop it. It's getting us nowhere.

notscared wrote:

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Not talking about the stripping just curious what town it was, why is it a problem to tell the town.

johnny wrote:

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I AM NOT CONDEMNING YOU, and if it were my mother that stripped yes I would have a problem with that also. But my mother didn't strip she worked other jobs, hard jobs for us she would never have stripped thats just my mom. I am very proud of my mother she has never ask anything of anyone and she worked two jobs at times if that is what it took, my mom is the world to me and I Love her dearly.

Extended Family1 wrote:

<quoted text>Because it is none of your business.And those who matter already know where I'm from.

Extended Family1 wrote:

<quoted text>I always said I wouldn't strip either. My children's safety and well being meant more to me than my reputation, so I did what I felt I had to do. People will think what they want regardless. I'd still rather be a former stripper than a mother who didn't/doesn't take care of her kids. Plain and simple. Sometimes we have to do things we don't like in order to move forward. Stripping isn't right but it's better than stealing, killing, or turning into a whore IMO.

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Hey Johnny (where ever you are) can you believe this, do things we don't want to do even though we know it is wrong give me a break. I am a 29 year old woman and don't tell me about hitting rock bottom because I have been there. No I have no children of my own but my mother died when I was nineteen and I took my 4 younger siblings. I worked at a fast food place, I cleaned houses, I would babysit, I did several things to bring in money but never never would I have gotten up there and stripped I could not go home and look my younger sisters and brothers in the face. Don't tell me that is the only thing you could find to support your children I for one do not believe that.

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I think the reason that you will not say what town you are from is because you are full of bull. So everyone on this forum knows you were a stripper but you don't want them to know what town you are from. And if it is a small town like you said it wasn't a Gentlemans Club please it was one of those nasty little bars. You keep saying you would rather do that instead of stealing, killing or being a whore, well who said you had to do any of that for your children get a job at a store, wal mart any where but that nasty job. Most woman that strip use their children as excuses why they do it but the fact is just like them you liked doing it at the time. Maybe not now in the present but back then I think you did.
So again what town was it that you lived in?

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Extended Family1 wrote:

<quoted text>What does it matter? It doesn't. It was in the past. I'm living for my kids' future now. And I'm truly happy your mother didn't find herself in the same predicament that I had found myself. But this forum isn't about me. It's about trying to better Paden.Please drop it. It's getting us nowhere.

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Please people don't you see this person is loving all of this attention? She says drop it and only four or five posts later makes another comment and defends herself for what she did or does. Maybe if you ignore her she will go away. Obviously she doesn't work like the rest of the world does because she has something to say every day.

Anyone wrote:

Ok EXT1 will not say the name of the town cause she is lying!!!!! If she tells the name of the town then everyone will know that it probably had about 3 mcdonalds and a walmart. She is a freaking LIAR!!!! LIAR LIAR LIAR!!! Pants on Fire!!!! Why can't you just admit it??? And to respond to your last post about the part that God forgives to those that repent, He does do that for sure, but you have to confess that your a sinner and turn from your sin, You still have yet to confess that you are lying about HAVING to strip, when you know good and well that you did not HAVE to do it, it doesn't bother me that you stripped cause Lord knows that I've done way worse in my past, but I admitted that I was wrong and did not lie about why I did them. I especially did not use my children as an excuse for doing them, shame on you for that!!! Lorna from all your post you really do seem like a good person, and I actually kinda feel sorry for you because it seems like you get attacked alot on here. But on the other hand you ask for it with all your comments.

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Extended Family1 wrote:

<quoted text>until you've been in my shoes you have no idea if I'm lying or not. I won't put the town because I don't want MY hometown trashed like folks are doing to Paden. But like I said, those who matter already know where I came from. I'm actually surprised that someone hasn't come on to tell you where I came from honestly. But, I'll not air it to the world for that town to be treated so unfairly like Paden has been. I will say it had one cafe, one convenience store, and a well service business. Anything else was one man/family operated SMAll "businesses"( like tax prep and such)run from one's home. I don't have to lie about why I worked there. It makes no sense to lie about WHY. You guys may not BELIEVE it but it's true. I've confessed my sins. I will not admit to that which I did not do.Period! Paden has been given a bad rap. PADEN can't help what it's residents do. The RESIDENTS need to clean it up and I'm not just talking about the drug use. Peace.

Anyone wrote:

I still say you are a liar I am going to find out your hometown and prove it so there!

Anyone wrote:

<quoted text>the fact that a town would have one store one cafe and a strip club means that that town is trash!!!

JUDGE NOT wrote:

if the strip club had a dental plan, I think a lot of moms from Paden should work there.