My girlfriend left me cause she doesnt want to live with my parents

I tried to tell her things would be better for us if we stay here but she wont listen.

Are you a grown man? If so get the hell out of your parents house, their job of raising you is done.

that's kind of a rude thing to say. with the state of the world today even people in professional jobs are having to move in with their parents to make ends meet.

she prolly felt uncomfortable showering with your daddy while you are away.

The thoughts of living with someones parents is enough to make anyone uncomfortable.

We lived with my in laws for about 6 months after our house burned. It was 6 months of hell.

No woman wants to live with a guy and his parents. No privacy.

make the best of it.
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First of all you say girlfriend...you shouldn't be living together at your parents house anyway....If you are man enough to live as a couple then you should be man enough to provide her a roof...If you cannot take care of your business then you need to stay at home with Mommy and Daddy until you are grown up enough to to move out on your own and "play house". No way would I allow anyone to play house on my dime. GROW UP!!!

I have to agree with Grandma to a point. I know the economy is bad right now and that might be what is giving you the need to live with your parents, but your relationship with your girlfriend will be so much better if you just wait until you are financially stable enough to take care of yourselves. I dont think it was fair of Grandma to tell you to grow up since she doesnt really know your situation.

She told me she wanted to be with me but dang rent everywhere is so high.

Hey grandma way to be a heinous bitch. Im 22 and live with my parents because my job cut me back to 10 hours a week along with the other guy in my department. I really need to grow up and make my company give me my hours back that just makes so much sense and would be so easy.

To why, man I get that, my former room mates and I were paying 765 a month for a two bedroom apartment. Move back to Scott County and get a new job and then realized its not much cheaper here, plus I don't know enough people with jobs to even find a roommate.

Also love how older people love to tell the younger generation to straighten up when they live off the government and created most of the problems my generation and my parents are trying to fix.

My two cents.

Grandma, I have agreed with on several things except this one. I have my own house, and I live on my own.

However with that being said, there are two many variables to make a judgment on this persons life and his relationship.

What if this guy had a house and his girlfriend lived with him and the house burnt down with no places to rent?

How about this guy getting cut back at work and couldn't afford rent, but could help pay the bills at mom and dads.

Some of us don't make a lot of money, and with just a minor change, a personal roof goes out the window. It doesn't mean we aren't responsible, it just means that we rather be with someone we love versus being homeless.

Now is that the way the situation is? I don't know. None of us do. So we really can't make that judgment. I know if something was to happen, my parents would gladly take me and my wife in to their home. As long as I did something to contribute. Should my wife leave me because of it? Does it make me a bad husband?

How about this guy making the decision to better his life with a nicer place to live by saving money while helping out?

Again, there are to many variables to really make a judgment one way or another.

Thanks another two cents, you put that better than I did, but I couldn't help myself. As I posted above I'm going through the same thing right now sans gf. It just set me off because I worked my ass off to pay my bills and then through no fault of my own I end of having to move back in with my mom just to afford to eat and pay my car insurance.

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Scottatron9000 wrote:

Thanks another two cents, you put that better than I did, but I couldn't help myself. As I posted above I'm going through the same thing right now sans gf. It just set me off because I worked my ass off to pay my bills and then through no fault of my own I end of having to move back in with my mom just to afford to eat and pay my car insurance.

Listen, the biggest thing I have learned in life is to ignore what others think. We can ask for advice, and objectively take criticism. However, some facts are just not there to make a formal advice decision.

I'm on the verge of losing my house, I know the feeling. I'm a hard worker, and can't help that things throw at me. However, I do have a loving family that will help me. I will never take advantage of them, I will help out with what I can. That is what family is for. I have enough dignity to hold my head up high and yes I live with my parents because of no fault of my own. If I had to.

Some people do not realize the situation until they are there or have to go through it. Just like some will automatically condemn someone of a charged crime, however there is a difference between charged and conviction. Now, once that person is in the shoes of a charged person, they will understand the truth of judgment. And only till then will the understand.

The housing market around here is really pathetic, if you find a house then they want an outrageous amount for it, if you find something with decent price its usually gonna end up being some crappy trailer out in the middle of nowhere. Its insanely frustrating.

I see I am not the only one who thought Grandmas statements were a little on the harsh side. She probably just thought you were a punk kid who didnt feel like working. There was no need for her to tell you to grow up when she doesnt even have all the facts of your situation. So come on Grandma, live up to your name and be caring and compassionate like a "real" grandmother should be!

I am a caring compassionate Grandma...and that is what is wrong with these kids now a days...they put the cart before the horse and parents encourage it....now if he had been married it would have been a little different...but "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free???" that crap has corrupted too many of our younger generation...today the thing seems to be no fear of God or too much rationalization...the other day I heard a kid say.."Sex is evil, Evil is sin, Sin is forgiven, So sex is in"...Now that is what our young kids are thinking and that is just WRONG!!! Now, an opinion was asked and that is what I gave and I do stand by it...If he was married and circumstances had changed things....then that is what family is for....but if you want to play house then do it right...but on your dime!!!!
I for one am fed up with me paying taxes for some young girl to have a baby out of wedlock and my tax dollars pay for it. And then my tax dollars pay for their food stamps, insurance, and sometimes even their housing...Yes I am bitter about it...We need to get in gear and teach these kids right from wrong and make them have some kind of responsibility. Now if you think I am harsh...then so be it...You know what I have said is the truth...and if you don't know it...read your Bible... As for me and my house...we will serve the Lord...

grandma. i can see what you are saying. but honestly with the rate of divorce i don't think it's wrong to live with someone before you get married. people get married way to young here. that's how you get people barely out of high school that have been divorced twice.(don't know anyone this has happened to personally. just heard about it.)

but your response was harsh. right now in this day and age there are tons of people who are having to move in with their parents. and it's not always someone on food stamps. people with good paying jobs are getting hours and pay cut and can't make ends meet. so to keep themselves from being homeless they move back in with mom and dad. nothing wrong with that if they help with bills. but as other people said you don't know this person's actual situation. yes they could be a young person without a job who wants to move in with mom and dad again. or they could be someone in their 30's who has a good job but has had hours or pay cut and too keep from living on the street this is the best option. but also they could be someone who can't find a job or can't find a good job in this jobless county. there are many factors that could attribute to this situation this person is in. if one of your kids/grandkids needed to move back home but they wanted to bring their boyfriend/girlfriend with them would you turn them away?(and i just say that as an example i don't know you or your family, all your kids/grandkids could be married for all i know.)