BabyDaddys

I need advice Liberty. I am wanting to make the father of my child sign his rights over to me. He can barely pay child support, he hardly ever sees our child. I honestly just want him out of my life. Do I need his permission to do that? Can I just file for it, or would it be better to agree to it outside of court? My son is still young, and I honestly feel that he is better off without that "guy" in his life.

Every child has the right to know their father. If he's attempting to work and pay child support, why would you want him out of the child's life? Not being critical, just wondering what he's done that's so bad that he shouldn't see or know his own child.

if this guy was good enough for you then why isnt he good enough for your child? thats why you girls need to learn about birth control!! its available every where now. hell u could have ran into shell and bought a condom then u wouldnt have this problem. deal with then guy. he's ur babys daddy...no one to blame but your self. deal with it. maybe other girls will read this and keep their dang legs shut

He can't support our child like he should. So why should he get any rights to him? I want my husband to adopt him. He's a better man than his "real" father will ever be. I barely knew the guy when I got pregnant by him, and I just want him out of our lives. He's a loser, and my child doesn't need that around him.

sucks wrote:

Every child has the right to know their father. If he's attempting to work and pay child support, why would you want him out of the child's life? Not being critical, just wondering what he's done that's so bad that he shouldn't see or know his own child.

Because it's all about the money. Notice how many times she said he can't or wont support his child? Have you heard lately that the country is in a recession? I'm sure she is one of those girls that lives off the governments dime, so she probably can't even define recession. Every child needs their mother and father... althou in this case, I hope the father takes her as* to court fights for custody and makes her as* pay child support! Hmm have any of you read the Fighting4custody forum on here.. I wonder if he's the father fighting for his child??

question wrote:

if this guy was good enough for you then why isnt he good enough for your child? thats why you girls need to learn about birth control!! its available every where now. hell u could have ran into shell and bought a condom then u wouldnt have this problem. deal with then guy. he's ur babys daddy...no one to blame but your self. deal with it. maybe other girls will read this and keep their dang legs shut

So many good points!!!

Ok, you BARELY knew him when you got pregnant?? Hmmm. That's real nice. Maybe they should look into what kind of person YOU are too if you have sex with people you BARELY know.

Too many woman around here hold kids over mens' heads and it's BS! Children deserve BOTH parents and it's not up to one or the other to raise them. It takes two people. There are plenty of women doing this kind of crap and I get so annoyed when I see it. Mothers aren't innocent either. You WANT your husband to adopt him? Just how well do you know your husband?

The truth of the matter is ...
Child support has nothing to do with the Father's rights to see his child .... They are 2 seperate things and MOST Judges will tell you the samething.

It is sad that the Child doesn't get to know his Dad as long as it is the Dad making that choice not to see him... It is your job as a mother to let him know that He can not help what his Dad does but things dont always work out the way you want. The child will be grown one day and will find out what his Dad is like ... If the father is not in his life at all... then take action for rights to be rendered.

I hope you learned about birth control by now. Did you get preg. is H.S.?

Sounds to me like you choose not to let him see his child. Over money I'm sure. I hope you file these papers and he fires back with custody. You should really be ashamed of yourself! I hope your husband knew how you really are before he married you. You make me sick!

sad wrote:

I hope you learned about birth control by now. Did you get preg. is H.S.?

For your information, I didn't get pregnant in High School. But I was only 18 at the time. I love my kids, more than I love myself. Yes I have learned about birth control you as*.

LMMFAO I forgot to write, this is the way you should reply to the above Mad Dad.

If only you would have gone and seen Larry t CVS, your whole life would be different and you wouldn't have to ask for life lessons from strangers on this post.

wantitall wrote:

I need advice Liberty. I am wanting to make the father of my child sign his rights over to me. He can barely pay child support, he hardly ever sees our child. I honestly just want him out of my life. Do I need his permission to do that? Can I just file for it, or would it be better to agree to it outside of court? My son is still young, and I honestly feel that he is better off without that "guy" in his life.

Maybe I can give you some advice. I have been there. We were told it would go smoother if we got the bio dad's permission.
Show him all the postive things the adoption will have. The child will have stability. No more back and forth. The bio father will not have support and back support looming over him.
And if your both from this area he will know how the child is doing, from a safe distance.

You want the truth from me? No I didn't know the guy that well. Thought he was attractive had too much to drink and found myself pregnant a month later. I hate that it went that way, but I can't change it. I just want to forget that he is my child's father. I want my husband to adopt him, and some one had said something about him not having to pay support, and I think that would be the way to go about it. He doesn't want to pay, or can't pay what ever the situation is. If he cared about his child, he would be around. He's got other kids that he takes care of. But where is he at for mine? And did I mention he is married? He goes out of his way to take care of them and love them, but when it comes to us, he is no where. If you wont pay for your kid, then you don't need to see them! It's only fair. I think anyway. You may disagree with me but i dont care! I just want to have FULL custody without him named at all! He never signed the birth certificate so it's not like i would be erasing anything!

you women need to remember that it takes two, it's not just the mans fault! Don't blame alcohol for your bad choice!

I'm sure you have given him plenty of reasons to stay the hell away from you, but the child I doubt it. Not if he has other kids as you stated. Is that what you are going to tell your child when he is older? Oh honey mommy loves you, but you were a mistake due to alcohol. AWW something every child wants to hear! And wow if your husband reads the last post of yours, I think he may begin to question whether or not it's because you just don't want him around, or because you see him loving someone else and it kills you. Get over him and don't take a child from their father over something so stupid.

This lady is simply asking for advice not to be attacked.

Been There wrote:

This lady is simply asking for advice not to be attacked.

she got both

wantitall wrote:

You want the truth from me? No I didn't know the guy that well. Thought he was attractive had too much to drink and found myself pregnant a month later. I hate that it went that way, but I can't change it. I just want to forget that he is my child's father. I want my husband to adopt him, and some one had said something about him not having to pay support, and I think that would be the way to go about it. He doesn't want to pay, or can't pay what ever the situation is. If he cared about his child, he would be around. He's got other kids that he takes care of. But where is he at for mine? And did I mention he is married? He goes out of his way to take care of them and love them, but when it comes to us, he is no where. If you wont pay for your kid, then you don't need to see them! It's only fair. I think anyway. You may disagree with me but i dont care! I just want to have FULL custody without him named at all! He never signed the birth certificate so it's not like i would be erasing anything!

If his name isn't on the Birth Certificate then why do you need permission? If I was that dude, and I had someone saying I had their kid and was wanting money, I'd be wary too. Get a paternity test. I'm willing to bet a months pay that not only is your kid not his, but you don't know who the kids real dad is.