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How many of you ever hada 3 way where the girls were bi? Any of you into that now? Where would one go to mingle with this group of people around here?

Bold qwestion there, buddy. You need to go to one of those adult dating sites for info on that kinda stuff. Shame on you, younguns read here too, ya know.

I have to agree with rusty, most of these things just kind of happen at a party or get together. I am a very happily married man and my wife is bi. We were married for a few years and built up a lot of trust with each other, we were both very non jealous people to start with. My wife is very beautiful and I enjoy sex with her more than anyone. It finally happened with a friend of hers that she had the hots for and its been a very pleasurable relationship ever since.

The thing is it just happened and after that is was fine for whenever. Like I said we neither one are jealous because we both respect each other and love each other deeply. Neither one of us would ever care for anyone else outside of adult fun.

Now with that being said I do not recommend this for probably 90% of couples, it just wont work. Emotions get involved and ppl get hurt. We are just different ppl. If you are married you know already by now if it will happen or not. If your single just hope for the best and hang out around friends and get togethers.

Swinger clubs are just weird and most ppl are prob ugly as hell. When it just happens is when its fun or if you build a strong non emotional friendship first. Just my advice, best of luck.

my wife has met a couple special friends at church

Ha ha it wouldn't surprise me if you were being serious. Funny how others can judge someone when I can bet you we have one the best marriages ever. To each his own though.

I am sure your wives/girlfriends must feel cherished (sarcasm), or have so little respect for themselves and you that this behavior is deemed "normal" in some sad, but sick, way. As for the man, have you no sense of self-control? Where are your boundaries? After this, why not three women? And when this path no longer satisfies your deviant desires, do you add animals? Perversion is a cancer that grows and kills. You do not have to live this way.

sickened wrote:

I am sure your wives/girlfriends must feel cherished (sarcasm), or have so little respect for themselves and you that this behavior is deemed "normal" in some sad, but sick, way. As for the man, have you no sense of self-control? Where are your boundaries? After this, why not three women? And when this path no longer satisfies your deviant desires, do you add animals? Perversion is a cancer that grows and kills. You do not have to live this way.

I'm not the one who you were posting to but I found your comment amusing. You make it seem as if they were saying other women were involved because it was what only one of them wanted. From what the poster said, it is what he AND his wife want. I don't believe they were saying it was "normal" either. I think that is one of the things that makes some people want to involve others in their relationships. Because it is out of the norm. and makes it more fun! Although my husband and I don't involve other women in our relationship, I certainly wouldn't be opposed to it if it was something we both wanted. To each their own I guess.

noseyness wrote:

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I'm not the one who you were posting to but I found your comment amusing. You make it seem as if they were saying other women were involved because it was what only one of them wanted. From what the poster said, it is what he AND his wife want. I don't believe they were saying it was "normal" either. I think that is one of the things that makes some people want to involve others in their relationships. Because it is out of the norm. and makes it more fun! Although my husband and I don't involve other women in our relationship, I certainly wouldn't be opposed to it if it was something we both wanted. To each their own I guess.

Your summary comment, "To each their own I guess", indicates an attitude that pervades our society today. "As long as it feels good and doesn't hurt anyone, do it". A certain degree of tolerance is charity, but can damage a society if there are no boundaries. It seems man is prone to despise being given boundaries. "I certainly wouldn't be opposed to it if it was something we both wanted" sounds OK at first, but your children see this behaviour modeled and copy it in other ways (i.e. "it was what we wanted so it must be OK"). This way of thinking and living is not good for individuals, couples, husbands and wives, their children, or society corporate. Laws of morality are absolutes whether we like it or not. I hope you take my words in the spirit intended. Please learn to think beyond what "feels good"...what you "want" and consider the end of this way. It is not good.

Sickened, I really dont expect you to understand and thats fine. My wife and I have been married for eleven years now and not once have we broke up, needed counceling and you could probably count the number of arguments (major not silly)on both hands. We are best friends first then husband and wife, we started out best friends. As for children, do you honestly think we do this openly around them? We wont even drink in front of them. They have exellent grades in school and behave very well, what they choose later in life will be up to them.

They're are boundries and we respect them. We absolutly will not have emotions for anyone else other than friendship. As for where does it stop, well who knows. We have had two other women with us before, once on vacation we had two other guys and their wife and girlfriends, everyone respected everyone else.

Honestly I wouldnt ever want another women over my wife, she is absolutly amazing and treats me like a king, I return the favor as well. Nothing could ever compare to her and I would be lost without her but thats becuase of the deep friendship we share, she feels the same way I can assure you and I trust her fully.

I have been involved like I said with other guys on her but that was my doing and she really prefers other women, thats her decision not mine. Did she enjoy it, why heck yeah Im sure but did she prefer them over me? I can assure you I have no worries.

