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Dec 9, 2007
 
I just wanted to know how people fell about spanking thier kids and what do all of you think about what the goverment is trying to make spanking illegal in your own house. I realy dont think that spanking works for my kids. I think that taking things away and making them lay down until they calm down works better with my kids, but I also believe that spaking probably does work with other kids.
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Dec 9, 2007
 
I didnt really spank my kid until he was around 4. Until then it was timeouts, and maybe a mild swat on the hand...the older he got though, those didnt work. The bible says its ok to spank. I was spanked and thankful for it. I see my nephew and neices attitudes and rudeness and how they dont listen..they were never spanked. I think once they reach a certain age it is ok. Spanking and hitting are two different things that shouldnt be in same catagory as the other. Hitting a child IS WRONG! I dont regret ever been spanked. My son is 11 and he doesnt either, i have talked with him about this. I think paddling should be back in force at school also, as well as GOD. But the parents should be contacted before any paddling. Some parents dont choose to spank and thats ok I guess too if what they do actually works for them and not judge those who choose to spank.

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Dec 9, 2007
 
I was spanked as a child, my husband was spanked when he was a child. When my child was young (age 1-2) I would spat her hand to keep her off of end tables, to keep her from pressing the buttons on the TV, etc. When she reached the age of three, she began to push her limits (I think three was worse than her terrible two's). She would do things that she knew she wasn't supposed to do and look at me while doing it, like I said she was pushing the limits. I began to spank her butt, with my hand. I never used a belt or paddle, only my hand and just enough to get her attention to let her know that I was serious and that I wasn't going to play her little games. When she reached the ages of 4-5, the spankings became less and less and when she did need a spanking I would always have a little talk with her to let her know why she was receiving a spanking and so forth. She is now 7 and I haven't had to spank her in a long time, a good talking to with a mention of spanking or grounding tends to work. Our biggest problem is her attitude, if she's in a bad mood she tends to "huff and puff" when asked to do something, which in my opinion is a form of disrespect which is not tolerated in our home. I have never spanked her out of anger or when I am angry. The spankings always occur in a calm, in control manner and she always receives a warning first. I have seen plenty of children that have probably never had a spanking in their whole lives and they are out of control and what I refer to as "spoiled brats". I have also seen plenty of children that receive spankings but they are administered in a violent way, like when the parent has completely reached their boiling point and lose it...those children are just as bad as the "spoiled brats" or they are completely terrified. Regardless of the form of punishment a parent or parents choose to use, I feel that consistancy is the key. If you spank them or ground them or put them in time out or whatever for, let's say, talking back then you should do it each and everytime. That way a child knows exactly where the lines are drawn and how far they can go. As for the government, they have no say so in how I or anyone else chooses to raise their children, unless their children are being abused. In my opinion spanking is not abuse, I know some people feel that way but look at how some children in today's society behave...enough said.
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Dec 9, 2007
 
yeah I do agree but the stuoid goverment is trying to get involved and make spanking illegal that is so stupid. I do not see where our goverment that is suppose to be a democracy can come in and tell us how to disipline our kids. I mean as long as they are not getting abused then what business is it of theirs to tells us the american people how our kids should be punished. I think that they are over stepping thier place in our homes.
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#6
Dec 9, 2007
 
I agree i think the goverment is stupid on this they shouldn't be able to say if we cand or cannot spank our kids. I have a 6yr old and i have spat her a couple but she has never got a real spanking of course if she was bad enough to need one then she would and will get one she just listens more if i take things away(tv,toys,computer) I have seen parents just hit their kids too hard calling it a spanking now i do think that is wrong but heck if we need to spank our kids we should be able to do so.
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Dec 10, 2007
 
