herman

Richmond, KY

#1 Jun 27, 2012
Divorce can be a wonderful thing when marriage is like prison. When a relationship becomes unbalanced and one-sided with one person taking, taking, taking and demanding more, there comes a time to get out. There comes a time when it's obvious that it's not going to get any better. I survived and I must say, it's great to be free. Freedom! What would you do without your freedom! William Wallace/Braveheart.
Troll

United States

#2 Jun 27, 2012
herman wrote:
Divorce can be a wonderful thing when marriage is like prison. When a relationship becomes unbalanced and one-sided with one person taking, taking, taking and demanding more, there comes a time to get out. There comes a time when it's obvious that it's not going to get any better. I survived and I must say, it's great to be free. Freedom! What would you do without your freedom! William Wallace/Braveheart.
Point?? Nice name btw...lol
herman

Richmond, KY

#3 Jun 27, 2012
I think sometimes we think it's our duty to put up with the misery. We think, well something must be wrong with me if I can't make this work. We think we deserve it somehow. I don't know how it's always been but in today's selfish society, there are many people that will drain you completely and not feel one bit of remorse about doing it. They think they're entitled. They've been spoiled beyond belief. I don't guess I have a point. I'm just harping about expectations and romanticizing about how things should be in an honest relationship.
what a joke

Williston, SC

#4 Jun 27, 2012
herman wrote:
I think sometimes we think it's our duty to put up with the misery. We think, well something must be wrong with me if I can't make this work. We think we deserve it somehow. I don't know how it's always been but in today's selfish society, there are many people that will drain you completely and not feel one bit of remorse about doing it. They think they're entitled. They've been spoiled beyond belief. I don't guess I have a point. I'm just harping about expectations and romanticizing about how things should be in an honest relationship.
well if your dumb enough to keep giving knowing that they don't want you,then thats your fault. If someone tells you constantly that don't want to be with you and you keep giving their going to keep taking. Don't blame them if you knew ahead of time that there wasn't a chance in hell of the two of you being together
Agree

North Middletown, KY

#5 Jun 27, 2012
I with herman's comments one execption there must be communication or the other person wont know how to please u if u dont tell them.
Agree

North Middletown, KY

#6 Jun 27, 2012
life is a bitch especially when u r married to a fucking temper of a man.i have 3 children we r black african american family but u cant espect what u dont communicate and tell them what bother u or please u.if u never give someone a chance u never will know what u could have had.who knows they could be what u always dreamed of?but oh well what u dont love today someone else may love tommorrow then in the end u r the one who lost.so go to hell tom u bastard.
herman

Richmond, KY

#7 Jun 28, 2012
what a joke wrote:
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well if your dumb enough to keep giving knowing that they don't want you,then thats your fault. If someone tells you constantly that don't want to be with you and you keep giving their going to keep taking. Don't blame them if you knew ahead of time that there wasn't a chance in hell of the two of you being together
In the real world it's not always that obvious or simple. In my deal, she never said 'I don't want you'. Actually it was just the opposite. It was always,'I love you, I need you'. The words were there, the crying, etc. but the actions told a different story. You don't want to just give up, especially if you think you may be mis-interpreting the actions, but after awhile it becomes obvious. You realize the selfish, clinging but demanding temperment is dyed in the wool. And they are never going to think about anyone but themselves.
True

United States

#8 Jun 28, 2012
I think love will follow out with actions no actions no love.Sometimes people inquire about people not because they want to give up on someone but they want to know how the other person really feels.So the main thing is two people being open with each other and letting each other know what they like and dont like.Doesnt mean they have a demanding temperment either just means they want to be SURE!MAYBE they think you GAVE UP on them.MAYBE they are WAITING on you to tell them what you want.
divorcee

Williston, SC

#9 Jun 28, 2012
True wrote:
I think love will follow out with actions no actions no love.Sometimes people inquire about people not because they want to give up on someone but they want to know how the other person really feels.So the main thing is two people being open with each other and letting each other know what they like and dont like.Doesnt mean they have a demanding temperment either just means they want to be SURE!MAYBE they think you GAVE UP on them.MAYBE they are WAITING on you to tell them what you want.
If someone tells you that they don't want to be with you,then its time for you to move on. Plain and simple
True

United States

#10 Jun 28, 2012
MAYBE they thought you didnt want them.MAYBE SOMEONE told you didnt want nothing to do with them.MAYBE someone told YOU THAT HAD to stay away.SO you did what YOU thought they wanted.BUT had your doubts BECAUSE it was told to you through a second party.MAYBE they are still in love with you REAL LOVE NEVER leaves someone.IT ONLY WALKS AWAY when it is TOLD TO WALK AWAY.BUT in their heart they will love you forever wether you believe them or dont see it DOESNT change the FACT that it is still there.
sam shively

Brooksville, KY

#11 Jun 29, 2012
In today's world people get a little bored and start thinking the grass is greener somewhere else. They start thinking they deserve more in their life. When you're thinking about yourself all the time notions like that stay in your head. Next thing you know, you've got a broken family, abandoned children, and seperate homes. I'm starting to think, in this ME generation, marriage may be a bad idea.
sam shively

Brooksville, KY

#12 Jun 29, 2012
marriage is 4 squares
To Sam

United States

#13 Jun 29, 2012
Sam Shively what do u mean marriage is four squares?I dont get it.
True

United States

#14 Jun 29, 2012
If this is #1MW that wrote previous comments.I am so sooorry that I appeared to be clingly and selfish.Being clingly and selfish was the farthest thing from my mind.I though that would make you happy me liking you so much.I am willing to give you AUTONOMY on your job and in your personal life.I was trying to imply along that I wanted you to be in CONTROL because I DID NOT want to appear clingly and selfish.I HOPE I have PROVED out to you in this past year and a half.I rose to your honor and defended you even when I am not in your life.I hope that shows you I am not selfish and that I really LOVE YOU.I LOVE YOU I NEED YOU in my life.PLEASE dont give up on me.DYED IN THE WOOL=REAL LOVE.
herman

Richmond, KY

#15 Jun 29, 2012
I think sam meant not hip, not cool, for squares. But you probably knew that.
True

United States

#16 Jun 29, 2012
I didnt know that, I thought it meant,marriage is like a Box.You are in a boxed in relationship.By him saying marriage is 4 squares,but I just wasnt sure.
herman

Richmond, KY

#17 Jun 29, 2012
It could be that too. When people first meet they are attracted to each other for some reason. Then, when they are together for awhile, it's like, no, I don't want you to do that anymore. You shouldn't hang around with those people anymore. You need to quit what you're doing. I want you to do this. And it goes on and on. Pretty soon you DO have a box around you.
One of the things that attracts me about a woman is that she is independent and capable. But after we are together awhile, all of the sudden she can't do anything on her own. She needs help with everything.
I shouldn't get on here and blab. Maybe I'm using it for therapy or something. But I don't think it's helping.
True

United States

#18 Jun 29, 2012
If this is not #1MW plaque 2007 then I am not interested in continuing this conversation.The person I am talking about will KNOW what #1MW plaque 2007 means.They are the one I was directing ALL my TRUE comments towards,they are the one's I was wanting to TALK too.
herman

Richmond, KY

#19 Jun 30, 2012
I had no intention of conversing with anyone directly. Like I said, I'm mostly talking to myself or thinking out loud. But I think I'm better now.
blow

Clay City, KY

#22 Jul 2, 2012
for better or for worse through thick and thin till death do us part remember those words before you say i do people

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