Is it possible

Is it possible for a guy to be "too big" for his gf?

Why of course it is. If you weigh 400 lbs. you would probably be to big for any woman that takes care of herself and watches her weight.

ZINGY wrote:

Why of course it is. If you weigh 400 lbs. you would probably be to big for any woman that takes care of herself and watches her weight.

LOL, no, Im not talking about that way, Im talking about in the other way, youre private part.

YES! mine is not big I am told and though Ive never compared it to another girls, I believe it. I had a boyfriend in college that wasnt all that long but was really thick! It always hurt when we had sex. It made me not want to have sex often. I work with a girl that says her husband is to long and big for her to have sex very long. On the other hand I have had girl friends that tell me they have never had one to big! All depends on the girl.

missy wrote:

YES! mine is not big I am told and though Ive never compared it to another girls, I believe it. I had a boyfriend in college that wasnt all that long but was really thick! It always hurt when we had sex. It made me not want to have sex often. I work with a girl that says her husband is to long and big for her to have sex very long. On the other hand I have had girl friends that tell me they have never had one to big! All depends on the girl.

Thats what my gf says, it hurts if sex last too long, problem is, I never go any shorter then a couple of hours, cant help it, it just takes a long time. What can we do? thanks

poor baby! Your gf needs to invest in alot of foreplay before you ever begin sex. My husband can last for an hour unless he is really turned on. I can always tell when he has been looking at porn on the computer because he will jump right into it and only last 5 maybe 10 minutes. On the other hand if it is an usual night or we have been drinking, then I know I will get mine! In college, I know lubes helped me bare the pain a little more, but even enough was enough! I had learned to use my hands to finish him off! Good luck!

missy wrote:

poor baby! Your gf needs to invest in alot of foreplay before you ever begin sex. My husband can last for an hour unless he is really turned on. I can always tell when he has been looking at porn on the computer because he will jump right into it and only last 5 maybe 10 minutes. On the other hand if it is an usual night or we have been drinking, then I know I will get mine! In college, I know lubes helped me bare the pain a little more, but even enough was enough! I had learned to use my hands to finish him off! Good luck!

LOL I have no problem getting her off, its me thats the problem, she says it just takes too long. I cant help it, it feels so good I like for it to last awhile. Oral is almost out of the questions, it even takes longer. Our sex life is great, but because of this issue, I dont get it as often as Id like, or even as often as we would like, I dont want to do any damage to her.

Change up different positions where you aren't going in so deep and forcefull. Do more foreplay for your benifit and her's. You may be concentrating too much on the main course and its lasting too long. Try some appetizers and different things in between and maybe when you get to doing the deed you'll be so warmed up it won't take so long to finish.

guest wrote:

Change up different positions where you aren't going in so deep and forcefull. Do more foreplay for your benifit and her's. You may be concentrating too much on the main course and its lasting too long. Try some appetizers and different things in between and maybe when you get to doing the deed you'll be so warmed up it won't take so long to finish.

We have tried it just about every way there is. I thought I was really doing her some good with all her moaning and stuff, just to later find out I was hurting her. maybe I can google it and see if I can find some info, but I dont even know where to start on that one. LOL

We had only begin haveing sex for about the last three weeks, she was a virgin when we got together. Could this have something to do with it? I hate sounding stupid, but I was a virgin too, and this is all new to me. I had rather ask a stranger these things then someone face to face, embarassed.

Levi, you are being ridiculous, no woman in her right mind wants to have it for 2 hours geez. She is trying to tell you easy....shorten the ride. Women are done when they get it. Just like the guy. I feel sorry for her.

My2cents wrote:

Levi, you are being ridiculous, no woman in her right mind wants to have it for 2 hours geez. She is trying to tell you easy....shorten the ride. Women are done when they get it. Just like the guy. I feel sorry for her.

I want to please her and make her happy. It seems like all I hear from women at work is that their men dont last long enough, now Im being told that I last too long. Damn, Now Im really confused. LOL Okay, then will this work? Lets say instead of a one timer that last a few hours, now would it be to go several times a night but not last as long, would that work? That is, if I can make it last shorter.

Anyway, she has several climaxes to my one, I thought this is what women like? Obvisouly I got a lot t learn.

levi wrote:

Anyway, she has several climaxes to my one, I thought this is what women like? Obvisouly I got a lot t learn.

Ask her to bring a girlfriend over for a threesome and see what happens

Yep wrote:

<quoted text>Ask her to bring a girlfriend over for a threesome and see what happens

O wow! I would love that, I think. LOL Shes ex amish, dont think she would go for that. Damn wish she would though, no, I take that back, I only want her. Shes super hot, plus, I love her. Still, a nice fantasy though, lol.

levi wrote:

<quoted text> I want to please her and make her happy. It seems like all I hear from women at work is that their men dont last long enough, now Im being told that I last too long. Damn, Now Im really confused. LOL Okay, then will this work? Lets say instead of a one timer that last a few hours, now would it be to go several times a night but not last as long, would that work? That is, if I can make it last shorter.

yeah well Levi, your not normal. Most men start off with a short climax reflex, and have to learn to master and control it in order to last longer. Its not average experience to be fully arroused for hours as you say and not reaching the point of no return. In fact maintaining a full erection that long could be dangerous. An erection is a naturally controlled strangulation, return blood flow is cut down like a tournaquite and the sponngy tissue fills with blood. This all happens naturally and releases after climax. If it lasts for a long time that means circulation is stopping and that could result in damage to the veins and arteries in you. Go get a check up with a doc. and talk thru some of these things with him.

Levi, "My2Cents" is crazy. Women can have way more than one orgasm. Personally, I'd rather be with a guy that last for 2 hours than a 5 minute man. The more orgasms I have the better it is. The guy I'm with now is very large. It took us several weeks before I could really enjoy the sex because of how big his "package" is. We were both patient and it took some time, but we have an amazing sex life now.

guest wrote:

Levi, "My2Cents" is crazy. Women can have way more than one orgasm. Personally, I'd rather be with a guy that last for 2 hours than a 5 minute man. The more orgasms I have the better it is. The guy I'm with now is very large. It took us several weeks before I could really enjoy the sex because of how big his "package" is. We were both patient and it took some time, but we have an amazing sex life now.

Thanks, that makes me feel better. I dont think anything is wrong with me in that dept, I dont have any pain when Im erect, and have no problems getting an erection about ten to fifteen minutes after climax. Im thinking the pain on her part is partically due to her being a virgin at the time, and I too am above average. If things dont improve in a few weeks I will go see a doctor I guess, Im just hopeing that alot of the problem is we just need to get "use" to one another?

Levi- sexually everbody's body responds differently, and it changes with experience and age.

Also medications can affect how our body responds so maybe there is something going on there that makes you last a long long long time before you climax.

The guest is right it takes time for her body to adjust to your size and stamina. You can help by making sure she is lubed and ready. Do oral on her,experiment on pleasing her, finger her slowly to dialate, etc. Be patient, learn how her body responds in her own way.

Have fun!

levi wrote:

<quoted text>Thanks, that makes me feel better. I dont think anything is wrong with me in that dept, I dont have any pain when Im erect, and have no problems getting an erection about ten to fifteen minutes after climax. Im thinking the pain on her part is partically due to her being a virgin at the time, and I too am above average. If things dont improve in a few weeks I will go see a doctor I guess, Im just hopeing that alot of the problem is we just need to get "use" to one another?

Yeah that has alot to do with it.

Ever bought a brand new car? The manual used to go into how to treat the engine for the first 5,000 miles to condition the gaskets and seals. Don't go too fast or run the engine too long... LOL