Oak Ridge Child Support Office

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Ready to make changes

Knoxville, TN

#1 Sep 1, 2011
How many men have been denied their rights for a fair wage adjustment by the Oak Ridge Child Support Office?
Ready to make changes

Knoxville, TN

#2 Sep 1, 2011
My ex tells them she hasn't waorked in 3 yrs but just quit her job 2 month ago. April nor carol never even checked her status just took her word. It's cost me 8,000 dollars in over payments. This office is only for woman so men get a lawyer because they will fuc u over quick....
Anonymous

Nashville, TN

#3 Sep 2, 2011
Oh grow up, support your kids and stop whining!!
Was wondering

Nashville, TN

#4 Sep 2, 2011
You're exactly right"Ready to make changes"!My son has a child&her mom was trying to get $100 a week from my son plus he pays for his childs health care&keeps her on his days off.What more does she want?I think that child support office is a big fat joke!She wants that money but she sure does drop our grand daughter off at her parents house every Friday n Saturday,we have her two days during the week,what the heck.She dresses better than my grand daughter,gets her nails done etc.Did I mention she only works part time so I know she cant afford all of that,I guess the child support pays for luxuries,it's a darn shame.
my2cents

Hendersonville, TN

#5 Sep 4, 2011
The sad thing is it's only the men that try to be good fathers and pay their support that screwed over. My children's father has almost never paid and has no contact with my kids what so ever and he is only ordered to pay $180 a month because he cant seem to hold a job. I have male friends who have 50/50 custody of their children and pay for medical and childcare and still have to pay more than that because they are responsible and hold a job. The system definitely needs an overhaul.
screwed

United States

#6 Sep 16, 2011
To waswondering, are you really insinuating that your granddaughters mother is money hungry because she is trying to get $100 a week from your son? I really hope that was a typo,$100 a week is hardly sufficient to raise a child, nor would it cover many "luxuries".
Was wondering

Nashville, TN

#7 Sep 16, 2011
You don't know the situation so keep out of it.She has my grandkid maybe 3 days out of the week.We get her plus her other grandparents.My son also pays for her health insurance,co payments,prescriptions I could go on n on.How come the other parent doesn't have to pay for the child to?I don't think it's fair how she wants all this money n everything else but she would absolutely go crazy if she had no one to watch her child so she can do whatever the hell she wants, her n her ugly ass boyfriend can have fun,that's pretty pathetic if you ask me.If a woman/man don't wanna watch there kid then why the heck do they have them?I love my grandkid n believe me,she's confused b/c she goes from our house to her house to her other grandparents house then back to our house,heck it's confusing me just talking about it.Get your story straight before you judge me n not know the whole story,thank you!
Motherof3

Brentwood, TN

#8 Sep 17, 2011
I have raised my 3 children independently most of their lives, without the financial support they deserve. When I receive notification to appear in court, I am the only party that bothers to show. Over the years, I have seen more unfairness than I care to elaborate on. Basically, you have a non-custodial parent that pays their child support or you don't. The one that pays also makes an effort to pay medical expenses, purchase clothes and school supplies...offer support with football and soccer practice. The non-custodial parent that chooses not to pay is usually absent. There is no happy medium. Either way it goes... one parent is getting the short end of the stick... or are they? I may not get the fincial help that my children deserve, but I take care of them. When my children are grown, they will remember me at every school function, every ball game, every ceremony, etc. Some people want to be parents to love and nurture their children. Regardless of what the courts decide, the child is the most important. Parents allow their differences to interfere with what should ultimately take priority over everything...their child(ren). How's that, Ready to Make Changes?
IMHO

