apparently you yourself are a lacking in the brains dept. i brought my daughter up in church. but she is 25 and no longer live any where near me. i have took out mental hygene on her. left her in jail when she got in trouble. ive begged pleaded and done all i could to kept her off the street.
have you ever tryed to control a adult child. or a out of control teenager.
i should even acknowledge your post. whatever
I completely agree with you, it is impossible to "make" a grown child do as you would like them to do. Life doesn't work that way. Even a 17 year old ( and younger these days) do pretty much what they want because the law says that we can't discipline them and then when they do something to get into trouble, they point the finger at the parent. I don't believe that anyone has a right to sit in judgment of another persons "parenting skills", as if the examine their own I am sure they will find their own lacking somewhere. If they say they were perfect they are either lying, or they didn't have kids, or possibly if they did, they didn't raise them someone else did.
I am happy to know that your daughter and her boy friend are okay, they were luck to escape with their lives and I pray they learned a valuable lesson from such a horrifying experience. As far as her having a drug problem, that should not be laid at your feet either. There is only so much as a parent that you can do. I have two children and I am very lucky that neither one of them use any kind of drugs and that they detest alcohol. Seeing a mean drunk while they were growing up was an assurance that they wanted nothing to do with the partying life style. However, they aren't perfect and I have worries just like any other parent. There is always that worry nagging in the back of my mind that someone will get them to "try" a drug and then I will enter the worse nightmare in my life, no doubt. I already have enough stress without that but I will not say that it can NEVER happen in my family because I am not anywhere near that naive. I know that there will always be that possibility among others.
I just wanted to let you know that I don't think it was right for anyone to attack your parenting skills and make assumptions about you. Others need to look at their own faults before they say something rude or mean to another person. You know what they say about assuming, that is the truth. I hope your daughter has learned that she should never hitch a ride with anyone that she doesn't know, as well as many that she does know. Hopefully she will ask herself a question that has save my behind a couple of times, and that question is "How well does anyone ever "REALLY" know someone?
I also do hope and pray that she gets help for her addiction problem. It is a disease, but she has to want help and until she does, there is no way to help her. Just don't ever give her money, that will just enable her. If she says she needs something like food, or other necessities, offer to take her and pay for what ever items she needs if you want to help, but never under any circumstances give her any cash and don't believe her when she tells you it's for some necessity. I pray that things get better for you and that all of the missing are found. I think of those families every single day.