NM on prowl for dead-beat dads

Or worthless men who want to hit but not commit.

Again, the article didn't give me the info I wanted....wheres the list...I want to see the list!!! DUH! If the word "list" is in the title
shouldn't they give us the list, or even where to find the list??? Journalism 101

USMC 0311 wrote:

Wouldn't be any dead-beat Dads if there weren't worthless women that can't hold on to their husbands.

You're disgusting. There wouldn't be any dead beat dads if there weren't any irresponsible, disloyal men. Period.

USMC 0311 wrote:

Wouldn't be any dead-beat Dads if there weren't worthless women that can't hold on to their husbands.

This makes NO SENSE whatsoever!! Please explain!

Dezert Roze wrote:

<quoted text>This makes NO SENSE whatsoever!! Please explain!

The poor fools who marry these greedy women and then watch them go through the "middle age crazy" period, go get a facial, a boob job, a new hair color, start hanging out in the bars, find a young boyfriend, tell the hubby to move out, get a restraining order to keep him out of his house and then go to divorce court playing the victim and the power mad judge awards her enough child support to keep up her party going while she dumps her kids with relatives, leaving the estranged husband to decide whether he pays the ridiculous child support award or eats and pays his own rent. Simple enough.

all in all its the poor kids that have to suffer in the long run,.,whether it was the dad that wasnt worth a damn or the mother,82 or both,.,.,.

Diamond Dave wrote:

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The poor fools who marry these greedy women and then watch them go through the "middle age crazy" period, go get a facial, a boob job, a new hair color, start hanging out in the bars, find a young boyfriend, tell the hubby to move out, get a restraining order to keep him out of his house and then go to divorce court playing the victim and the power mad judge awards her enough child support to keep up her party going while she dumps her kids with relatives, leaving the estranged husband to decide whether he pays the ridiculous child support award or eats and pays his own rent. Simple enough.

Ding ding ding... We have a winner.

"whether he pays the ridiculous child support award or eats and pays his own rent. Simple enough."

Or goes and parties with his buddies or works side jobs so he doesn't have to show legal income or wants to pretend he's a good daddy but never shows up when he's supposed to show up or can't seem to stay out of jail.

Sorry pal, I have NO sympathy for DEAD BEAT DADDIES. I could care less if he can eat or pay his own rent, that's just a bs excuse. Your children come first. Period.

HAL wrote:

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Ding ding ding... We have a winner.

Unless you & DD have been in this situation, you CAN"T be serious!!! We're in C-Bad, not Hollywood! I'm not saying there aren't women here like that, but it's just as much their judgement as the womens' to stay and play! If they are intelligent enough to know they're being used, they should walk out-end of story! They shouldn't keep messing around with one, while living with another! We can't create a baby without sperm, so men HAVE to be responsible along the line somewhere! My opinion is, if BOTH agree to lay down, then BOTH are responsible! We were all taught sex education & protection, so there's NO EXCUSE either way!(Unless I were to deem the male population dumb!)

USMC 0311 wrote:

Wouldn't be any dead-beat Dads if there weren't worthless women that can't hold on to their husbands.

I'm noticing you haven't defended your statement, and probably can't for many reasons!

there are some whom are stuck in a situation with which they cant see their kid(s) because the woman tookoff with someone else and the poor fool who thought he had a family is stuck, paying the price for the ladies lack of commitment. how is that fair to the father if he cant see his kid or kids?

Diamond Dave wrote:

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The poor fools who marry these greedy women and then watch them go through the "middle age crazy" period, go get a facial, a boob job, a new hair color, start hanging out in the bars, find a young boyfriend, tell the hubby to move out, get a restraining order to keep him out of his house and then go to divorce court playing the victim and the power mad judge awards her enough child support to keep up her party going while she dumps her kids with relatives, leaving the estranged husband to decide whether he pays the ridiculous child support award or eats and pays his own rent. Simple enough.

Poor Dave. I'm so sorry this happened to you. But there are lots of women out there who'd love to be with you...except that your poor, because your babymamma spent all your money on that boob job.*snicker*

Taken wrote:

there are some whom are stuck in a situation with which they cant see their kid(s) because the woman tookoff with someone else and the poor fool who thought he had a family is stuck, paying the price for the ladies lack of commitment. how is that fair to the father if he cant see his kid or kids?

Think about it this way: If your child's other parent was too damn high and mighty to work at Allsup's in order to help make sure the child got fed, would you reward that person by letting him/her spend time with the child?

phenomenalwoman wrote:

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Think about it this way: If your child's other parent was too damn high and mighty to work at Allsup's in order to help make sure the child got fed, would you reward that person by letting him/her spend time with the child?

Kids need their dad as much as their mom. While you feel good "punishing" your ex, you are in fact only punishing your kids. YOU picked this man, good or bad, as the father of your children, so punish yourself and leave your poor kids out of the tug-of-war.