Knoxville, TN

#9 Sep 17, 2011
screwed wrote:
To waswondering, are you really insinuating that your granddaughters mother is money hungry because she is trying to get $100 a week from your son? I really hope that was a typo,$100 a week is hardly sufficient to raise a child, nor would it cover many "luxuries".
I think what she is getting at is the fact that many mothers (and it sounds like her granddaughter's mom is one) don't want to be responsible for paying anything to support their children. My grandson's mother is too lazy to get off her fat butt and provide ANY support for him. She lives off the child support she gets from my son and all the government handouts she can get! She is perfectly capable of getting a job, but she readily admits that she doesn't want to work, so WE THE TAXPAYERS, along with my son's child support payments, enable her to lay around all day! And my son has shared 50/50 custody and pays medical insurance on my grandson as well. Yep, the system is definitely skewed to favor the mother. Reform is definitely needed.
just saying

Nashville, TN

#10 May 17, 2012
Everyone in that office has a personal grudge against men it seems.Even the men that are paying always seem to be the bad guys.They go after who they want, and that's it.They've had my Dads case for years, and they call my Mom and ask her how to find him.Isn't that what they're paid to do?
hmm

United States

#11 May 18, 2012
Its not just men gettin screwed over. They're just lazy. I have had to do all of the leg work on my two cases even when one of my baby daddy is in the military. I gave them his base and his supervisors phone number and they wouldn't shut up about his ssn. So i had to call his supervisor and he made my bd call the office. And two of my friends have been done the same way. They hate anyone who is gonna make them work-not just men.
momof2

United States

#12 May 18, 2012
Was wondering wrote:
You don't know the situation so keep out of it.She has my grandkid maybe 3 days out of the week.We get her plus her other grandparents.My son also pays for her health insurance,co payments,prescriptions I could go on n on.How come the other parent doesn't have to pay for the child to?I don't think it's fair how she wants all this money n everything else but she would absolutely go crazy if she had no one to watch her child so she can do whatever the hell she wants, her n her ugly ass boyfriend can have fun,that's pretty pathetic if you ask me.If a woman/man don't wanna watch there kid then why the heck do they have them?I love my grandkid n believe me,she's confused b/c she goes from our house to her house to her other grandparents house then back to our house,heck it's confusing me just talking about it.Get your story straight before you judge me n not know the whole story,thank you!
If there is a place where you can raise a child for 100 a week, let me know. That doesn't even cover childcare, preschool etc. Consider yourself lucky she lets you see the child. As grandparents you have no entitlement. You never mentioned the child going to your sons. It sounds like you're just jealous. The amount you son is paying is the bare minimum. I feel sorry that the child has to spend any time with you as you are clearly a bitter resentful hag.
mel

United States

#13 Jun 1, 2012
I'm a woman paying child support and I got screwed from the child support office. They stayed on me like flies on doo doo. My ex is on disability by choice looking for handouts and is very manipulative. I was told they knew they could get money out of me and the dead beats just stay dead beats because there is no money to get. For the record Anderson county is for the father should he persue custody or child support.
The Truth Is

Knoxville, TN

#14 Jun 3, 2012
momof2 wrote:
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If there is a place where you can raise a child for 100 a week, let me know. That doesn't even cover childcare, preschool etc. Consider yourself lucky she lets you see the child. As grandparents you have no entitlement. You never mentioned the child going to your sons. It sounds like you're just jealous. The amount you son is paying is the bare minimum. I feel sorry that the child has to spend any time with you as you are clearly a bitter resentful hag.
Hmmmm, I don't think it is the dad's place to pay the whole cost of supporting the child. Fathers have to pay their own rent, utilities, buy food, clothing, etc. Why should the father have to pay the cost of the mother's rent, utilities, food, clothing, etc? This is where most deadbeat MOMS get it wrong!!!!!!!!! The father (or the mother) should pay only the cost of what the child uses. Regardless of whether the mother (or father) had a child or not, they would still have to support themselves. Most moms want enough out of the father so that they can lay around and not work. And, frankly, 100 dollars a week will more than pay for the food and clothing a child needs. It won't pay for cigarettes, beer and food for mom, but the child support is just that----FOR THE CHILD!!!
Motherof4

