Just Me

Evansville, IN

#1 Aug 11, 2012
I am a lousy husband. I have not been a good father. I dont have even 1 friend. I guess thats why i am posting this here.
I am such a mean person that I have no friends. My wife has stuck with me but there just isnt any love after 26 years.
I have a grandson that loves me only because he is 3 years old and doesnt know any better.

I saw an episode of "House" where a guy in the hospital had to ask a woman to sit beside him while he was dying and "pretend" to love him. I feel like thats what I would have to ask my wife to do.

I just don't matter to anyone.

Don't feel sorry for me. You wouldn't like me either. I don't want to be this way.
what really happened?

United States

#2 Aug 11, 2012
Just Me wrote:
I am a lousy husband. I have not been a good father. I dont have even 1 friend. I guess thats why i am posting this here.
I am such a mean person that I have no friends. My wife has stuck with me but there just isnt any love after 26 years.
I have a grandson that loves me only because he is 3 years old and doesnt know any better.

I saw an episode of "House" where a guy in the hospital had to ask a woman to sit beside him while he was dying and "pretend" to love him. I feel like thats what I would have to ask my wife to do.

I just don't matter to anyone.

Don't feel sorry for me. You wouldn't like me either. I don't want to be this way.
you need to find God!
joy

United States

#3 Aug 12, 2012
Just Me wrote:
I am a lousy husband. I have not been a good father. I dont have even 1 friend. I guess thats why i am posting this here.
I am such a mean person that I have no friends. My wife has stuck with me but there just isnt any love after 26 years.
I have a grandson that loves me only because he is 3 years old and doesnt know any better.

I saw an episode of "House" where a guy in the hospital had to ask a woman to sit beside him while he was dying and "pretend" to love him. I feel like thats what I would have to ask my wife to do.

I just don't matter to anyone.

Don't feel sorry for me. You wouldn't like me either. I don't want to be this way.
What makes you a mean person?
Do you feel mean, or is it a cover for something deeper?
jjj

Lexington, KY

#4 Aug 12, 2012
You kind of described me, only I'm a woman, and younger. There are medications that can help with that. Therapy can help. The right church can help. When we're unhappy we try to make those around us feel it. We have to figure out why we get unhappy. My reason is the lack of control I have over my life. We have to find better coping skills, and that's where the church and therapy come in. The meds help with irritability.
Da Truf

Mount Sterling, KY

#6 Aug 12, 2012
[QUOTE who="what really happened?"]<quoted text>
you need to find God![/QUOTE]

there is no god or jebus. They are for the weak minded fools. F the christians right in their arse.
What

United States

#7 Aug 12, 2012
Makes u think this idk why u feel that ur wife has these feelings of not likeing you. Find help through work through your church anyone that matters to you not u to them. I dont have a clue what ut going through but there is a better life out therr who cares if ur a lousy person u can only please u thats ir noone else. Please get help n writr back to let e know ur ok alright. I dont know u butyom always taught me ur never a stranger in a room of people ok
Susan

Winchester, KY

#8 Aug 12, 2012
Just Me wrote:
I am a lousy husband. I have not been a good father. I dont have even 1 friend. I guess thats why i am posting this here.
I am such a mean person that I have no friends. My wife has stuck with me but there just isnt any love after 26 years.
I have a grandson that loves me only because he is 3 years old and doesnt know any better.
I saw an episode of "House" where a guy in the hospital had to ask a woman to sit beside him while he was dying and "pretend" to love him. I feel like thats what I would have to ask my wife to do.
I just don't matter to anyone.
Don't feel sorry for me. You wouldn't like me either. I don't want to be this way.
If you truly don't want to be this way and are regretful that you have not been a good husband or father, then you can do something about it. Apologize to your family, ask their forgiveness, and put forth the effort and determination to make a happier life for your family and yourself. Your wife has stuck by you for all these years, so surely she cares for you whether you think so or not.
Get yourself referred to a good counselor and deal with whatever makes you behave the way you do. There is help, you just have to be willing to get it and work on changing things.
I sincerely wish you the best. God bless you and your family.
white boy