I wish you could understand the feelings we have for each other and I wish that kind of love on everyone but sadly most people just never know it. If what works for you works then by all means dont change a thing but dont judge others because I can assure you this is one VERY happy marriage and will be till our death and beyond.

Some people demand love from their spouse, they forbid them to look at the opposite sex and like a child they feel like they need to sneak and do it now. Remove those boundries and things change, I dont demand love or respect but my wife gives more than you can imagine and I do the same.

Treat each other like friends, like you just met all the time, sure life gets in the way and causes arguments but if you have that bond already built its easy to get through. We still go in dates, we make time to just hang out, we have sex as much as we can and we keep it very interesting. Even without anyone else it would still be the best sex ever because I will always see my wife as HOT and she is trust me :)

We maybe different and abnormal but my wife is very old fashoined in other ways. She works a professional career but she also cooks and cleans and insists on bringing my food and drink to me. She takes care of the kids and she is college educated but she loves heavy metal and punk music. Iam probably even worse of a contradiction if you knew me lol. Point is never judge a book by its cover, we are both very professional people and very much in love after all this time.

a happy man wrote:

Sickened, I really dont expect you to understand and thats fine. My wife and I have been married for eleven years now and not once have we broke up, needed counceling and you could probably count the number of arguments (major not silly)on both hands. We are best friends first then husband and wife, we started out best friends. As for children, do you honestly think we do this openly around them? We wont even drink in front of them. They have exellent grades in school and behave very well, what they choose later in life will be up to them.
They're are boundries and we respect them. We absolutly will not have emotions for anyone else other than friendship. As for where does it stop, well who knows. We have had two other women with us before, once on vacation we had two other guys and their wife and girlfriends, everyone respected everyone else.
Honestly I wouldnt ever want another women over my wife, she is absolutly amazing and treats me like a king, I return the favor as well. Nothing could ever compare to her and I would be lost without her but thats becuase of the deep friendship we share, she feels the same way I can assure you and I trust her fully.
I have been involved like I said with other guys on her but that was my doing and she really prefers other women, thats her decision not mine. Did she enjoy it, why heck yeah Im sure but did she prefer them over me? I can assure you I have no worries.
I wish you could understand the feelings we have for each other and I wish that kind of love on everyone but sadly most people just never know it. If what works for you works then by all means dont change a thing but dont judge others because I can assure you this is one VERY happy marriage and will be till our death and beyond.
Some people demand love from their spouse, they forbid them to look at the opposite sex and like a child they feel like they need to sneak and do it now. Remove those boundries and things change, I dont demand love or respect but my wife gives more than you can imagine and I do the same.
Treat each other like friends, like you just met all the time, sure life gets in the way and causes arguments but if you have that bond already built its easy to get through. We still go in dates, we make time to just hang out, we have sex as much as we can and we keep it very interesting. Even without anyone else it would still be the best sex ever because I will always see my wife as HOT and she is trust me :)
We maybe different and abnormal but my wife is very old fashoined in other ways. She works a professional career but she also cooks and cleans and insists on bringing my food and drink to me. She takes care of the kids and she is college educated but she loves heavy metal and punk music. Iam probably even worse of a contradiction if you knew me lol. Point is never judge a book by its cover, we are both very professional people and very much in love after all this time.

And what I am saying is that your marriage may be even more blissful and you even happier than you say you are now if she and you were both 100% committed to a monogamous relationship. Pure in every sense of the word. Can you accept this? Any why take the chance? If you love your wife so much, and she you, why share bodily fluids with any other and take a chance? I can't buy it. And even if the kids don't "see" what is hidden, they know ("it's OK as long as it is hidden")...this again won't stand up and seems rather suspiciously dishonest. I wish you more...

Well I don't honestly see how it could be anymore blissful than it is and I understand you have no clue. We both are this way, sexual deveints I suppose you would say but we really enjoy sex. My wife is the most sexual women I have ever met so we work well together. Yes it could work just fine without that, its not like it happens every day or week or even every month. Our personal sex life is very fulfilling because even without that we keep it very spicy and erotic.

No our kids do not have a clue and I know this because we don't even have friends over with them around if the idea even comes up. As for them, well I would dare you to find a more loving home. They are taught right from wrong, they are pushed to excel in school and plan for college even at their young age, they are expected to follow rules and behave and we spend time with them teaching them life lessons.

We don't just go to the local bar and pick people up either. Like I said we know other professional people that enjoy the same thing. Actually she has known the women for several years. We don't go on silly married dating sites or swinger clubs. These people are like us, they give blood and they get checked on a very regular basis.

