do dead people have birthdays?

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just_gotta_ask

Houston, TX

#1 Jan 4, 2011
just wondering what other people's take on this is. I know this woman who goes to the cemetary with cake and balloons on her dead sons birthday and has a full blown party for him. Not to mention she insists that others go too including small children who arent even related. The child was traumatized and has been in thereapy for months bc of this voodoo mama.
wouldnt you like to know

Parkers Lake, KY

#2 Jan 4, 2011
Maybe that is her way of dealing with it. Do you have kids or have you lost one? If not stfu!!

Since: Oct 10

Oneida, TN

#3 Jan 4, 2011
just_gotta_ask wrote:
just wondering what other people's take on this is. I know this woman who goes to the cemetary with cake and balloons on her dead sons birthday and has a full blown party for him. Not to mention she insists that others go too including small children who arent even related. The child was traumatized and has been in thereapy for months bc of this voodoo mama.
It sounds like the mother of this child has not yet come to terms with the death. A lot of people go to the cemetary. However, I do not know of anyone that insist on children coming to this "birthday party for a dead child" I don't think it is good to take children if they are not comfortable about it, if they have gone and don't understand and has caused confussion. If this mother needs to do this for herself then I would indulge her for a while. At the same time I would explain that they aren't injoying her efforts. They are in a better place where their are no tears, fears, saddness, and so on. That she is doing this totally for how she feels. Maybe this person talking with someone to unload a lot of things held in would help during this party, before while preparing and after to go through the steps of death.
If this doesn't help, she might now be able to except the lose without more help.
Anvil

Huntsville, TN

#4 Jan 4, 2011
just_gotta_ask wrote:
just wondering what other people's take on this is. I know this woman who goes to the cemetary with cake and balloons on her dead sons birthday and has a full blown party for him. Not to mention she insists that others go too including small children who arent even related. The child was traumatized and has been in thereapy for months bc of this voodoo mama.
Don't see why not. I have heard of dead people voting and drawing government checks.
ripoff

United States

#5 Jan 4, 2011
Do you have a birthday??
It's obvious you're "brain-dead"...& look at you!
You have a birthday!!
Is this all you have to think about up there in Scott County??

“A furriner from Texas.”

Since: Jan 11

Glen Rose, TX

#6 Jan 7, 2011
What the hell is your problem, Titusville?
GT KY

United States

#7 Jan 8, 2011
I MY SELF LOST A CHILD SHE HAD CANCER I DONT ONLY GO VISIT HER GRAVE ON HER BDAY BUT CHRISTMAS AND SOME TIMES I JUST GO TO VISIT HER WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT SHE IS JUST DILLING WITH IT SOMETHING I HOPE AND WILL PRAY U DONT EVER HAVE TO GO THREW SHE NEEDS ALL THE SUPPORT U CAN GIVE HER I DONT KNOW HER BUT I DO KNOW WHAT SHE IS GOING THREW IT IS SOMETHING U THINK OF ALL THE TIME EVEN WHEN U R SLEEPING BUT I DO BY MY SELF MOST OF THE TIME WHEN IT COMES TO CHILDREN WE HAVE GOT TO BECAREFUL EACH CHILD IS DIFFRENT SO I WOULD THINK IT WOULD DEPEND ON THE CHILD BUT IF U R NOT SURE DONT TAKE THE CHILD I WILL PRAY FOR EACH AND EVERY ONE OF U AND BE SURE U HUGG YOUR CHILD AND TELL IT EVERY DAY HOW MUCH U LOVE THEM LOVE YOU GUYS JUST VISITING FROM KY

“A furriner from Texas.”

Since: Jan 11

Glen Rose, TX

#8 Jan 9, 2011
GT KY wrote:
I MY SELF LOST A CHILD SHE HAD CANCER I DONT ONLY GO VISIT HER GRAVE ON HER BDAY BUT CHRISTMAS AND SOME TIMES I JUST GO TO VISIT HER WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT SHE IS JUST DILLING WITH IT SOMETHING I HOPE AND WILL PRAY U DONT EVER HAVE TO GO THREW SHE NEEDS ALL THE SUPPORT U CAN GIVE HER I DONT KNOW HER BUT I DO KNOW WHAT SHE IS GOING THREW IT IS SOMETHING U THINK OF ALL THE TIME EVEN WHEN U R SLEEPING BUT I DO BY MY SELF MOST OF THE TIME WHEN IT COMES TO CHILDREN WE HAVE GOT TO BECAREFUL EACH CHILD IS DIFFRENT SO I WOULD THINK IT WOULD DEPEND ON THE CHILD BUT IF U R NOT SURE DONT TAKE THE CHILD I WILL PRAY FOR EACH AND EVERY ONE OF U AND BE SURE U HUGG YOUR CHILD AND TELL IT EVERY DAY HOW MUCH U LOVE THEM LOVE YOU GUYS JUST VISITING FROM KY
So sorry for your loss.
GT KY

United States

#9 Jan 9, 2011
YES DEAD PEOPLE DO HAVE BIRTH DAYS CHECK YOUR CALENDER
GT KY

Georgetown, KY

#10 Jan 9, 2011
tracey every thing is fine tanks she was 5 years old and she is in heaven jesus is taking care of her untill i get thrir and then i get her back
geewhiz

Oneida, TN

#11 Jan 10, 2011
Well...in my MIND and HEART...yes, they have birthdays. I still think about my deceased parents on their birthdays...like one would have been 102 this year, and one 101 had they still been living. I don't think you ever lose them or their birthdays or spirits in that way...they are still with you always.
just_gotta_ask