I have to agree with jxn totally. This modern psychology about not spanking kids is a lot of BS.Sometimes a spanking is the only way to get a kid's attention. I got a few in school, but I deserved more that I got.
jxn wrote:
I was spanked as a child, my husband was spanked when he was a child. When my child was young (age 1-2) I would spat her hand to keep her off of end tables, to keep her from pressing the buttons on the TV, etc. When she reached the age of three, she began to push her limits (I think three was worse than her terrible two's). She would do things that she knew she wasn't supposed to do and look at me while doing it, like I said she was pushing the limits. I began to spank her butt, with my hand. I never used a belt or paddle, only my hand and just enough to get her attention to let her know that I was serious and that I wasn't going to play her little games. When she reached the ages of 4-5, the spankings became less and less and when she did need a spanking I would always have a little talk with her to let her know why she was receiving a spanking and so forth. She is now 7 and I haven't had to spank her in a long time, a good talking to with a mention of spanking or grounding tends to work. Our biggest problem is her attitude, if she's in a bad mood she tends to "huff and puff" when asked to do something, which in my opinion is a form of disrespect which is not tolerated in our home. I have never spanked her out of anger or when I am angry. The spankings always occur in a calm, in control manner and she always receives a warning first. I have seen plenty of children that have probably never had a spanking in their whole lives and they are out of control and what I refer to as "spoiled brats". I have also seen plenty of children that receive spankings but they are administered in a violent way, like when the parent has completely reached their boiling point and lose it...those children are just as bad as the "spoiled brats" or they are completely terrified. Regardless of the form of punishment a parent or parents choose to use, I feel that consistancy is the key. If you spank them or ground them or put them in time out or whatever for, let's say, talking back then you should do it each and everytime. That way a child knows exactly where the lines are drawn and how far they can go. As for the government, they have no say so in how I or anyone else chooses to raise their children, unless their children are being abused. In my opinion spanking is not abuse, I know some people feel that way but look at how some children in today's society behave...enough said.
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Dec 10, 2007
 
i think that is what is wrong with the kids now days. They do NOT get spanked. I work at a place where the kids there have absolutely no respect for adults...any body else. I hope that my kids in public act as if they are a human being and not some sort of animal. I try to refrain from spanking..but sometimes they just cross the line. "time out" works for my son..."no games today" works for him too! lol
but spankings do not..he just doesn't get it. so He doesn't get spanked. I think if more parents would spank. The world COULD be a much better place.:)
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Dec 10, 2007
 
hMM wrote:
i think that is what is wrong with the kids now days. They do NOT get spanked. I work at a place where the kids there have absolutely no respect for adults...any body else. I hope that my kids in public act as if they are a human being and not some sort of animal. I try to refrain from spanking..but sometimes they just cross the line. "time out" works for my son..."no games today" works for him too! lol
but spankings do not..he just doesn't get it. so He doesn't get spanked. I think if more parents would spank. The world COULD be a much better place.:)
Amen to that.
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#11
Dec 10, 2007
 
The Bible does say "Spare the rod, spoil the child." How true this is.
I got spankings as a child. I started early on my children as well. Just like JXN said they did.
I have two children one is nine and one is three. The nine year old, has always been sensitive, he is well behaved now and hardly ever gets a spanking.
Now my three year old, she don't care about a spanking. She will take the spanking and continue with what she was doing. She will NOT say I am sorry for anything. She is stubborn and strong willed. She is also very smart, so she does not negoiate very well either like most young children. I have to wait until she is done throwing her fit and then I have to talk to her about her behavior--she usually gets a spanking though as well, just to show her that her behavior is not acceptable.
I don't think the government should get involved, because more kids need real spankings. There is a difference in spankings and abuse. To me a spanking is to be on the bottom with either a hand or a belt.(I personally don't use a belt, but had one used on me, and I am just fine.)
I do know some adults who don't spank their children because they were abused as a child, and they don't know how to spank them with love, becuase they were never showed that as a child. However, they do use other forms of discipline and their children are well behaved.
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#12
Dec 10, 2007
 
I was spanked as a kid, and both of my boys have had their share of spankings, at least when they were younger.
I don't spank them as much now because they're almost as big as I am and it's hard for me to make an impression! Their dad still does though, and I have no problem with that at all.
Look at the way kids are acting nowadays...that should be the first clue that this no spanking thing isn't working so well!
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Dec 10, 2007
 