AZ_dlo wrote:

"whether he pays the ridiculous child support award or eats and pays his own rent. Simple enough."
Or goes and parties with his buddies or works side jobs so he doesn't have to show legal income or wants to pretend he's a good daddy but never shows up when he's supposed to show up or can't seem to stay out of jail.
Sorry pal, I have NO sympathy for DEAD BEAT DADDIES. I could care less if he can eat or pay his own rent, that's just a bs excuse. Your children come first. Period.

THANK YOU! You nailed it on the head! I also know of women who are dead beats as well. There are a few cases I know of where the mom left the child with the dad and took off. One of them found the child at home by its self and the mom halled it.

That is right, the children come first! The father of my last three does not pay child support but posted on myspace that he will be riding soon, but just needs 60g...I lmao at that one. He wants a new truck, tells people he is going to get one soon and blah blah blah.

He is forced to pay support from his paychecks being garnished. Does it make him be involved in his daughter's life? Nope.

I have told him the kids come first, as I have already wrote my story, and NO, HE comes first in his eyes...he even wrote he is in love with himself!!!

I do also want to say that there are women who do keep their children away from the dad to get back at him because he left and she did not want him to.

I find it quite disturbing that women will do that when the father is a good dad, is not psychotic, and does try. I do feel sorry for those type of fathers.

I feel bad for the cases where the woman got pregnant and did not tell the guy, takes off, then years later, like 15 decides she wants back pay and the guy NEVER knew he even had a child! There was this one case where the dad had wrote on a site and I do not believe that the woman should get 15 years of money when she did not inform the father his child existed.

When this happens, if the father wants something to do with that age of the child, THEN pay child support from that period till the child is 18. Then that father should help get that child through college.

Michele wrote:

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THANK YOU! You nailed it on the head! I also know of women who are dead beats as well. There are a few cases I know of where the mom left the child with the dad and took off. One of them found the child at home by its self and the mom halled it.
That is right, the children come first! The father of my last three does not pay child support but posted on myspace that he will be riding soon, but just needs 60g...I lmao at that one. He wants a new truck, tells people he is going to get one soon and blah blah blah.
He is forced to pay support from his paychecks being garnished. Does it make him be involved in his daughter's life? Nope.
I have told him the kids come first, as I have already wrote my story, and NO, HE comes first in his eyes...he even wrote he is in love with himself!!!

Oh, and if they fail to pay child support 5 times: "KILL KILL KILL"

LOL

Libslam wrote:

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Kids need their dad as much as their mom. While you feel good "punishing" your ex, you are in fact only punishing your kids. YOU picked this man, good or bad, as the father of your children, so punish yourself and leave your poor kids out of the tug-of-war.

You think that not paying CS isn't an in-your-face? It's a question of responsibility. If he's not responsible enough to feed the kids at my house, he's not responsible enough to feed the kids at his house.

AZ_dlo wrote:

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Oh, and if they fail to pay child support 5 times: "KILL KILL KILL"
LOL

LOL...no!!! However, I do not care if his bytch died! Why? She messed with my kids' lives and MOSTLY, said she molested my then 2 yr old son...but killing her? Nooo... I am not that type like that. I hate her so bad that if the gov. said I could kill her and get by with it, I would not even do it because I cannot even stand the sight of her face...her fat rolls will kill her on their own!!!

Libslam wrote:

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Kids need their dad as much as their mom. While you feel good "punishing" your ex, you are in fact only punishing your kids. YOU picked this man, good or bad, as the father of your children, so punish yourself and leave your poor kids out of the tug-of-war.

Oh so kids' need their dad if he is abusive and was in prison? I don't think so. As for whether good or bad...people change good or bad and the other parent's behavior is what influences a child to be good or bad. I do not agree with your statement. My 4 yr old wants nothing to do with his "dad". The kids do not even mention him. They do not want to call him or anything. Do you think that putting a child in half and full nelsons till he cries ar age of less than 4 is ok? Do you think calling your baby fat is ok? Do you think that a child calling a woman mommy, aunty and seeing her sleeping with their dad is ok? Do you think that someone falsifying a child's shot record is ok for putting down her name for the mother is ok? No, I was never absent. Do you think three babies locked in their room to be ignored is ok? Do you think a child taking prescription adult strenth medication is ok when at the age of 3 told it is not candy and STILL leaves it on the table? do you think it is ok for me to get calls that he needs food to feed the kids for he is feeding everyone else for parties? do you think it is ok for me to get calls that he needs money to watch the kids for electricity? do you think it is ok to teach the kids to falsify charges and RO and lie in life?

NOT every child needs the other parent no matter what the behavior is!!! Look at the so called dad that threatened to kill the mother and or the child before he pays child support. The judge STILL let him see the child. Now the child is dead.

Just because a woman or a man chooses a person who changes or shows their true colors does NOT make the other parent responsible for their choosing in every situation. I choose responsibility for my first son for I knew how he was whereas the second...he changed and became WORSE when we moved out of state.