United States

#9 Aug 12, 2012
I stump my big toe this moring when I was getting out of bed.
What

United States

#10 Aug 12, 2012
The hell r u alrite stomps on other one there a matching pair
Hugs and Love

Evansville, IN

#11 Aug 13, 2012
No one is immune and trust me youd be amazed at the people right this moment that has those same thoughts.What sets you aside is that you have reached out.We dont live in a perfect world and we are not perfect people.Please dont tear yourself into shreds over regrets of the past as it will only detroy your spirit and soul.You got the wheel and while you may get just the right advise you want to hear here its all in your control.Its like being suicidal at one of the happiest moments of your life.Why would one react that way.Instead of standing in the line of fire move out of the way.What dont hit you wont harm you right?Ive learned some people thrive for that emotional empowerment over others and if you allow it once they will hang around.Sad.Loving yourself starts right there!Hoping for better days for ya.
resident jerk

Evansville, IN

#12 Aug 13, 2012
The church won't help your situation. Only thing that will help you is owning up to those you have wronged. Make the choice to change your behavior and be man enough to follow through. Medication is just an escape goat and you don't need them. I was diagnosed as bipolar so many years ago I forget now how long. I was put on pills, more pills and even more pills. They helped but made we withdrawn and not as lively as I've I used to be.

I woke up one day and threw my pills away. I canceled my therapy sessions and worked on fixing myself. It took some time but I've been off my meds for 5 years. The relationships in my life have never been stronger. This year I celebrated a milestone birthday and I was surrounded by more friends and family members than all the past years combined. Put in the work and you will be just fine.
white boy

United States

#13 Aug 13, 2012
I think my toe is broke.
resident jerk

Evansville, IN

#14 Aug 13, 2012
white boy wrote:
I think my toe is broke.
Maybe you should cut it off?
Opp

United States

#15 May 5, 2014
For those who said find godů not everyone is gullible enough to believe the the fiction that is written in the bible. You hide behind god. And what of someone of a different faith- are they wrong b/c they don't worship your god. Remember the people who made up those stories had no ability to understand science or nature. Anyway...to those who say change... If it were that simple, it wouldn't be an issue. Life is harder for some, our brains our all different, things that are ridiculously easy for most can be a struggle for others, and the find god or just change- answers to this persons problems-indicate how naive ans self absorb YOU are.

I am sorry you feel this way, I am having a tough go at it right now so
angels

Bloomington, IN

#16 May 5, 2014
Opp wrote:
For those who said find godů not everyone is gullible enough to believe the the fiction that is written in the bible. You hide behind god. And what of someone of a different faith- are they wrong b/c they don't worship your god. Remember the people who made up those stories had no ability to understand science or nature. Anyway...to those who say change... If it were that simple, it wouldn't be an issue. Life is harder for some, our brains our all different, things that are ridiculously easy for most can be a struggle for others, and the find god or just change- answers to this persons problems-indicate how naive ans self absorb YOU are.
I am sorry you feel this way, I am having a tough go at it right now so
You need GOD.
You are right

Bloomington, IN

#17 May 6, 2014
Just Me wrote:
I am a lousy husband. I have not been a good father. I dont have even 1 friend. I guess thats why i am posting this here.
I am such a mean person that I have no friends. My wife has stuck with me but there just isnt any love after 26 years.
I have a grandson that loves me only because he is 3 years old and doesnt know any better.
I saw an episode of "House" where a guy in the hospital had to ask a woman to sit beside him while he was dying and "pretend" to love him. I feel like thats what I would have to ask my wife to do.
I just don't matter to anyone.
Don't feel sorry for me. You wouldn't like me either. I don't want to be this way.
They probably are.
Sorry

Lexington, KY

#18 May 6, 2014
I'm wondering if he is still with us. It's never to late to make changes. You have a Grandson that needs you.
Bodhisattva

Nashville, TN

#19 May 6, 2014
white boy wrote:
I stump my big toe this moring when I was getting out of bed.
Pain is just in your mind. Its not real
Pained

Jonesboro, GA

#20 May 9, 2014
Bodhisattva wrote:
<quoted text>
Pain is just in your mind. Its not real
pain is real always

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