Sorry you don't understand but its ok. I dare you find a happier couple of people. If not doing this works for most then that's what they should do, its not for 95% of the people. Sex is sex, its a bodily function that people did long before religion based morality gained dominion over it. We have sex and other times we make love, making love always will be for just for us only.

Oh and the post by a happy man last night is mine as well if you couldn't tell, just forgot the name lol. Sorry for being so long winded on these things but they have to convey a lot of emotion that just can't be abbreviated.

a happy guy wrote:

Oh and the post by a happy man last night is mine as well if you couldn't tell, just forgot the name lol. Sorry for being so long winded on these things but they have to convey a lot of emotion that just can't be abbreviated.

If you love her as much as you say you do you will not want to "share her" with anyone. Same for her. Period. To argue otherwise is a perversion of the sanctity of marriage. Period. Remember the vow "forsaking all others"? It can be better, in spite of how happy as you think it is now.

Who said forsaken all others had anything to do with that, I would think it would be more of a spiritual level as opposed to a meaningless physical one. After all our bodies will one day be worm food and its the spirit that lives on. We have kept our love pure as the spirit is all that matters and that's where our love comes from. I can be biblical too lol.

Besides we wrote our own vows. I didn't want to make her promise to be my slave(least not that way ;) until death, staying barefoot and pregnant and honoring me even if I do nothing to deserve it. I have more respect for her than that.

I find it sad, but not surprising, that one who espouses a committed, monogamous relationship between man and wife is judge clueless and disagreeable, while the opposite opinion is judged brilliant, helpful, and interesting. If posters here are at all a reflection of our society (rather than just a bunch of losers), we are truly becoming a backward people.

sickened wrote:

I find it sad, but not surprising, that one who espouses a committed, monogamous relationship between man and wife is judge clueless and disagreeable, while the opposite opinion is judged brilliant, helpful, and interesting. If posters here are at all a reflection of our society (rather than just a bunch of losers), we are truly becoming a backward people.

well it wasn't me as I have refrained from using the judge button but its kind of odd that you seem mad someone judged you while you just called me and others losers (judging). Maybe its not so much we are going backwards as much as it we are moving forward and those left behind are not happy. Some people have decided to look outside the box of conventional wisdom and explore other options, its the only way we can move forward. Sorry if I don't go along with placing my spouse in shackles of servitude based on old ideas and wisdoms. I can promise you we have a marriage that is beyond great and our love is beyond anything on earth. You wouldn't even know us if you met us out other than the couple that is smiling and holding hands like when we met, we don't have horns and fly around devouring flesh lol.

Also I would to apologize for any grammatical and punctuation errors as this phone likes to change things rather abruptly as I post.

I actually had a chance to try this once in the early 80's. Not with my ex-wife, she was the bitch from hell- but with 2 girls who were mutual friends of both of us. I had sex with one of them on several occasions... and she suggested to have a 3 sum with this other girl. I wanted to but it didn't happen. I have been married to a fine woman who TRULY loves me and I LOVE her for 23 years now. I look back on those times as it was a dream. A BAD dream.

Just to clarify: I am not mad...I used the word sad, and I would prefer to believe that posters, such as you and I, are representative of society rather than losers. Also, my wife is free (not in shackles of servitude) of worry and fear of my cheating, desiring another, or bringing home a STD to her. My kids are free, too, knowing their father loves their mother and no one else, and that this love is unique and kept pure. Your "progressive" argument for your promiscuous choice of lifestyle is typical cover for selfishness and lust for things which you are not entitled to. Perhaps you could be less focused on you and your wife, and think of the "other woman" (or couple) who is probably now alone in her shame. What effect might your behavior have on her? Actions have consequences whether we are the ones to bear them, or not.

a happy guy wrote:

<quoted text>well it wasn't me as I have refrained from using the judge button but its kind of odd that you seem mad someone judged you while you just called me and others losers (judging). Maybe its not so much we are going backwards as much as it we are moving forward and those left behind are not happy. Some people have decided to look outside the box of conventional wisdom and explore other options, its the only way we can move forward. Sorry if I don't go along with placing my spouse in shackles of servitude based on old ideas and wisdoms. I can promise you we have a marriage that is beyond great and our love is beyond anything on earth. You wouldn't even know us if you met us out other than the couple that is smiling and holding hands like when we met, we don't have horns and fly around devouring flesh lol.

I had the fortune to hit up on one in Ocracoke on New Years Eve in '06.

The girl I had been dating brought her "friend" to the beach with us...and walla! She asked me if I wanted to do both of them..I said HELL YEAH!

Woke up New Years day on the beach with two beautiful naked women. I said.."it's gonna be a great year" :)

Still patting myself on the back!

:)