Porter, TX

#12 Jan 10, 2011
I can see some of these comments are from the voodoo mama herself or some of her bunch. What I failed to mention is her dead son is now 27 years old....a grown man. Not a small child and the small child involved who was traumatized is 7 years old. Not only did they take this child to the cemetary for a birthday party for a dead grwon man but made him blow out the candles on the dead mans birthday cake. This poor child had nightmares of being chased through a cemetary or falling into a grave. Now maybe some of you will re-evaluate your comments. Were are not dealing with a normal mother at all. I totaly understand going to the cemetary on a birthday, the date of the death, christmas and memorial day but to make it a ritual that is forced on others is totally unstable.
GT KT

Cynthiana, KY

#13 Jan 10, 2011
yes i do agree with u to a certain point she does not need to drag childran in to it when i go to visit my babys grave i go a loan most of the time but i have takein childran with me but not to have a party my child s b day is comming up and she would be having her 8 th bday in june but the only thing i am going to do is take her a gift and some flowers but i will be aloan do u know how old the boy was when he died but as a parent it is our duty to protect our chindran so who ever is the childs parent is it is their fought not mothers well we need to protect all childran i have no childran left she was an only child but i love all the childran and their nothing i would not do for any child
gtt kt

Cynthiana, KY

#14 Jan 11, 2011
if you guys want me to tell u more let me no and i will respond thursday nite thanks i will be comming to your town thursday got personal buissnes their but have to take my father to VA in lexington in the morning thanks folks it has ben nice with you guys this has helped me more than any thing it really has thanks again love you guys and keep your prayers up and be sure u hugg your cildran and tell them how much u love them i sure wish i could
just_gotta_ask

Porter, TX

#15 Jan 13, 2011
yes, he was 26. So, he wasnt a "child" when he died. I am the parent of the 7 year old and I was not apprised of the situation until after my son started having the nightmares. I personaly think her actions and the actions of his own father who is shacked up with her should be considered child endangerment. It has definitely affected his thinking.
GT KY

Cynthiana, KY

#16 Jan 13, 2011
i dont think child endangerment is the word for it if anything it would be neglagent the child was not in danger i think you and your ex needs to put aside your differences and focus on the child and consult with each other on what your plans r and see if you both agree on them and maybe for the child 1 nice day i would take it to the cematery and walk a round and show it their is nothing to fear i feel this will help your child i am sure it will not hurt since my babys death my wife and my self have gottin a divorce she has remarried to a very nice guy i think a lot of him my wife and my self made a promise to each other what ever happens we will remain friends she calls me or i call her every night to check on each other because we went threw the same thing and she seems to be taking it better but not sure i know when i wake up i take my shower brush my teeth get dressed and put on my mask so you really never know were someones heart really is love you guys every one pray for that child i will tell more to nite thanks
Zions MommyRiP

Baytown, TX

#17 May 15, 2011
Well I'm the mother of a deceased child...my baby girl is turning one this year and yes I'm giving her a birthday party. It won't be @ the cemetery but I plan on getting her a cake especially made for her & rememberance t-shirts made,it won't be anything big just a few family members & friends....I say until you have walked in a persons shoes don't judge their actions....WE LOVE OUR ANGELS just as you all love your living child/children..
meow

Strunk, KY

#18 May 15, 2011
Zions MommyRiP wrote:
Well I'm the mother of a deceased child...my baby girl is turning one this year and yes I'm giving her a birthday party. It won't be @ the cemetery but I plan on getting her a cake especially made for her & rememberance t-shirts made,it won't be anything big just a few family members & friends....I say until you have walked in a persons shoes don't judge their actions....WE LOVE OUR ANGELS just as you all love your living child/children..
I have lost a child and b days are a celebration of life so I dont do b day parties I just decorate my sons grave really nice
tiffany

Oneida, TN

#19 May 16, 2011
I think some of you are sick and need help. How do you know what you would do until it happens to you so don't bee talking about anyone cause god hears all things and could take your child at anytime, as for him being 26 or 27 no matter how old your babies get THEY ARE STILL YOUR BABIES, especially if they are gone from this cruel world, by the way people get on here and talk about everyone I don't think the world will stand much longer at this rate. if this is how people in the world are i hope it ends soon and all of cruel people go straight to hell where you belong..........
THE MOTHER

Oneida, TN

#21 Jun 14, 2011
just_gotta_ask wrote:
I can see some of these comments are from the voodoo mama herself or some of her bunch. What I failed to mention is her dead son is now 27 years old....a grown man. Not a small child and the small child involved who was traumatized is 7 years old. Not only did they take this child to the cemetary for a birthday party for a dead grwon man but made him blow out the candles on the dead mans birthday cake. This poor child had nightmares of being chased through a cemetary or falling into a grave. Now maybe some of you will re-evaluate your comments. Were are not dealing with a normal mother at all. I totaly understand going to the cemetary on a birthday, the date of the death, christmas and memorial day but to make it a ritual that is forced on others is totally unstable.
I just now heard about this malicious slander and so did my family so REVA none of us have commented on this until now!! I never forced Justin to go anywhere, he insisted on going to let the balloons off with me and Harold and my family on Josh's 26th birthday, no cake, no party, just balloons. His first birthday in Heaven it was his sister's idea to take two cupcakes and she blew them out the candles herself, like she always helped him blow out his candles every other birthday when he was alive. Harold and Justin were not there. Joshua may have been a grown man, but he is still MY CHILD, how I mourn him is none of your business, you think that you are hurting me by making fun of me how I mourn my son, its not, it just shows what kind of person that you are.......... and furthermore, don't worry about Justin being at the cemetery EVER again, he won't be, I promise....... The only thing that Justin is traumatized by is by you psychopath!! Go print this one REVA you coward. What goes around comes around, and it has a bad habit of gaining momentum on the return trip. Children are a gift from God. So cherish the days you have with him, cause you never know when God will call them home....

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