'Most Wanted' lists parents who owe child support -- themorning...

i need to know if my ex is just scaring me or if i really owe child suport

Oh yeah, check this guys story out and it pretty much sums up what the system does to fathers. The system is corrupt, completely one sided and they don't care if you end up under a bridge homeless. As long as the state is getting their cut.

http://www.cseaplague.org

i am the mother of an 11 year old boy that don't know his father by choise of the father ok as long as he has some take in it so far he has not and owe's me 13,000 dollar's i also have two other children from another father that does not pay support to me but take care of all 3 so very proud of him even if we are not together well that point is is that father's should pay and it don't alway's have to be with money both parent should do they'er part or stay out of the bed room

Just because fathers decide not to be in their childs life does not mean they get to choose if they pay child support or not. I support my 11 year old daughter on my own, no welfare or child support. Does not mean I shouldn't collect child support.

from my side as a male paying child support, the job i had was pretty good,so i would buy my daughter cloths,shoes,get the hair did 100 a pop,plus other stuff.. my ex would always say thanks,and i would say hey if anything happens to my job dont forget what i do,the ex says i will you have done more than your share i heard this for over 10yrs. my company i worked for went out of business, let me tell you she went for blood at court, and iam paying more now making half as much didnt give me a break on anything,they even held it against me for not seeing my daughter more when she lives in another state. in my case i feel i was done wrong very wrong,i have had to get loans from family members,sell my car,nice guitar,gun collection,jewerly,sold about everything i own. iam so pissed i have no money to even take my daughter to the movies or even go out and eat,so i havent seen her in a few years,cause mom wants to use her as a weapon against me,ex told me that my daughter does not want to see me,so i just get by from day to day,iam very stressed out,the only good thing is she will be 18 soon,and i have a few thousand left in back support and i should be done with the both of them.

This is a letter I am thinking of sending to both PA and VA domestic relations. Please tell me if you think I'm right or way off base:
First, let me say that I am the custodial parent but, have been on the other side of the coin as well. Saying that:
I am stunned that I can figure out a better way to calculate child support off the top of my head and those in charge haven’t even come close yet. Both sides of the child support system (not to mention the children) suffer from the way it is now. How many complaints from both sides do you need to hear? One pays too much and the other doesn’t get enough; hello, that’s because it’s currently based on income. Why, I ask you, is child support based on income? You might say that it’s expected from the amount of money we make, a certain percentage would be spent on the children. How do you know?! Does a child need everything they see?! Or does a child need the basics? How about gauging child support on the basic necessities of the child? It isn’t that difficult to gauge the cost to raise a child per month in the area that the child lives. For example: Housing: if a parent has one child and a two bedroom apartment costs $250/mo and a one bedroom apartment costs $175/mo (only one bedroom would be needed if that parent did not have the child), the difference is $75/mo, now divide that number by two and the cost for housing that each parent should be responsible for is $37.50/mo. Now do the same for utilities, food, medical and etc. If child support was calculated in such a manner, it would be fair for both parents (and the children) because it would be based on what the child needs not on what some bureaucrat thinks each parent would spend. Don’t forget to calculate this for the area in which the child lives. Also, don’t forget that each parent should be responsible for 50% so, divide each category by two.

Take my situation, when I was paying child support for my two children, I paid my ex-wife $650/mo for child support and I say paid my ex-wife because she didn’t have to lift a finger expect to cash the check. Living in Brockway, PA, she was paying ~$400/mo for a three bedroom house with garage and I, living in northern VA, was paying ~$900/mo for a one bedroom apartment with limited parking (yes that’s right,$900/mo; cost of living from area to area across this great nation varies tremendously).(In case you were wondering, she left me and moved, not the other way around. She decided that she wanted to live in the area she grew up in and also determine if we were meant to be. I tried to make it work but, well, it didn’t. Anyway…) I was working as much overtime as possible just to be able to buy bread and cheap bologna for breakfast, lunch, and dinner; not to mention to afford gas money to visit the children or afford birthday/Christmas presents. I told the judge that I could barely survive with what was left of my paycheck, he told me to get another job. How is it fair that my ex-wife didn’t have to work and live well; and I had to bust my hump just to struggle? Now that I have my children and my ex-wife is supposed to pay child support, I still think the system is unfair. The average rent for a three bedroom apartment in the area I live is ~$1.5k/mo (I pay a >$3k/mo mortgage but, that’s me). My ex-wife’s work record is sporadic at best and she keeps finding her way into jail. She was ordered to pay $306.10/mo plus $35/mo arrears which has now been reduced down to $o/mo without remittance of arrears because she got locked up again for God knows what.$306.10/mo for two children?????? Reduced to $0????? Are you kidding me???? What happened to the judge telling the non-custodial parent to get another job?! Is it because of sexism? Or is it the fact that child support is based on income and not on the needs of the children? I think it’s both but, it wouldn’t matter if the calculation was based on the cost to raise a child, divided by two.
It is very important to base my system’s calculation on the area in which the child lives but, it should be calculated from where the child was living at the time of the separation/divorce or where the custodial parent decided to move. Neither parent should be penalized for such decisions. In this way, abuse (due to cost of living differences) can be kept to a minimum. The way child support works now, abuse on both sides runs rampant. I’ve read many forums where the custodial parent claims that the non-custodial parent either doesn’t work or they get paid under the table or that they are very good at hiding their money. Well, you can’t hide where the child lives and you can’t hide how much it costs to raise a child in that particular area.
Am I missing something? Or are you missing something?
Additionally, if one parent says that they can’t afford the children, the other parent should get the opportunity to have custody.
I’m not saying that my system is perfect but, it’s a great deal better than what’s in place now!