United States

#15 Jun 3, 2012
Well Id just like to say my husband and I have children, I have 2 girls he has 5 boys, 4 of which live with us, the father of my children is only required to pay 140 a month...my husband cannot even get the mother of 2boys served for child support, on the other hand paid out child supp on 3 for 5yrs @675 a month when in fact the children didn't even live with the mother, so I guess im undecided on anything its not just OR office, it's everywhere...i really believe afdc cases are put first &when someone works has to struggle to get help or they say doesn't qualify for assistance, if u want visitation help with kids or at least CALL! thats the problem I have with parents who say they are parents but don't pick up a phone to call check on their kids or ask if they need anything!
tired of it

Antioch, TN

#16 Jul 31, 2012
my son was in the army 5 yrs, went beyond just supporting his wife and two sons, he would call me and ask to borrow money HE WAS BROKE cause she had to PAY bills!!! right! he spent 1 yr in afganastan, he recieved e-mails saying shes cheating saying they saw her and the boys here and there, it was messed up! try to make it short, he didnt want the divorce, and done every thing to prevent it, Now... 3 yrs later, he is no longer in the army, he is now in jail for the 3rd time for child support rearage, and it is still based on his previous army pay, and he doest even have a job, he got fired from the last two because she kept calling saying there is an emergency at home, WHO PROTECTS THESE FATHERS WHEN THE SYSTEM IS THIS SCREWED UP! DIDNT MENTION, HE HASNT SEEN THEM IN 7 OR 8 MONTHS NOW BECAUSE SHE DECIDES WHEN HE CAN SEE THEM. SCREWED UP
tired of it

Antioch, TN

#17 Jul 31, 2012
mel wrote:
I'm a woman paying child support and I got screwed from the child support office. They stayed on me like flies on doo doo. My ex is on disability by choice looking for handouts and is very manipulative. I was told they knew they could get money out of me and the dead beats just stay dead beats because there is no money to get. For the record Anderson county is for the father should he persue custody or child support.
I think in a marridge with children when it ends up divorce, let the cheating spouse be the loser of the kids. my sons now ex- cheating on him while he was deployed to afganastan, what a desaster, she wanted the divorce to be with her"new found" and because my son was stationed, the custdy went to her, plus most of his money, 3 yrs later.. he is in jail for the 3rd time, the divorce and losing his children devasted him, now he has nothing,and its only getting worse, and her she works now, gets foodstamps and sells over half of them cause the kids are never there the other grand parents keep them most the time!!! and we wonder why so many mothers are on drugs if they dont sell their foodstamps they trade them!!! wake up OR CHID SUPPORT OFFICE CHECK AND SEE WHERE THE MONEY IS GOING
tired of it

Antioch, TN

#18 Jul 31, 2012
does anyone know for sure how long can the jail hold for childsupport, my son had just got out 4 months ago and was paying what he could, odd jobs, I know and so does he 50.00 aint nothingmuch, but its somehing untill he gets hired, now the judge sent him back to jail because he didnt have 90.00 he only had 80.00, so now unless he comes up with 500.00 purge he will be in there, no-one will help come up with that because his ex-- is known to do drugs and every one feels she will only have a pill party with th 500.00 check she would be getting,cant hire a lawyer cant afford one, don't uderstand why the judge and the lawyers for O R child support only listens to "money" and "how much" not so much the childs safty and the father being a father and loving them and spending time with them, I thought they couldnt be sent back for rearage duing a single yr, yeah, every employer wants to hre a jail bird, again wake up OR
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Oak Ridge, TN

#19 Aug 2, 2012
I hate bitches that go get child support... I raised my kid six years on my own before remarrying. Never asked for a dime in child support.. Only greedy money hungry women run and get it.... Say all you like about how much it is to raise a kid, well if you don't and can't do it on your own the child should not be in your custody!!!!!!
Jamie

Highlands, NC

#20 Aug 7, 2012
:( your an idiot. It has nothing to do with not being able to afford a kid on your own. My kid has a dead beat dad and its the only way he shows any responsibility to his child. So that's why i get child support. Not bc Im money hungry bc i don't need it. But i didn't lay down and make a baby by myself. Im raising him by myself so its the least the jerk could do. Good for you for raising your kid alone. Good for you for doing what a parent is supposed to do. Do you want a cookie for that?

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