SBC wrote:
Hell yes, spanking is the best thing for unruly kids. The best way is on the bare. The added embarrassment works wonders.
It is cruel and horrible to embarrass a child and humliate them like that! I hope you get what is coming to you for treating your own children that way! What a horrible parent you are!!! Your children should be taken away from you! I only hope someone will embarrass and humliate you in front of people while putting you thru pain some day soon!
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Dec 10, 2007
 
Dont let the government rule your house. We have given them way too much power over us already. We need to take control and responsibility for our own...
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#17
Dec 10, 2007
 
let them take care of their own kids.
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Dec 10, 2007
 
Kids are like snowflakes; each is different and responds differently to different discipline/punishment strategies.
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Dec 10, 2007
 
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<quoted text>Amen to that.
I second that Amen. Kids weren't nearly as disrespectful when I was younger because they got spanked. I rarely have to spank my kids but I do if they need it. I see how rude kids are now and I don't want mine that way. I was taught to always be respectful to adults. it's sad to see how rude kids are to everyone even their parents.
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Dec 11, 2007
 
SBC wrote:
Well Whiney Butt, I was wondering how long it would take for some liberal like you who needs some cheese with their whine to come out of the woodwork about this subject. Sounds like you need some bare butt lessons.
It was tried. Family Services was called on us and they said after the unfounded investigation that its fine to spank kids on the bare as long as you don't bruise them.
You should be ashamed of yourself. Your redneck, backwoods mentality is the reason why our community is as far behind as it is. Go on and keep saying things on here to stir up trouble as you usually do. Most assholes need a place to make themselves feel like big important people. What's the matter? Is your job not an important one? Did God short you in some way? We know he shorted you in brain power, humilty, mercy, and kindness. What is it that makes you feel good about hurting children? Is it the power trip you are on? Let me guess, your children didn't overcome their enviornment because they were humilated and not loved or encouraged. They most likely ended up not doing better than their parents. Didn't even make it all the way thru college because they did not have the self confidence or encouragement and praise they needed from their parents. But it seems that you are the type who would not care about that either. You are just a nasty old fuc*er who has a sad life.
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Dec 11, 2007
 
I was spanked and only once was I enbarassed in front of people but as a 10 year old child I knew what I was doing and feel fully that it was the only meathod that my parents could use at the time to control me... If they had, I have no doubt I would have continued to rebel. I am thankful for their strength and influence in my life and I feel I am a better parent because of their standards and choices of dicpline. I was never beat, or emotionally hurt was spanked firmly on the bottom and only when I was complettly out of hand. My father also always explined to me (even when I knew why) why I was being punished (even as a young child) I respect and love my parents and I learned parenthood from them. I follow their example and when it is necessary I spank my children, but it never done in anger and is a meathod that works. So thanks mom and dad for teaching me dicipline and in doing so self-respect, morals, and better juedgment!
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Dec 11, 2007
 
FUSBC wrote:
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You should be ashamed of yourself. Your redneck, backwoods mentality is the reason why our community is as far behind as it is. Go on and keep saying things on here to stir up trouble as you usually do. Most assholes need a place to make themselves feel like big important people. What's the matter? Is your job not an important one? Did God short you in some way? We know he shorted you in brain power, humilty, mercy, and kindness. What is it that makes you feel good about hurting children? Is it the power trip you are on? Let me guess, your children didn't overcome their enviornment because they were humilated and not loved or encouraged. They most likely ended up not doing better than their parents. Didn't even make it all the way thru college because they did not have the self confidence or encouragement and praise they needed from their parents. But it seems that you are the type who would not care about that either. You are just a nasty old fuc*er who has a sad life.
You sure read a bunch of BS from my post. I don't get any kind of power trip from spanking my kids. My wife says I work harder trying not to spank them then doing it. I sure didn't mean to brag. I was simply stating how it is here. I hate spanking them. I don't spank often on the bare, but I use it as an option if the situation warrants it. I praise the kids and reward them often.
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#26
Dec 11, 2007
 
Bare spanking can be viewed as a form of physical and sexual child abuse. Look it up, you sick prick!
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Dec 11, 2007
 
You need to read the whole thread. I was investigated and cleared by Family Services. They said it's not abuse if you don't bruise them. Got anything else I can shoot down?

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