First, let me say that I am the custodial parent but, have been on the other side of the coin as well. Saying that:
I am stunned that I can figure out a better way to calculate child support off the top of my head and those in charge haven’t even come close yet. Both sides of the child support system (not to mention the children) suffer from the way it is now. How many complaints from both sides do you need to hear? One pays too much and the other doesn’t get enough; hello, that’s because it’s currently based on income. Why, I ask you, is child support based on income? You might say that it’s expected from the amount of money we make, a certain percentage would be spent on the children. How do you know?! Does a child need everything they see?! Or does a child need the basics? How about gauging child support on the basic necessities of the child? It isn’t that difficult to gauge the cost to raise a child per month in the area that the child lives. For example: Housing: if a parent has one child and a two bedroom apartment costs $250/mo and a one bedroom apartment costs $175/mo (only one bedroom would be needed if that parent did not have the child), the difference is $75/mo, now divide that number by two and the cost for housing that each parent should be responsible for is $37.50/mo. Now do the same for utilities, food, medical and etc. If child support was calculated in such a manner, it would be fair for both parents (and the children) because it would be based on what the child needs not on what some bureaucrat thinks each parent would spend. Don’t forget to calculate this for the area in which the child lives. Also, don’t forget that each parent should be responsible for 50% so, divide each category by two.

I love going on Parents most wanted to see who owes child support, makes me laugh, people i knew from school who were stuck up, they are wanted soooooo funny, seen a girl i went to school with at Redners she was giving access card to pay her bill her 4 kids hanging on her and crying who's the daddy? how many daddy's? she was a stuck up snob in high school, see she's struggling keep your legs closed!!!

Love to read these cracks me up!

RideEmCowboy wrote:

How come there isn't also a list of mothers who owe visitation?
Men withhold support to get back at their ex-wives.
Women withhold visitation to get back at their ex-husbands.
To focus on one, and ignore the other, is just plain discrimination!

2 wrongs don't make it right and somebody needs to be the biggger man or woman, because everyone has a day to answer to their maker.

Two wrongs don't make a right, because everyone has their day and in the end it's the child that suffers from the absent of either parent. so someone need to be the bigger parent ( man or Woman). Parents need to set examples for their children and put their differences aside and focus on what that child need. It not about you or your well being it's about the child caught in between both parents. You shouldn't want your child to choose between one or the other.

I was wanting some feedback on what i should do. these family law webpages are no help. Ok i'm nineteen my father left me when I was nine, In 1999 he payed like $120.00 a month for like 10 years and it wasnt under the attorney general, or court ordered. So how i see it, that he was just give me a gift everymonth its not recorded plus it wasnt even halve of what it shoulda been. I know the money will go to my mom. But we are working together on this and i was praying that someone reads this and can help me with information.. email:Evancla11@aol.com

well i agree with some of the statements and disagree with some. but i have an all togehter different one. i pay my support every month. i do have about 6k in arrears. but part of what i pay goes towards the arrears. my problem is i am a govt employee and i cannot even get a promotion in my job because i would have to get a passport to do so. and i just feel there should be some leway in the rules for people like me who pay and need the passport for work. im only trying to better myself and be better able to afford paying that back support off quicker.

CS rewards lazy gold diggers who don't work. Marry a rich guy, take all you can, then when you can't stand him any more, take the house, kick him out, and get huge CS payments to boot, while you drink vodka and bang your new boyfriends.
To all the women who married poor guys, well, you have a different story.

this system almost makes you hate to even see the kids because you have no money to even take them out plus they are just robbing you of your man hood its set up for you to fail

plus guys start messing with chicks that has much as you on the same level then there no get over