I have been wondering what it would be like to feel the satisfaction in my marriage that use to be there> I have never done anything outside the marriage bed> I am not satisfied and have tried everything to entice my husband but nothing seems to work> Sex is only about 3 times a month and he is the only one that gets any pleasure. Is it wrong to look outside the marriage for me to be pleased<>

I'm in a similar situation. Wish I could tell you it gets better. I've been married nearly 3 decades, and love my husband dearly. But...I've become selfish in the last year or so...I look for 'lust' outside my marriage. Women are more like men than we'd like to admit. Just be discreet and no one gets hurt. It's very do-able.

curious 69 wrote:

I have been wondering what it would be like to feel the satisfaction in my marriage that use to be there> I have never done anything outside the marriage bed> I am not satisfied and have tried everything to entice my husband but nothing seems to work> Sex is only about 3 times a month and he is the only one that gets any pleasure. Is it wrong to look outside the marriage for me to be pleased<>

I think u should talk to ur husband and tell him things have to change and if that doesnt work than do what u have to do

OPINION wrote:

<quoted text>I think u should talk to ur husband and tell him things have to change and if that doesnt work than do what u have to do

I agree I talked to my man bought toys and clothes and even went as far to try something I had never done in 20 some years but now I play the dicreet game and it is satisfying which he just is not

I am in same situation with you and it gets harder everyday, have so many mixed feelings not getting our needs met is one thing and then when you do have the talk with him and he says things will get better and you wait and wait and not a damn thing changes make it even more harder to deal with.

I think our husband's just assume we'll live 'lonely' for the rest of our lives. I tried for years to tell my husband I needed more intimacy, but he never took me serious. I can only speak for myself, but I'm a 'nicer' wife since finding my 'friend with benefits'.

same situation wrote:

I am in same situation with you and it gets harder everyday, have so many mixed feelings not getting our needs met is one thing and then when you do have the talk with him and he says things will get better and you wait and wait and not a damn thing changes make it even more harder to deal with.

Ok this may seem a little out there but stay with me....

Whips and Leather.

Just saying....

I've never done the whips and leather thing.......but definitely like it rough and hard....so who knows.....

Just remember "No" means "yes" and "Oh god please stop it hurts" means "hell yeah do it harder".

Couldn't have said it better.....

Ronin_LLC wrote:

Just remember "No" means "yes" and "Oh god please stop it hurts" means "hell yeah do it harder".

Try surprising him by wearing something extra sexy maybe stiletto heals, black hose, a mini skirt with your breasts popping out over the top of your blouse. Don't just give in to what he wants.. make him earn it. Tease him over and over bringing him to the edge of orgasm but not allowing him release until YOU say so.. Make him beg you.. Once he is worked up enough you can have him do anything you want.. Including the household chores.. (wink)

Is a guy wrong for feeling the same?....My situation is similar, with gender being the exception. She is almost "going through the motions" & I want to really feel, experience it together. So how would a man in a similar situation identify a woman such as yourself & where? I'm not looking for a hookup, but am curious....I don't want to approach the wrong gal in the produce section @ Kroger ;)...lol

Im_with_ya wrote:

Is a guy wrong for feeling the same?....My situation is similar, with gender being the exception. She is almost "going through the motions" & I want to really feel, experience it together. So how would a man in a similar situation identify a woman such as yourself & where? I'm not looking for a hookup, but am curious....I don't want to approach the wrong gal in the produce section @ Kroger ;)...lol

LOL you never give up, you just switch tactics.....

Trust me...I tried it all before choosing to 'step outside'. He and I just have totally different libido. He's fine with once a week. I prefer at least once per day. So I compromise...he gets his once per week...I get my 'friends with benefits' AS OFTEN AS I POSSIBLY CAN...(wink...wink)

InYourDreams wrote:

Try surprising him by wearing something extra sexy maybe stiletto heals, black hose, a mini skirt with your breasts popping out over the top of your blouse. Don't just give in to what he wants.. make him earn it. Tease him over and over bringing him to the edge of orgasm but not allowing him release until YOU say so.. Make him beg you.. Once he is worked up enough you can have him do anything you want.. Including the household chores..(wink)

Hey, can I get in on some of these reindeer games? I love O.P.P. Let's set this thing up. These materialistic husbands suck. Let me spoil you.

You people should have thought about all this before you got married,so live with your choices and dont be a cheat.Remember you have to live with the choices you make for the rest of your life.

OMG...if I want to hear preaching...I'll go to church on Sunday!!!!

Jacob Ewing wrote:

You people should have thought about all this before you got married,so live with your choices and dont be a cheat.Remember you have to live with the choices you make for the rest of your life.

It is tough. Been married almost 20 years and wife doesnt have much interest anymore. She even says that I should find someone else, but I havent. But, my mind does stray sometimes...

Right there with you wrote:

I'm in a similar situation. Wish I could tell you it gets better. I've been married nearly 3 decades, and love my husband dearly. But...I've become selfish in the last year or so...I look for 'lust' outside my marriage. Women are more like men than we'd like to admit. Just be discreet and no one gets hurt. It's very do-able.

You sound similar to me

go cheat, go destroy your lives and put your children through hell, go be selfish.

You women are the scum, men don't cheat nearly as much as you whores.

This isnt an episode of desperate housewives, you are from maysville and surrounding areas. Be thankful anyone wants to be with you skanks, You overweight, ugly, gingivitis ridden, uneducated, fowl disease carrying whore.

Every last one of you. You arent beautiful, you arent attractive, you're a drunk mans fun for one night and baggage from there on out.

Thank god i found my wife in college, or else i'd be stuck in the trap that is your stench. And my wife agrees, i funny how many of you people think you are liked, or even respected by us. In all actuality, you are all jokes to us.

Boy, the charm of living on the river wore out quick. i wish we would have choosen a a better place to set up shop. You poor trashy inbreeded freaks.