stranger wanted money

Just curious, has anyone here been approached recently by a man who asks for money in the Q4life parking lot?

It happened last evening after dark. he said he had 2 little girls,needed kerosene, he tried to contact DSS but couldn't reach anyone, etc. He sounded very sincere.

Seemed kind of strange to be in the parking lot after dark to ask for money. Just curious...

Short hair, kind of a receding hairline, about 40, average height and weight?

yes i was approached 2 weeks ago next to pizza hut .He is a young man maybe middle 30 or so said he needed money for heat and he had 2 little girls and that he had walked a long way from where he was suppose to be staying.he never did say where he stayed i gave him 8 bucks.i guess i got scammed.does this sound like the same man or story?

The guy I'm thinking of has been pestering the Kentwood neighborhood for years, needing money for kerosene or diapers or something. He prowls around people's back yards, as well. Maybe him, maybe not...

yes, he also made mention that he studied martial arts

Lenoir Resident wrote:

Short hair, kind of a receding hairline, about 40, average height and weight?

this sounds almost exactly the same

Michael wrote:

yes i was approached 2 weeks ago next to pizza hut .He is a young man maybe middle 30 or so said he needed money for heat and he had 2 little girls and that he had walked a long way from where he was suppose to be staying.he never did say where he stayed i gave him 8 bucks.i guess i got scammed.does this sound like the same man or story?

dontknowforsure wrote:

this sounds almost exactly the same
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Ask him if he needs a job. he will tell you no he just needs money.I will not help anyone who want help himself.

Careful! He sounds like a threat (DANGER)

sounds like he might be a ninja ,,watch out!!

When people approach me in a parking lot asking for money, it makes me wonder about their TRUE motivations. I never give people money. It's dangerous, and frankly, I don't like the thought of buying drugs or alcohol for an addict. I ALWAYS offer to get them food, though. Most of the time, they don't want food... even if they have a "hungry" sign. I keep a little card in my purse with numbers of local ministries that help people. Most of the time, they don't want that either.

The ones who take advantage of people just to score a high REALLY HURT the ones who genuinely need help because even good hearted people eventually become cynical when they're just used over and over.

He was asking the same last week at Broyhill Walking Park about 2pm and mentioned his daughters and the kerosene. We did not see a vehicle either. GREAT info and thanks for sharing. Stay alert out there and careful.

dontknowforsure wrote:

Just curious, has anyone here been approached recently by a man who asks for money in the Q4life parking lot?
It happened last evening after dark. he said he had 2 little girls,needed kerosene, he tried to contact DSS but couldn't reach anyone, etc. He sounded very sincere.
Seemed kind of strange to be in the parking lot after dark to ask for money. Just curious...

len wrote:

He was asking the same last week at Broyhill Walking Park about 2pm and mentioned his daughters and the kerosene. We did not see a vehicle either. GREAT info and thanks for sharing. Stay alert out there and careful.<quoted text>

We need to call police when this happens.There are a lot of places that give food and diapers .this sounds like a bum who want work

Lenoir PD and Quest4life need to be notified this is happening. Not too long ago a situation like this in a mall parking lot escalated into a double homicide.

this is what I told my hubby, that someone who REALLt needed help didn't get it.

Trying wrote:

When people approach me in a parking lot asking for money, it makes me wonder about their TRUE motivations. I never give people money. It's dangerous, and frankly, I don't like the thought of buying drugs or alcohol for an addict. I ALWAYS offer to get them food, though. Most of the time, they don't want food... even if they have a "hungry" sign. I keep a little card in my purse with numbers of local ministries that help people. Most of the time, they don't want that either.
The ones who take advantage of people just to score a high REALLY HURT the ones who genuinely need help because even good hearted people eventually become cynical when they're just used over and over.

this man is jason tolbert. he has 2 daughters that are around 14 and 7. they live with their mom and are well taken care of. the money is not for the kids its for his drug habit. he dont go around his kids hardly at all. he is in the system been in trouble alot. he was arrested and spent time in prison for robbing a store in granite just got out in dec

ravingrant wrote:

Lenoir PD and Quest4life need to be notified this is happening. Not too long ago a situation like this in a mall parking lot escalated into a double homicide.

thanks for the info .I go to Quest and you can bet I will shoot him with pepper spray.

helpful wrote:

this man is jason tolbert. he has 2 daughters that are around 14 and 7. they live with their mom and are well taken care of. the money is not for the kids its for his drug habit. he dont go around his kids hardly at all. he is in the system been in trouble alot. he was arrested and spent time in prison for robbing a store in granite just got out in dec

Jason Tolbert? I knew him many years ago (if its the same one). Thats a shame if it's true. He was a really nice guy.

Why not just offer to buy the kerosene for him?

GANNY wrote:

Why not just offer to buy the kerosene for him?

I considered that but in reality how many of us are in a position to pay for a large amount of kerosene for someone else? I use propane for my heat so I'm not sure how much kerosene cost. It cost me over $300 for 100 pounds of propane,(which doesn't last long). I use space heaters when it's between 50 and 30 degrees and only use the propane when it drops below 25.

ravingrant wrote:

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I considered that but in reality how many of us are in a position to pay for a large amount of kerosene for someone else? I use propane for my heat so I'm not sure how much kerosene cost. It cost me over $300 for 100 pounds of propane,(which doesn't last long). I use space heaters when it's between 50 and 30 degrees and only use the propane when it drops below 25.

It kinda puts you on the spot dont it?

You want to do the right thing and help, but you dont want to be made a fool of at the same time.