Is texting from a married man to a married woman cheating?

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Miss Morals

Jamestown, TN

#1 Jun 10, 2008
Is texting from a married man to a married woman cheating and vice versa?
Explicit and on-going for months.?
It was hidden from the spouses, and only revealed when caught.
Your UNADORING Fan

Mcminnville, TN

#2 Jun 10, 2008
Yes...and nice screen name...
r u kidding

Jamestown, TN

#3 Jun 11, 2008
Heck yeah its cheating! If the two texting knew it wasn't wrong, then they wouldn't hide it from their spouses! They should really stand back and truly put themselves in their spouses place to understand how wrong it was! It's always funny how the truth starts coming out, once theyve been caught! And for the record, I feel that emailing, talking to, and texting is very much so cheating. There must be something missing from their marriage if they feel they need to turn to someone else for that type of companionship.
Just Wondering

Bloomfield Hills, MI

#4 Jun 11, 2008
I believe we are all guilty of some form of cheating. Yes it is wrong and the worst betrayl ever, but if I had to chose I would rather my husband text, email, im, someone else than actually sleep with them. But thats just my opinion.
hammer_down_00

Jamestown, TN

#5 Jun 12, 2008
I could not do it,and would not It's like opening the door for more.

Since: Jun 08

Jamestown, TN

#6 Jun 12, 2008
i don't think it's cheating...yet. if they feel the need to keep it private and they're discussing inappropriate topics, it's more like a prelude to cheating and they need to be sat down by their spouses and talked to about what's going on. i would feel hurt if my boyfriend was having any kind of inappropriate conversation with another girl, and i'm sure he would feel hurt if the situation was reversed.
Bothersome

Jamestown, TN

#7 Jun 12, 2008
Miss Morals wrote:
Is texting from a married man to a married woman cheating and vice versa?
Explicit and on-going for months.?
It was hidden from the spouses, and only revealed when caught.
Who instigated this texting him or her? Did it go beyond just texting and get physical between the two? Did the spouses even they was friends or was it totally hidden until caught?
just blowing off steam

Rowesville, SC

#8 Jun 12, 2008
I think the two that were texting should have realized that their actions were just going to cause hard feelings from their spouses. Maybe they were not cheating,but they should know better.
ideas

Jamestown, TN

#9 Jun 13, 2008
It is considered emotional cheating. You are looking for attention and time from someone else and it makes you feel good to get it. It is cheating no matter how you look at it. When you step outside your marriage for the attention of another. You have cheated. I don't know which I would feel is worse. Cheap quick sex with someone you really have no connection with or a long relationship built around intimate serious conversations through text or by phone etc. I think either would hurt just the same. Betrayal of spousal trust comes with either. The best detector is to ask yourself how you would feel if it were your spouse doing the texting with someone else and keeping it a secret from you? How would that make you feel???
madmax

Allardt, TN

#10 Jun 13, 2008
my wife would blow a fuse if i texted another women cheating or not it was wrong.
Big Jim

Jamestown, TN

#11 Jun 13, 2008
went to new jamestown sports grill for supper the other night not great and high dollar.
has anyone else gone, what cha think.
InTheKnow

Jamestown, TN

#12 Jun 17, 2008
Miss Morals wrote:
Is texting from a married man to a married woman cheating and vice versa?
Explicit and on-going for months.?
It was hidden from the spouses, and only revealed when caught.
If this is in reference to the people I have heard about and know....The texting almost costed her her job and lost her a lot of clients and definitely costed her her marriage....Just hope the little bit of fun was worth all that she has lost!
Crazy Life

Jamestown, TN

#13 Jun 18, 2008
Who was it and was it txting or fwds because if it doesnt have a pic. it looks like a txt.
Topic Cop

Jamestown, TN

#14 Jun 18, 2008
Just wondering...would this not be the same as having a private phone conversation with another married person??

Because it seems to me that it would be the same thing and I would consider it an attempt to cheat.
live love laugh

Jamestown, TN

#15 Jun 18, 2008
It is cheating! My husband talked and text to his supposely friend which was my friend until he was caught. They even had an affair and we separated for about 6 months. Then they both was very deceitful about it. So yes it is cheating and will hurt alot of people in the end and I would advise against it. I don't trust my husband any longer and shouldn't even be with him. Only he swears that he loves me. However, I really don't believe him. Hopefully, one day I will be able to trust him.... or not.
madmax

Allardt, TN

#16 Jun 18, 2008
if i did not trust him i would not be with him he done it once he will do it again.

Since: Jun 08

Jamestown, TN

#17 Jun 18, 2008
hello, im new to this forum but this post caught my eye. im not married but i still would like to put my two cents in. i personally dont think it is cheating depending on what you talk about. you mentioned, "Explicit and on-going for months" then yes it is. but if it is just a friend that you are talking to then no. does not having one sexual organ automatically entitle you to turn your back on all your friends of the opposite sex? how can some one tell you not to talk, see, or be around any one just because of their gender. if you love a person enough to marry them, then you must also trust that person with everything and around any body. you choose to be with a person for ever, then you should figure out if they are trust worthy or not. if their not cheating then the person who is married to the one that is texting should be able to go through the phone at anytime. and have nothing to hide.

“dyn-o-MITE!!”

Since: Jun 08

Hermitage, TN

#18 Jun 19, 2008
"Cheating, infidelity, unfaithful, disloyalty, etc."
Whatever you want to call it, you are knowingly deceiving your better half, and the fact that you hide it from your husband suggests that you have more than texting in mind. You should probably knock that off, fix things with your hubby (or break things off, whichever), and hope that karma has a sense of mercy.

“Facts are the enemy of truth”

Since: Jun 08

Jamestown, TN

#19 Jun 19, 2008
They may not have been cheating physically but it sounds like they were emotionally cheating. It is still not right but it is more forgivable than actually physically cheating.

I of course don't know what was being discussed between the two but the fact that they were being sneaky looks bad on their part. If this is something that has happened to you I hope you can work through this. I think if you can be honest and open about this with your spouse they hopefully will be able respect you the same way. Talking through this openly will help add closure to this incident.
Your UNADORING Fan

Smyrna, TN

#20 Jun 19, 2008
Great advice to live by!
endless_beats wrote:
"Cheating, infidelity, unfaithful, disloyalty, etc."
Whatever you want to call it, you are knowingly deceiving your better half, and the fact that you hide it from your husband suggests that you have more than texting in mind. You should probably knock that off, fix things with your hubby (or break things off, whichever), and hope that karma has a sense of mercy.

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